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I'm SO glad I've unearthed such pleasant reveries!
posted by
majroj
on October 5, 2005 at 9:25 PM
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Oh, Maj, you reminded me of something....
My mom was really sick early into her marriage to my dad which ended for many good reasons. He popped in on her and told her to not worry about the kitchen work. She was sick. She was so happy that he was finally "getting it". He quickly added that she could just do it the next day.
I have always thought the nurturing thing comes naturally for people. The husband who just took off always got really mushy when he was sick. I was a saint, he'd say. He couldn't believe how much I put into taking care of him. He did the eating the worm in Mexico and came home really sick. He stayed home and was violently ill for a week. We did automatic bill pay, and things were getting near due, so I sat next to him in bed with my laptop to pay the bills. I told him what I was paying, etc.
He got better, of course, and I got really sick. I'd caught whatever he had. I was hallucinating. Did he take care of me? No. With these people it's a short memory for as needy, whiny and seeminly appreciative they are in the moment.
Instead of being appreciative of me for taking over extra jobs that needed to be done, and instead of taking care of me, he flew into a rampage asking, "How dare you pay those bills?" Our bills. Our bills that would be past due. Our bills that were paid for with our money. He swore I had a shifty motive. (How can you have ANY motive in regard to paying your own "due now" bills?) As he had weekly and many times since he left, he shrieked at me that he was going to "let the courts deal with me." Ugh. Our bills, our money. Crazy person.
posted by
terpgirl30
on October 5, 2005 at 7:51 PM
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It's worse when you know what to do and others just stare at you.
posted by
majroj
on October 4, 2005 at 4:35 PM
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