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Well done!
posted by
Original_Influence
on October 16, 2005 at 8:17 PM
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Ms N
Thank you....that is so appreciated.
posted by
Krisles
on October 16, 2005 at 6:10 PM
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Great writing...
wonderful thoughts.
posted by
Transcendental_Child
on October 16, 2005 at 4:21 PM
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Tapsel
That's exactly the point of my post....I've not only had it on the job but in my personal life, as well; starting with my best friend getting killed when I was 16. And then, two years ago, my best friend's son was thrown from the car he was driving when another reached for something falling off the seat and crossed the center line; my friend's son wasn't belted and was ejected, ending up under his Jeep, losing his right brain. At 24, he's completely dependent on his mother again; and she has a child on her hands again. It is in the blink of an eye. I've seen families wiped out on I-435 so many times over the years by cars crossing across that wide grassy median - it's amazing.....anytime, anywhere, anyone. Thanks for reading and adding your comment.
posted by
Krisles
on October 16, 2005 at 2:04 PM
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Krisles, As I read your post, I could not help but think of certain friends that I have known whose lives were snuffed out in a moment of time leaving bewildered and unbelieving/unaccepting husbands and children and parents and friends. I cannot help but think when I am driving on an undivided highway that death is only inches away and separated only by a yellow line. Death is ever with us and should cause us to appreciate life and to make it count while we have it.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 16, 2005 at 1:47 PM
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Medusa
Knowing how you felt about your dad, that puts a lump in mine...and is about as big a compliment as I've ever gotten...thank you so very much.
posted by
Krisles
on October 16, 2005 at 1:33 PM
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Juicy post, Krisles...and I don't mean sexy, in this case....
Your piece was chock full of lessons about life. It was rich with good thoughts and tragic edges filled in. This post sounded like my late father had written it. He was always stressing to be thankful for life's little things. You gave me a lump in my throat, so bravo to you!
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on October 16, 2005 at 1:22 PM
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johnmcnab
You humble me, sir.....thank you, so very much. I always appreciate it when you stop by...but that is a very special compliment indeed!
posted by
Krisles
on October 16, 2005 at 7:56 AM
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Lensman
I'm not surprised you feel that way. I guess I think about it as often as I do because of the business I was in....sort of goes with the territory. When my own experience came, it really could have been a negative thing in a way.....I was so completely content and peaceful, letting it happen, versus fighting it....I've often wondered if, had I been by myself, without those wonderful medical people there literally pulling me back...well, I scared the stuff out of my mother when I told her about that...she's a fighter, and I sounded much too placid and mellow about the whole thing to suit her. It was just a very odd experience....put a knife to my throat and I'd fight to the absolute death....but, that was a very peaceful experience....and I simply did not mind because I was caught up in the experience. And, thanks for the thumbs up!
posted by
Krisles
on October 16, 2005 at 7:55 AM
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Krisles
Your comment ......'
Choosing to be an unhappy person........
and don't tell me it's not a choice........everyone has good and bad days..........but a whole attitude, that's a choice.' should be included in a book of inspirational quotes, Krisles. I for one will always remember it; thank you.
posted by
johnmacnab
on October 15, 2005 at 7:39 PM
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Krisles
It's a wonderment for all of us, this awareness that life will end. It's very easy to push it to the backs of our minds in favour of all the mundane day-to-day minutia, but when it intrudes, boy, it can be quite the occasion for soul-searching. Logic butts in and says, "I am, therefore I eventually won't be." To believe or at least have a strong hunch that life continues in another, better, form is probably what causes a person to feel peaceful when faced with the inevitable. I often wonder what thought process an athiest goes through when faced with oblivion. Maybe resignation. Anyway, great, great post
posted by
Lensman
on October 15, 2005 at 5:43 PM
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Offbeat
I love you, too! And you are a hero to me...in many ways, but especially in terms of attitude. And Maggie, too....growing up with that aunt like she did! Whoa!
posted by
Krisles
on October 15, 2005 at 5:27 PM
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Krisles,
I do relate and yes, I have heard a few people mention that when faced with possible death, they felt peaceful. I'm not afraid of death cause I know and believe 99.95% what awaits for my spirit when this life is over. I think many people aren't really afraid of
dying, per se, but afraid of the leading up to the actual death part. Like being in pain, the anticipation of dying, seeing loved ones sad, etc.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 15, 2005 at 4:36 PM
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Kris
This is a wonderful story you have written. Your a wonderful person to feel like you do. I love you!
posted by
Offy
on October 15, 2005 at 4:21 PM
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Argus
I appreciate that very much.....perspective is the very thing I think we all have to keep. Thanks so much for reading...
posted by
Krisles
on October 15, 2005 at 4:20 PM
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Queen
Thank you.....as always, you are so sweet and make me feel so good...what would I do without you?
posted by
Krisles
on October 15, 2005 at 4:17 PM
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Kris, Great attitude -- puts things into perspective!
posted by
ARGUS
on October 15, 2005 at 3:36 PM
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KRIS
As always......what awesome stories you have to tell, unforgetable. Thanks for sharing.
posted by
ALWAYSALOVER
on October 15, 2005 at 8:43 AM
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Hemlocker
Thank you. Clinical depression is not what I am talking about here, not at all. There's a big difference between having chemical imbalances like bi-polar/schizo-effective or schizophrenia/depression, etc., and having a plain old bad attitude. I've been married for 27 years to a man with several mental illnesses, clinical depression overlaying all of them....hospitalized several times, and on disability because of them for many years now. I know that life is not a choice, Hemlocker....believe me....I know it well; and I know it is very painful. I'm not talking about that....I'm talking about attitudes and the resulting behaviors that are purely based on choices....there is a difference.
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 9:27 PM
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Krisles--
This is a lovely piece of writing, and the expression of a positive outlook on life. I heard something once sort of like "If you can keep your head while everyone around you is losing theirs (sometimes literally), you don't understand the situation." The power of self-esteem (perhaps you can call it good attitude) cannot be underestimated. The major depression I've dealt with since early childhood, however, is not a choice. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on October 14, 2005 at 9:08 PM
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SpitFire70
Thank you, so much. I'm 0-, a Universal Donor, and situations like yours' are exactly why I try to give as often as I can.......have you found that most folks you'[ve talked to experienced that same peaceful feeling...and have no fear of death because of it? I'm not surprised you relate to the perspective here....from the way you talk about animals.
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 8:55 PM
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Krisles,
I often do what you described as far as thinking and wondering about people who are and were in my life. I also almost died in 1998, but not due to an accident. I got really sick and wound up in ICU. Couldn't get a blood transfusion cause the city was very short on O+ blood. I remember feeling very content with death. The only thing I was kinda pissed about was that I was only 28 years old and still had stuff I didn't accomplish yet. Great post.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 14, 2005 at 6:53 PM
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Blackcat
I'm glad you do....you definitely have the right attitude from what I can tell..... and I know your family is so important to you....and that you have your relationship with Luke....remember to keep that balance plan in focus on the job...end of year, isn't it? I don't want your health to suffer at that place with those hours you're working. You're so young now your body is forgiving in terms of taking it....but it's "remembering" on the inside....I found that out. Of course, like I said...you're so much smarter than I was....you probably get enough sleep and work out....eat right....all that healthy stuff! I abused and took for granted....whoa! Payback is hell!
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 6:13 PM
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BrightIrish
Thank you, so much! And you're very right...it did come from my heart...I'm very passionate about these things...I almost feel like I owe passion to those people whose lost lives I "witnessed" in a way. Thank you for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 6:07 PM
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Quirky
Thank you, so much. And I didn't mean that depression and sadness are easily kicked aside, or to sound flip about them...I've seen you make the choice to turn loose of pointless anger and turn away from pettiness...that's the sort of thing I was talking about. Believe me, I know there is no magic bullet...and dealing with all that is part of living, too....but, choosing to go on and to continue to look for light instead of dark....that's what I'm talking about...
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 6:04 PM
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kris... life is good. I appreciate the little things more than anything.
posted by
-blackcat
on October 14, 2005 at 6:04 PM
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Krisles...
Such a wonderful post and it is easy to sense that it really comes from your heart.
posted by
BrightIrish
on October 14, 2005 at 6:02 PM
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Cunning
Yes, life is beautiful...and I know you get it, too. There's always hope that people will get in touch with the joy of it....I do believe it's there in the hearts of all, that they are born with it...and that it just gets stomped on, covered up. buried over by a lot of shitty people that many are unfortunate enough to come in contact with early in life...but I don't believe it's ever completely destroyed...I believe it is divinely planted and that it cannot be destroyed...but that the crap has to pushed away from within.....sometimes with some help from without...but it can always be done...if the desire is there.
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 5:59 PM
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FLIGHTPATH
Wow....as I am by your comment.....that makes me feel so good. Thank you so very much for your generous words. I feel passionately about this....I'm glad it came through; you obviously are in touch with these feelings, too.
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 5:53 PM
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ariel70
Thank you....I appreciate that. And I agree with your comment....everyone has it, in their heart; I think growth is often about learning to get in touch with and embrace that part of ourselves.
posted by
Krisles
on October 14, 2005 at 5:52 PM
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This was a most excellent post. I understand and agree with what you are saying. However, I think that Yes, life is for the living, and for living to the fullest--and no one should sweat the small stuff...but for some of us it isn't that easy--despite "wanting" to live fully, there's no magic bullet to lift my feet out of the muck they're mired in. Still, I keep trying--I mean, what are my options?
Very nice post!!
posted by
Julia.
on October 14, 2005 at 3:39 PM
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Man, there's some people I'd like to show this to...
but they probably wouldn't pay attention anyway. That's the problem, people don't pay attention. People like you -- do. And you get it for that reason. Simple appreciation. Life is beautiful.
posted by
CunningLinguist
on October 14, 2005 at 3:10 PM
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Krisles-i'm speechless, eyes tear blurred... can only say, READ THIS !
posted by
reasons
on October 14, 2005 at 3:03 PM
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Krisles
It's called spirituality, my dear, and everyone has it. Or should do, because if the don't they're only half alive.
Lovely post. Thank you
posted by
ariel70
on October 14, 2005 at 2:32 PM
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