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Amateur....what's that they say?
A rose by any other name is still a rose.
posted by
word.smith
on September 19, 2005 at 8:35 AM
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It is a myth to say that men do not gossip. The fact is both men and women do. The only difference is what each gender calls it... Men call it 'business networking', while women call it 'small talk'. 
posted by
Amateur
on September 18, 2005 at 6:55 PM
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Divine,
It may be that as women we limit ourselves to the things we talk about. I've often felt bad for saying this, but I have a little thing about being unable to relate to people who don't use the sense God gave them.
Every man has his story, but I also find it hard to be friends with someone who can only talk about other people. If other people's business is the only connection we have, then it's not really a friendship. I understand what you mean about men tackling subjects with substance, for instance my hubby loves to talk about politics and sports. Not favourite subjects of too many women where I live. 
posted by
word.smith
on September 18, 2005 at 2:57 PM
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IF ....
If a tree falls in the woods would it make a sound if you are not there to hear it?
Hmmm. I wonder if the same applies to male gossip? The point would be for women not to hear it and it would therefore negate the thought that men are gossiping.
I have 2 female friends, the rest are male. Truthfully, I can have a non-gossipy conversation with the men. Women, well, they have a hard time focusing on conversations of substance. I need to expand my circle. That's right, I blog now, so I guess I have.......Word.
posted by
Divine_1
on September 18, 2005 at 1:47 PM
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Lib,
or maybe you just need to be sitting in the clubhouse next to a group that's just got off the course. 
posted by
word.smith
on September 18, 2005 at 10:10 AM
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Joe, maybe not as loudly, but I believe
some of them indulge more than women.
posted by
word.smith
on September 18, 2005 at 10:09 AM
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Scritture, do drop in anytime!
posted by
word.smith
on September 18, 2005 at 10:08 AM
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Offbeats, for the unconvinced
your comment should just about convince them that men do gossip.
posted by
word.smith
on September 18, 2005 at 10:08 AM
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I know men gossip but I never get to hear it. I need to be a caddy or a fly on the wall.
posted by
Holy_Grail
on September 18, 2005 at 7:30 AM
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Men do gossip. . , but
we just don't gossip as much (or loudly) as women do. LOL
posted by
Joe_Love
on September 17, 2005 at 11:27 PM
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Thank you...
...for stopping by my blog. I'll be back to read more of your words.
posted by
Scritture
on September 17, 2005 at 9:39 PM
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Word
You bet men gossip! I have heard so much gossip at the pub it would make your head spin! Your right on one thing, it isn't good to repeat what you hear!!!
posted by
Offy
on September 17, 2005 at 8:47 PM
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MW, Let the church say Amen to that.
posted by
word.smith
on September 17, 2005 at 6:50 PM
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Men are the worst gossips!!!!!!!!!!!!
posted by
Bel_
on September 17, 2005 at 6:47 PM
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Krisles,
That's a whole other topic, how people seem to be on the same wavelength at Blogit. Think of a topic to write about, decide to read some blogs first and then what do you see? Just what you planned to write about.
Sometimes the men are so much worse it isn't funny. Take the sport I work in - used to be, the women were the ones concerned about winning prizes and used to resent any new women who came on the scene and started winning. Now the men have turned into prize sharks, questioning other men's handicaps, spreading news of how 'he can't count 'cause he had a 5 and wrote down a 4.' 'What's his handicap? That can't be right!' and so forth. And some of them, as to telling their own business. It's like a competition as to who can cheat the most.
Your post won't be a revelation, neither this one. Most, if not all women know that men gossip!
posted by
word.smith
on September 17, 2005 at 8:45 AM
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Lensman,
And so he said/she said gets started.....
posted by
word.smith
on September 17, 2005 at 8:38 AM
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Hem, at least as a loner
no-one can ever say you said anything you didn't.
posted by
word.smith
on September 17, 2005 at 8:37 AM
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Hem,
I don't know what it is about the men I know - and most of them are golfers, but they do gossip a lot! It might have something to do with the fact that they are out there for 4 hours with nothing to do but hit the ball and walk. Other men I know tend to do the same, but they mostly talk about women.
The caddies just tell their tales to anyone who will listen or will let little tidbits drop when you least expect them. 
Besides they know it is unlikely that anyone will go back and tell, they're too busy absorbing the juicy details.
posted by
word.smith
on September 17, 2005 at 8:36 AM
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word.smith
Once more, you've written a post on a topic I've had in my simmerin' pot for awhile.....I've long laughed at all the remarks I see on here, and have seen or heard elsewhere, about how men don't gossip and women are so much more catty, etc.....give me a break! Have these people never really worked around a bunch of men! They gossip every bit as much as women.....and cats come in both genders! I'll still do my post someday, but glad I won't be surprising anyone with the revelation.....or shall we say the emperor's clothes!
posted by
Krisles
on September 17, 2005 at 12:08 AM
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Word.Smith
Hey, psssssst!! Did you hear what Ariala said about Blackcat? Wait till you hear this..........
posted by
Lensman
on September 16, 2005 at 11:45 PM
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Word--
Well gosh! Looks like I've been outvoted. Men
do gossip! Shows how much I know. It's what I get for being mostly a loner. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on September 16, 2005 at 9:40 PM
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I've been around
lots of men, and for the most part they hold on to their feelings and are pretty secretive. Of course there are exceptions, including some gay men; but I could not make a blanket statement that "Men gossip". Furthermore, I have the feeling that if a caddy tried to profit from information he heard on the golf course, either he would not be believed or he would be contract eliminated. Pretty dramatic, eh! Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on September 16, 2005 at 9:28 PM
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Tissie, good to see you!
You're back. That bit of gossip was just too much for your hubby to keep to himself, I'd bet.
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 8:31 PM
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Argus, I think it may be all the time spent walking
after the ball is hit. The course I'm talking about here was a walking one up until a few years ago, so there was little to do but hit your ball and then walk to it. Naturally, conversations pop up during what could be a boring walk.
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 8:29 PM
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Bright,
I imagine that he has some very interesting and intriguing stories stashed away in his brain.
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 8:28 PM
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LOL so true
that reminds me of the time my husband came home from work early one morning shaking me saying " honey wake up you gotta hear this". Sure men gossip!!
Tissi Blake 
posted by
TissiBlake
on September 16, 2005 at 8:19 PM
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We knew that a good bottle of wine loosens the tongue,
but golf balls ???
ARGUS
posted by
ARGUS
on September 16, 2005 at 8:11 PM
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Word.Smith
Hi! I have a friend who has worked as a waiter for 30 years in a restaurant frequented by gov. officials. He profess' not to tell but a few glasses of wine and that all changes quick.
posted by
BrightIrish
on September 16, 2005 at 7:53 PM
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Digitalink, COOL!!!!
Another Jamaican. Thanks for reading. I'll be right over to take in your posts.
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 6:05 PM
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Thanks Quirky
I haven't yet come across a man who admits to gossiping. Let's see if any brave soul will step up to the plate and say Hell, yeah! my buddies and I gossip!
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 6:02 PM
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Hi Word Welcome...
Yeah they gossip alright...ooops!!! Or is it network eh eh eh? I am in Jamaica too Word, looking forward to reading your post....
posted by
Digitalink
on September 16, 2005 at 2:39 PM
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cute post, esp. the disclaimer. I didn't see "nuttin"--
posted by
Julia.
on September 16, 2005 at 1:13 PM
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Rhiannon, thanks for dropping in.
Networking - so that's what they call it, eh? Sure, sure. That's right - caddies don't get to take revenge. 
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 12:06 PM
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Men Men? Gossip? Say It Isn't So
Men network, don't you know? (hah!) Loved your piece; I think the dialectic between upper class and lower class is eternal. (Or is that sempiternal?) That fuels my stories of Rosalyn and Rhiannon; only Rosalyn always gets her revenge. Caddies aren't so lucky
posted by
Rhiannon1
on September 16, 2005 at 11:26 AM
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Sassy,
I'm always a little surprized when a man tells me that men do not gossip. Some of them actually believe this. IMO, they are worse than women.
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 8:33 AM
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Ariel, no harm done.
Yes, it is utterly amazing what people will say and do in front of others they think are of lower stature. It's almost as if they have no regard for other people. You could be a stone for all they care.
posted by
word.smith
on September 16, 2005 at 8:30 AM
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Yep, they are worse then a bunch of hens
I used to work in a male environment, and I could not believe the things that came out of their mouths. I could have easily blackmailed them, but chose instead to take what they said with a grain of salt. I pitied their wives as they would have you believe that they were lazy, money grubbing good for nothings.
posted by
Sherri_G
on September 16, 2005 at 8:19 AM
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Wordsmith
Sorry about the one word title!
A very funny post! But as I've never in my life been on a golfcourse, I can't really add anything useful to what you write.
But I can tel you that both my parents were in domestic service in England before WW1 ( yes, correct) and they could tell a tale or two, believe me!
posted by
ariel70
on September 16, 2005 at 8:17 AM
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