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Joe, it's happened in a half -a**ed way.
In typical fashion, I was asked to assume the responsibility for the operations of the new facility we moved to this past January, in addition my job as Admin. Assistant. The offer was made and somehow come Christmas time, everybody was too busy to do anything formally. Again, as is typical - there is no job description, except to run everything and it's been one heck of a roller-coaster ride.
We finally had our assessment interviews done a week ago so the pay increase that was due from January will finally be mine as soon as my boss can get around to doing a formal letter.
Thanks very much for your kind words. Sometimes it's from comments like yours that I realize things that are obviouss, but that I don't really notice, as in supporting my bosses and remaining positive. Thanks again. 
posted by
word.smith
on October 9, 2005 at 4:28 PM
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word.smith
I have been reading your blog for some time now. If you aren't aware of it, I will tell you. . , you are without doubt a valuable asset to the company you work for. Please don't lose your positive attitude and your understanding of the importance of supporting your superiors. Merely by reading your words, I can tell you deserve to be promoted. Can't wait to read about it when that day comes.
posted by
Joe_Love
on October 8, 2005 at 10:12 PM
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Perhaps.
What we can do is try to be conscious of the other person's perspective and their needs.
posted by
word.smith
on October 6, 2005 at 11:29 AM
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Your question is really a nice one but difficult to give straight answer; hence I will privaricate a little. Perhaps it is just the self fish behaviour of Human nature.
posted by
Flame-thrower
on October 6, 2005 at 6:15 AM
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Flame,
I've never understood why it is that we defend our rights so fiercely, yet think nothing of trying to take away other people's rights to make their own choices.
posted by
word.smith
on October 6, 2005 at 6:03 AM
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Thanks Offbeats!
posted by
word.smith
on October 6, 2005 at 6:02 AM
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Thanks Divine. I'll check it out.
posted by
word.smith
on October 6, 2005 at 6:02 AM
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Thank you for reading and also appending your luminous comments. I am a lover of freedom, hence I wrote the piece that I am going to finish today.
I won't vilify the reactions of people in Jamiaca, Africa, the Middle East, Asia and Eastern Europe for reacting the way they are doing with Gays and Lesbians. We should not in anyway try to ostrcise people but do a great effort to educate people about the Gays and Lesbians.
posted by
Flame-thrower
on October 6, 2005 at 4:29 AM
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Word
As usual, you handled that one very nicely!!
posted by
Offy
on October 6, 2005 at 1:22 AM
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posted by
Divine_1
on October 5, 2005 at 9:04 PM
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Mspickles,
I'm slowly coming to realize that at least a third of the work force in this country have no work ethics. If we could get away with coming to work and doing nothing, many of us would have ecstatic.
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 7:42 PM
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Hem, I agree with that.
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 7:41 PM
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open communication is a good thing but it also seems that a good work ethic
is also needed by a few (not you of course!)
posted by
littlemspickles
on October 5, 2005 at 3:45 PM
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word--
You did fine.
Not everyone is ready or able to engage in actual communication, but everyone should be given the opportunity. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on October 5, 2005 at 3:13 PM
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Medusa, thanks so much for your kind comments.
You know, to my mind communication can be very simple. I treat others how I want to be treated - with respect, openness and honesty. I don't always hit the mark, I am impatient when I ask for something to be done and it takes days for it to be done or I eventually have to do it myself. 
Oh and when I make mistakes, I admit to them. I'd rather say I made a mistake than to lie about it or be found out trying to cover it up. 
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 2:02 PM
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Cosy,
Although it is hard to be around conniving people, I have learnt so much about being patient and did I mention learning how to wait on God. That's the hardest part, but I'm learning.
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 1:57 PM
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hi word.smith....You'd make a great leader or boss...
You are honest, open, and communicate very effectively. Those traits are hard to come by, especially when one is in an office workplace. People hate to take blame, look for the easy way out and a host of other crappy things. We need more women like you, word.smith, in the workplace.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on October 5, 2005 at 1:31 PM
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Wordsmith
that's why I wrote that stuff on communication! Conniving devious people will get a taste of their own medicine in the end! Keep talking and keep smiling
posted by
cosy
on October 5, 2005 at 12:29 PM
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MW, I see you know all about those types.
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 11:45 AM
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Thanks Symphony!
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 11:44 AM
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I hope this all works out in the end
I know how some of those "I'm not interested" people can sneak up on you.
posted by
Bel_
on October 5, 2005 at 9:08 AM
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Great post, you handled that very well...well done
take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on October 5, 2005 at 6:31 AM
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MayB,
That's right. Since the directors work elsewhere, they really don't have time and don't seem to care too much about what happens around here - except when things go bad. And yes, there have been so many mix ups around this one issue. MayB, trust me, sometimes I do feel like barking. With great restraint, the urge usually passes.
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 5:26 AM
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Flame-Thrower,
Thanks very much. That's so very nice of you to say.
I can get along with almost anybody, even though we all know people who test our limits. 
I must agree that the world would be much different if we all made more of an effort to communicate properly. I've found that it's good when I become resentful to stop for a minute and think about the other persons point of view. Then, I am less likely to shoot off at the mouth and be sorry when I'm done. Working alongside someone I consider difficult has given me years of practice. You've made my day with your kind comment. Thanks much.
posted by
word.smith
on October 5, 2005 at 5:24 AM
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Given that this guy has been collecting all the 15% commission it would seem your bosses lack some communication skills. These people who you handle with kid gloves do not know how lucky they are to have you. They could gave someone who just barked orders.
posted by
Azur
on October 5, 2005 at 5:17 AM
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Your article attempts to solve very serious things in a simplistic manner which is a wonderful quality that you have. You seem from your writings to be one anyone could get along with eaily. Communications and proper communication if we all had that quality, half of our world's and individual problems will simply not exist. It is a pleasure having some one like you around. I really did enjoy your piece,espcially the extraordinary way that you write them.
posted by
Flame-thrower
on October 5, 2005 at 4:01 AM
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Thanks Aria.
I'm learning as the days go by to let things go, rather than allowing them to poison me.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 8:16 PM
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Word-I think it is best to get things off your chest and move on with your life. It is much healthier.
posted by
Aria4
on October 4, 2005 at 8:09 PM
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True Quirky
I used to put up with crap from her all the time. I decided a while back that I wouldn't anymore. I can't stand playing games.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 7:03 PM
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Thanks, Bright.
I do try.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 7:01 PM
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Telly,
Thanks. It's may be a combination of both. Life is such that, thankfully these are in the minority. Things would be much harder if I knew more people like that. I sometimes wonder if we realize how hard people have to dance around us so as not to step on our toes. I think more of us just need to get over ourselves as you pointed out.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 6:53 PM
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Thanks Tissie,
I'm getting better at handling all the discord I see at work. I don't do strife very well. I can't function in it.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 6:49 PM
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Libertine,
It's funny, but I got home about an hour ago and I was at someone else's office helping them set up their accounting programme. I looked at the nice new furniture - didn't appeal to me all the much. I looked at the paintings, those didn't impress me either. What impressed me was that nobody has to see anybody else if they don't want. They all have these nice high wooden cubicles and there was blessed silence. What I wouldn't give to work in a place like that.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 6:48 PM
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Silver, I made a
mental note to come visit you today, but somehow forgot. Good to see you. I don't know why it is so hard for us to be honest with each other. I hate when people lie to me or skirt around issues. I think in a while people will start running when they see me coming. I'm getting to the stage (like some older women) where I must speak the truth or bust. I'm not tactless, but when life can be smoother for it, then I don't see the harm in leveling with myself and others. It takes way too much energy to skirt issues that are best tackled directly.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 6:43 PM
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Masky-
Thanks. I have to agree. We have so much more important stuff to carry than resentment. Besides it makes for sleeplessness when things are not said and my mind is left running around in endless circles, thinking about all I would have loved to say, but didn't.
posted by
word.smith
on October 4, 2005 at 6:37 PM
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oh, most people understand the value of open communication all right--it's just "getting there" that can be difficult.
posted by
Julia.
on October 4, 2005 at 5:59 PM
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word.smith....
Hello.. You handled this situation really well. You do have great communication skills!
posted by
BrightIrish
on October 4, 2005 at 5:35 PM
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I personally think you did great in handling it. I don't know why some people can't seem to communicate very well; it could be that they just can't see beyond themselves, or feel that to be the 'boss' that they have to yell and make scenes to get their point across.
posted by
telynor
on October 4, 2005 at 5:12 PM
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word.smith
you handled it very nicely.
posted by
TissiBlake
on October 4, 2005 at 5:09 PM
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As usual, your cool head prevailed. I still don't want to work in your office though!
posted by
Holy_Grail
on October 4, 2005 at 2:37 PM
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It would make relationships of all types (romantic, familial, social, political, etc, ad infinitum) if people engaged in frank open communication with one another. Unfortunately, that's far easier said than done. It's a lot harder to admit fault, or to speak of heartful issues in an honest way, than it is to harbor resentment and anger and blame it all on someone else. How ever did we learn that kind of behavior?
posted by
SilverMoon7
on October 4, 2005 at 12:09 PM
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Word...I happen to like your outlook on communication. I find your style
works best for me. Let me get mad, let me think a second, then let's revisit what happened and get it off our chests. We have far more important loads to carry. Resentment weighs way too much!
You're a good spirit.
posted by
Masky
on October 4, 2005 at 11:53 AM
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