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Oh I see now Witchflower. Thanks
posted by
jollyjeff
on November 18, 2005 at 11:17 AM
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Oh, sorry
Awkward phrasing. I meant that you will feel better more than you feel worse. Does that make more sense? Like improving in steps rather than all at once. I hope so, anyway.
posted by
Witchflower
on November 18, 2005 at 11:09 AM
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Thanks Divine 1
It's making me a stronger person
posted by
jollyjeff
on November 18, 2005 at 7:21 AM
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Thanks New Yorker in Sicily
sounds like a very similar situation. My father tells me to throw myself into my work. I'm not even capable of doing my work right now, let alone throw myself into it.
posted by
jollyjeff
on November 18, 2005 at 7:20 AM
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Yes jojostar
I do work at social services and your description was right on the money. I always tell people that my job is very stressful, but on the other hand it does pay quite poorly so it evens out.
I think very shortly though this opportunity I have with American Greetings will have me out of Social Services for good.
posted by
jollyjeff
on November 18, 2005 at 7:14 AM
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Wow. What a load to carry.
posted by
Divine_1
on November 17, 2005 at 8:58 PM
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Jeff,
take things at your own pace - your health comes first and foremost. I know where you are coming from cause my own mother gave me hell when I didn't want to work. She thought that work "would take a lot off my mind" but how would that happen if I didn't even want to get out of bed? I know she was saying it "for my own good" but sometimes mothers don't understand when they come on like an 18-wheeler, and often do more harm than good. Trust your own instincts...and hang in there.
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on November 17, 2005 at 4:17 PM
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Jeff
I hope that the medication continues to work! The ADA is a wonderful thing. Don't you work in social services or something similar? That's what I do too and it can be so draining and stressful and there is never any hope of actually making a decent living. Lol! I'm doing an excellent job of cheering you up huh?
posted by
jojostar
on November 17, 2005 at 4:04 PM
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I lost you at the end there Witchflower
"better more often than not?" I don't follow.
posted by
jollyjeff
on November 17, 2005 at 2:32 PM
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Good for you, Jeff,
for standing up to your mom. As a mom myself, I've learned over the years (and am still learning and trying to remind myself) that mothers often don't realize what a strong force they are. She probably thinks she's helping you, when in reality, it has a dramatic opposite effect. I'm a daughter, too, and I cringe when we're on our weekly telephone call, and my mother says, "So, how's your diet going?" I want to scream, first of all, then tell her if I lose a dramatic amount of weight, it will be noticeable. Reminding me every week that she doesn't like or accept the part of me that is my weight is not helpful. Sometimes you just have to go to a zen space and let it roll off of you.
You have a good outlook and understanding of people's influences, and I hope you will soon see that you are better more often than not. No pressure, though, just friendly encouragement.
posted by
Witchflower
on November 17, 2005 at 2:05 PM
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