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jacenta,
I gotcha. I agree. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings if not justified.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 13, 2005 at 12:48 PM
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SpitFire70,
Sometimes, what I feel about a certain situation or person I keep to myself. I wouldn't want to hurt someone unneccesarily. Different spokes for different spokes. I think you can even love someone, but not necessarily enjoy being with them, because of negative attitudes they hold. Who am I to say, over and over, "You shouldn't feel or think that way." Someone who is totally pessimistic can influence our own moods. If I were totally honest with them and said what I feel, each time I see them, it would only add to the problem, it wouldn't change the way they see their world. It would cause them to feel just a little more sad. Do you understand what I am trying to express?
posted by
jacentaOld
on October 12, 2005 at 6:25 PM
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Offbeats,
Geez, I don't wanna be the reason for any hurt feelings! (Just don't tell anyone where you got the "new tude" K?)
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 12, 2005 at 5:47 PM
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JJ,
That excuse ain't gonna fly anymore. Kitty Lippers' needle teeth fell out a few months ago. Nice try. Besides, just buy some new pants, huh?
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 12, 2005 at 5:45 PM
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J-Mum,
Thanks for coming by. (This is really just a humor post, ya know!)
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 12, 2005 at 5:43 PM
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Rabbit,
I know. I think many people are more content with staying in a bad relationship (in denial) than being "back out there."
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 12, 2005 at 5:42 PM
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Spiffy
It is really a hell of a lot harder than it sounds...I worry about hurting feelings, but since I read this post, I am a changed woman! From now on I am telling them all to "F*+k OFF" Thanks for bringing this to my attention!!!
posted by
Offy
on October 12, 2005 at 4:43 AM
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Spitfar,
It's not you...it's your dog. I can't afford any more cell phones and I don't like to have to play TV sentry when you channel surf. Besides, my pants legs have all been shredded by needle teeth. I just can't go on that way.
jj
posted by
Jack_Flash
on October 12, 2005 at 3:10 AM
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Spitfire
I was here~just don't know how I feel on this one yet.BB
posted by
Justi
on October 12, 2005 at 2:26 AM
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>:-} aaah if only it were so easy... but we have to ''be nice'' lest we
"hurt someone's feelings" . Excuse me but their feelings are going to be hurt anyhow. Problem is most folks just don't really know when to leave well enough alone, or how to tell when a relationship just isn't going anywhere.
posted by
wiserabbit
on October 11, 2005 at 6:54 PM
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Factor,
Funny you should mention Seinfeld. In Chicago, all my friends and co-workers nicknamed me Elaine. Not cause I look like her, but I guess cause we have the same mannerisms.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 11, 2005 at 6:03 PM
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yeah, you missed your calling as a writer for Seinfeld...
but maybe "the timing just wasn't right." Hehe.
posted by
FactorFiction
on October 11, 2005 at 11:42 AM
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Rach,
Um, I don't think you telling people "no" is a recent problem! I think it's always been a problem for you. I understand, though. Even though I am a bit more, what's the word? I guess blunt? But I do admit, I have a hard time saying no.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 10, 2005 at 6:35 PM
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Wait, Medusa, what do you mean by when you're serving
the el cheapo vodka? I don't get it!
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 10, 2005 at 6:32 PM
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Hammock,
Sometimes I think it's better to be honest and sometimes it's best to be honest but in a gentle manner. I think it depends on each situation and the person.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 10, 2005 at 6:30 PM
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Aw, muser!
That sucks. I'm sure she's long forgotten even though you haven't. Hmm, maybe that made you think twice about saying certain things to people after that.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 10, 2005 at 6:29 PM
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lol
As I get older, I find it a lot easier to just tell it like it is. Sometimes, I think I go a bit too far. I've realized that my time is a lot more important than saving someone from the facts. Although lately, I've sucked at just coming right out and telling people no... argh.
posted by
RachelAnna
on October 10, 2005 at 1:14 PM
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Very funny, you clever Aries SpitFire woman!
But I'm more like Tapsel-T, although, not That nice, but I try to be diplomatic, except when I'm serving mean girls the el cheapo vodka......
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on October 10, 2005 at 8:14 AM
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I agree with you 100 Percent.
I'm a completely up front, and honest person. I think lots of people actually prefer to be lied to.
posted by
Hammock_Noweilz
on October 10, 2005 at 6:32 AM
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When I was ten years old, a classmate asked me why I didn't want to be her
best friend...I told her the truth. She burst into tears and ran home. I will never forget the hurt look on her face...
posted by
muser
on October 10, 2005 at 2:06 AM
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T,
The music of Fat Boy Slim is blaring through my headphones right now, so I can barely hear myself think, but I was responding to thinking you were talking about the pic due to fwmystic's comment and yours to follow. Whatever. Who gives a crap. Regardless, I'm feeling really rebellious and crazy right now. Must be the awesome tunes blaring through my head right now. Woo Hoo! I should be in bed! Fuck it, though. I am SO sick of being in pain that I am lashing out with music. Hmmm, drown out the outside world with heavy, loud, screaming music might help drown out the physical pain!
(**praying it might, at least!**)
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 10, 2005 at 12:17 AM
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Well I thought since I was in your comments....
You'd think I was responding to, like, I don't know, your last comment, dork! And I said "down there" like, on the page. ...geez..
posted by
Temple
on October 9, 2005 at 10:51 PM
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Temple,
Well, shit, Girl! You gotta be more specific with your questions and comments! You're too vague for me sometimes. So, like, I dunno what the hell I was squashing! Whatever it was, it was IN MY WAY!
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 10:42 PM
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No silly girl...
I meant in the emoticon you left for me....was it a bug? a catapillar? I know what you were squashing in the pic looking all come hither... ;)
posted by
Temple
on October 9, 2005 at 10:14 PM
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avant,
Even though this post is mostly in humor, you do make a great point! Thanks for reading!
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 4:03 PM
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spitfire
What you've said is true. It's hard to be honest when you believe you're hurting someone. But, isn't it more hurtful to lie? Good post.
posted by
avant-garde
on October 9, 2005 at 3:27 PM
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MayB, I think you're right.
Insecurities play a big part.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 3:10 PM
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Oh, JESUS, Mark!!
Nightmares. Guaranteed nightmares....
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 3:09 PM
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Sometimes, usually, both people are as screwed as each other of course. And sometimes people will say anything just to shift the blame from them so I think that people have to take into account the motivations for people saying stuff -- insecurities etc
posted by
Azur
on October 9, 2005 at 1:51 PM
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You know why you adore me. My wit, my charm...
...my devilishly beguiling good looks.
Come to the King.....
posted by
mark2556
on October 9, 2005 at 1:47 PM
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Very true, Taps! And no, I couldn't see you being mean
to anyone like that.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 1:46 PM
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Spitfire, I'm afraid that it just isn't in me to be that "honest". I always feel a need to soften the blows and cliches help in that way. I do think that most people get the idea even from a cliche. Those who don't wouldn't get it if you hit them on the head with a sledgehammer.
posted by
TAPS.
on October 9, 2005 at 12:47 PM
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Hi Brimstone!
How the hell are ya? Well, so you used that last one in high school, huh? Well, Strat is considering trying it out but is fearful of losing Big Jim and the Twins if things go wrong. Maybe you can give him a few pointers?
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:11 PM
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Cass, you? Definitely. Me? Mmm, well,
95% of the time.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:09 PM
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Krisles, I hope that milk didn't ruin your laptop!
Those are so expensive! Maybe I should add a disclaimer or warning before certain posts? Sowwy! I'm flattered and glad ya liked it though I don't mean to cause any distruction. No sense crying over spilled milk.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:08 PM
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Strat,
Please deliver it correctly if you use it! I'd hate to have to visit you in the hospital feelin' all guilty n' stuff.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:06 PM
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Temple,
It took me a minute to understand what the hell you were talking about there. I wasn't squashing anything (as far as you guys know.) No, really, I had just finished doing a reading and was sitting with C. She wanted to take my pic with her new digital camera. I was being kinda sheepish (me? Yep.) and I had my hands crossed on my knees. Don't know why. Like I told mystic, that pic is almost 5 years old.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:05 PM
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Aw, shucks, Mystic!
Who paid you to say that? Actually, I changed the pic from the last one cause it may have been just my computer screen, but I looked a bit like an Oompa Loompa. All orangy n' stuff. This pic is about 5 years old, too. But thank you!
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:02 PM
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blackcat,
Yeah! That's more like it!
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:00 PM
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Ariala,
Well, if they're true, then you're really being honest. Seriously, I think people
know when they're being bullshitted or not, ya know? But sometimes, the cliche's are true. It's when they're used as a quick "out" is when it gets old!
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 12:00 PM
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You're killing me, Mark. You know that, don't you?
So how come I still adore you so much?
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 9, 2005 at 11:58 AM
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Spitfire
I remember being a teenager and that last example you gave was my bread and butter throughout high school!
posted by
bwFrampton
on October 9, 2005 at 3:52 AM
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I suppose we are too concerned about being polite and diplomatic to be honest.
posted by
Ca88andra
on October 9, 2005 at 12:07 AM
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Spitfire
I'm with Strat...that's one of the funniest things I've ever read....I lost my bedtime glass of milk all over my laptop....and then forwarded a copy to my daughter. You are a comic genius!
posted by
Krisles
on October 8, 2005 at 11:59 PM
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"I’d give up food and water for a week just to fuck you."
Line of the week, Young Miss. Still LMAO!!!
Actually, I think that one just might work for me. If I show up here tomorrow night with a big shiner and Lorena Bobbitt slash near my nether regions, you'll know it wasn't your line, it was my delivery...
posted by
strat
on October 8, 2005 at 11:40 PM
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mystic, always and forever.....
the horndog.
posted by
Temple
on October 8, 2005 at 9:00 PM
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wait, I like blackcat's answer....
...lol...Spiffy, what is that thing you're squashing down there? too funny....I only love you for your bodacious ta-tas too....can
we cuddle?
posted by
Temple
on October 8, 2005 at 8:59 PM
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Here's honesty ...
that picture of you on this blog is hot, hot, hot!
posted by
fwmystic
on October 8, 2005 at 8:05 PM
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LOL... it's not you, it's me that just doesn't like you anymore....
better? LOL
posted by
-blackcat
on October 8, 2005 at 6:33 PM
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What if the cliches are true? LOL
posted by
Ariala
on October 8, 2005 at 6:29 PM
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"I'll never do it again."
Whoop. I love you. Like, for your mind, not your bodacious ta-ta's. Let's get in bed and just cuddle.
posted by
mark2556
on October 8, 2005 at 6:24 PM
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Aw, come on now, Sass!
Sassy Ass is saying this? Come on! The meaner the better! JC, Woman! I'm kidding. This is all in humorous fun. You know me better than that!
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 8, 2005 at 6:13 PM
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Libertine,
I know, but really, there is a tactful approach to every situation. Finding the right words is key.
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 8, 2005 at 6:11 PM
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Being outspoken is one thing
being down right mean is another. I do believe that the truth can be said without being mean, but the trouble is that people don't want the truth when it comes to a direct personal attack, and the repercussions of telling them how you really feel could be deadly.
posted by
Sherri_G
on October 8, 2005 at 6:03 PM
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While I can understand wanting to "soften the blow," so to speak, I do find dishonest cliches a bit hard to take. Still, I'm not sure how I'd react if I got the honest to goodness truth!!
posted by
Holy_Grail
on October 8, 2005 at 5:41 PM
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T,
posted by
SpitFire70
on October 8, 2005 at 5:41 PM
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Um, no.
Sometimes being nice is okay, you big meanie. :p
posted by
Temple
on October 8, 2005 at 5:30 PM
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