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Majroj, I loved the description "malignantly punctillious". I've met ...
some folk like that. The most unfortunate case was on my first day back at work after being off for a year after major illness. I was starting over having had to let all my prestigious assignments slip away and she reduced me to a scrap. The person last week even had the same name....
The learning experiences you describe also relate to the procress of seeking commissions for stories. The ideas are not taken up "more in sorrow than in anger", because "the idea isn't up to it although it works just fine elsewhere. Meanwhile, they take so long to decide that the idea passes its use-by date.
posted by
Azur
on November 29, 2005 at 12:52 PM
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I agree it is magnificent Brisbane artist. I have met such people
posted by
Azur
on November 27, 2005 at 8:56 PM
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malignantly punctillious
"malignantly punctillious" that is delicious.
posted by
brisbane_artist
on November 27, 2005 at 4:45 PM
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One must have an internal "litmus test"
as to whether she is a bully, indecisive, or just malignantly punctillious. There has to be a point (pun unintended) where she says "yes" or "no" rather than just leading folks around by the nose, either by design or through indecision or cultural/psychological reserve.
I have had bad learning experiences (not currently) where there is always something ("The Roseanna Rosannadana Principle", thanks Gilda Radner) to keep a positive , or any, decision at bay; these usually result in the "learner" eventually being told, "more in sorrow than in anger", that the work either (a.) "just wasn't good enough despite our efforts", (b.) has become irreleveant or passed a due date, or (c.) "I guess you just aren't ready for collaborative work".
posted by
majroj
on November 27, 2005 at 7:11 AM
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Turning the apparent
negative into a definite positive is the way to go. Good luck with it.
posted by
malcolm
on November 27, 2005 at 6:02 AM
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Any humble person and honest one will find nothing in criticism. Criticism in my own personal case has been of great help.One reason why I write is because, my written English in my opinion is not very good. But the improvement came when I decided that, all scripts that I write for my station, I give it to a colleague to read. And in my spare time I write on any topic that comes up in my mind. All these just to improve. Your post is very interesting and people like you are really needed in here. Cheers
posted by
Flame-thrower
on November 27, 2005 at 5:05 AM
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Very glad to read your comments. I have noted your concern and recommendations with great interest. However, if you can, read the current post, therein you will find what you pointed out. That is, explaining why subsidies are not very good. Anyway,because of the length, I have cut it into two parts. Hopefully you shall like it. I must confess that, it is not often to find a reader like you who places the bar so high as you have done with my posts. I do really like that, for it forces me to be serious in what I am doing, more so because, I want to make it into a compilation that will be published in a book called Strictly Speaking. I really will be glad to hear from you.Once again, thank you and may God Bless.
posted by
Flame-thrower
on November 27, 2005 at 4:41 AM
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Good for you
You could have taken it all to be a negative instead you found a positive use for it and for that you will write a better article for that paper the next time.
posted by
Bel_
on November 26, 2005 at 10:20 PM
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New Yorker in Sicily, when you say.....
"sometimes when people who are hell-bent on their art are faced with something potentially better coming from someone else they will do anything in their power to make you look like an idiot" .. you are correct. So have I.
posted by
Azur
on November 26, 2005 at 8:34 PM
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Me too Tapsel-T but I'm getting better at concealing it :-)
posted by
Azur
on November 26, 2005 at 8:32 PM
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MayB, I hate to admit it but, not very well I'm afraid. I can always feel myself getting hot around the collar.
posted by
TAPS.
on November 26, 2005 at 7:57 PM
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one thing I have learned
in my quasi-40 year life is that, for some sick reason, sometimes people criticize you because they fear you. I'm not saying that it applies to your entry but sometimes when people who are hell-bent on their art are faced with something potentially better coming from someone else they will do anything in their power to make you look like an idiot. The best thing in these cases is to start out with big broad shoulders to handle any type of criticism - be it constructive or otherwise - and try to develop a sense of who's sincere and who's not.
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 26, 2005 at 4:09 PM
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Mayb,
As always, I think the tone of criticism has a lot to do with how well it is received. You obviously took it well; had you not received it well, I'm sure you and the editor would not have ended the episode so amicably.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 26, 2005 at 3:31 PM
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I think I'm similar in that my initial reaction is to get frustrated
I make the adjustment though :-)...On the other hand, I have only had one experience with a professional editor and it was kind of exciting being fixed by a pro.
posted by
CunningLinguist
on November 26, 2005 at 3:27 PM
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Lovelyladymonk, I am quite sure some of my students were ticked off too. Sometimes it is a shock initially as it was for me this week
posted by
Azur
on November 26, 2005 at 3:18 PM
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Hi MayB,
I have to say that the critism I received for my first assignment from my newset instructor ticked me off quite a bit, but I ususally welcome it so long as there's good reason behind it.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on November 26, 2005 at 3:12 PM
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