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Ca88andra
Thank you. There will be ample opportunity over the next couple of weeks or so.
posted by
malcolm
on December 21, 2005 at 9:24 AM
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babe_rocks
I think you're right, so long as he knows the channel is open for when he does. Thanks for your comment
posted by
malcolm
on December 21, 2005 at 9:23 AM
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avant-garde
Thank you for your comment. We're monitoring and, as you say, he certainly knows we're there in a supportive and totally non-confrontational way.
posted by
malcolm
on December 21, 2005 at 9:22 AM
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Original_Influence
Thanks - there is a little girl who he is very fond of and, I think, more than reciprocated. I think this and leaving primary school have all got mixed up in his head.
posted by
malcolm
on December 21, 2005 at 9:21 AM
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BrightIrish
What a great suggestion - thanks. We might well do this. He seems a little happier now he is on holiday and caught up with his sleep a bit too.
posted by
malcolm
on December 21, 2005 at 9:20 AM
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malcolm.....just a thought, but have you considered the possibility that he
likes a girl at school who does not reciprocate the feeling? I went through something like this with my young son. Apparently the girl he liked was extrememly controlling and mean. He was irritable and sad looking all the time...for about 3 weeks. It was difficult, but I stopped asking him what was wrong, ony to upset him more. I changed tactics and started to do random nice things for him...like a candy bar that I know he loves, doing one of his chores for him...just little things that let him know I was there and cared. Good luck with your son.
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Original_Influence
on December 20, 2005 at 4:26 AM
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Malcolm
Hello, As a parent we can sense when something isn't right and Not Knowing sets our minds in many directions. Since it is so close to the New year, you might ask all the children to write down what is bothering them the most, promise to keep it a secret and tell them that you want this to be a wonderful year for them and together you will work on their problem to find a solution. Most children like the secret stuff and having the attention all to themselves. Just a suggestion.. I'm sure you will find a way to reach him.
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BrightIrish
on December 17, 2005 at 7:32 PM
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malcolm
Your worries are not unfounded. He's agitated for a reason, and if you let him know you're there, maybe he'll let you in on what's bothering him. Best of luck with him.
posted by
avant-garde
on December 17, 2005 at 7:15 PM
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I wouldn't ask him outright what is wrong, but maybe give him the opportunity to talk. Take him somewhere, just the two of you. If he appears out of sorts with his sister, then maybe she really is getting on his nerves? Sometimes siblings just don't get on for awhile.
posted by
Ca88andra
on December 17, 2005 at 2:11 AM
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l think it's impossible to guess what's on another person's mind until they choose to tell.
posted by
babe_rocks
on December 16, 2005 at 9:48 AM
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