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New Yorker In Sicily,
Nah, I can't take credit for that one. That's been around for a while, but it still cracks me up.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 22, 2005 at 6:45 PM
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Well,
techincally...they ARE want ads...the want is just, ehm, different...
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 22, 2005 at 6:42 PM
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Denial is not just a river
in Egypt...GOOD ONE!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 22, 2005 at 6:41 PM
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Want Ads
Love the use of the phrase. With respect to the personals I agree why advertise the fact that you are really screwd up.
posted by
Comedian
on November 20, 2005 at 5:04 PM
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"Denial is not just a river in Egypt." I love that quote. I have lived with that in my own family. I spent years of my life thinking, "If only my mother knew the truth about my stepfather, she would wake up and do something about her life." He didn't cheat (that I know of), but he drank and was very sarcastic and belittling. It infuriated me to watch it, but I was helpless to stop it.
The sad thing is when these women sell themselves short for a "secure" lifestyle that is anything but, and soulless, too. Something happens to them, substituting the material wellbeing in the marriage for real love, companionship. The children, too. It is a cold reality.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 18, 2005 at 7:26 PM
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What puzzles me even more
is that there are women out there married to types like this...and are either totally clueless or live in their little imaginary worlds, thinking it will all go away...it won't. Cold hard fact.
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 18, 2005 at 7:02 PM
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New Yorker,
Ugh. I hear people say all the time, that they can't understand how a woman can get mixed up with a married man, she should know better, etc., but there are men who are very, very clever (maybe not even consciously) at "working" a woman's emotions. I"ve run into some of them, usually at work, they are sniffing for weakness, vulnerability, etc.
Along the lines of "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus", I have learned repeatedly how goal-oriented men are when it comes to sex, very clever at recognizing "types" of women who may be susceptible to their charm, and categorizing us according to the type of relationship they would plan to have: wife material, one night stand, etc. The one that infuriates me is to hear men discussing a woman's particular emotional vultnerabilities and how best ot capitalize on them. I feel for your friend, I'll bet he fed her a whole line of b.s. and now that she's hooked, he'll just keep reeling in the line until she gets sick and tired of it, maybe has to move to another city, or whatever to get over it. Blech.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 18, 2005 at 6:34 PM
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HA!
Separated - another good one! How come when you meet someone who is "separated" they feed you lines like "I don't know how it's gonna end up with my wife, she left me", etc, but then after you sleep with them it's like, "well, I'm trying to work things out with my wife now - you know, for the kids' sake"etc. ? I know this all too well because a dear friend of mine is stuck in a situation like this - and she is in agony. I told her to dump him, pronto. She still won't see the light....
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 18, 2005 at 6:19 PM
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New Yorker,
Definitely a "live and learn" situation. Another lesson: "separated" is a very flexible word. It can mean "geographically separated", or "I'm still not over my spouse, but we're having a fight and she moved out but I'd take her back if she walked in". How people justify their own behavior never ceases to amaze me.
You are so right, his wife didn't exactly have a peach of a husband. As for the abbreviations, it's mind-boggling. We have "The Stranger" here in Seattle, reading the personals there is an education in the bizarre. I don't know that I really want to know what it all means.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 18, 2005 at 6:10 PM
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I always say to myself....I made a mistake? I was naiive? So what - I had to start somewhere. The idiot may have broken your heart, but be thankful your not the poor woman he comes home to.
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 18, 2005 at 6:05 PM
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New Yorker,
I keep wondering. I was so naiive, and this wasn't that long ago, but it never occurred to me to check to see if someone who answered an ad was married, but from what I hear now, it's pretty common. I always thought that hiring a private investigator to check out a potential date sounded cynical and unromantic. But now, I can understand why someone would consider it. He broke my heart, the schmuck.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 18, 2005 at 6:01 PM
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Ah well Blanche,
live and learn. Too bad there are too many guys out there - even those who don't take out ads -that seem to "forget" they're married. How long before the charade backfires on them?
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 18, 2005 at 5:54 PM
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New Yorker,
Yes, well, when it comes to personal ads, I'd say "caveat emptor". I once spent a summer answering and placing personal ads (this was long ago in a galaxy far, far away). The only one I ended up dating, forgot (woops) to mention he was married. And, I found that there was a whole lot of wishful thinking, "good sense of humor", (not), it's like calling yourself "humble", it's kind of an oxymoron.
Thank God, I'm off the market. It's a jungle out there. LOL.
posted by
Blanche.
on November 18, 2005 at 5:47 PM
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When things sound too perfect.....run while you still can. There's something utterly wrong under a sugar-coated facade....
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 18, 2005 at 5:38 PM
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Well, I guess it's good to want things,
but that guy isn't realistic. He's shallow and cheap(that's how people stay wealthy). You are so right about this guy. Besides, what kind of girl would answer an ad to a guy with such high expectations? Talk about pressure. I'd rather date a nice guy. Ofcourse, I married a nice guy, so I would know. Funny blog
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on November 18, 2005 at 5:23 PM
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I liked the living with his mother part
that's what you get most of the time here in Italy!
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 18, 2005 at 4:45 PM
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Unattractive, broke, hairy, smelly alcoholic living with his mother seeks slightly retarded, mute supermodel with acute nymphomania for meaningful relationship.
Yeah, it's not an exact science. Good read, NewYorker
posted by
CunningLinguist
on November 18, 2005 at 3:24 PM
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