Go to Krisles Embraces Her ADD
- Add a comment
- Go to MEMORIES OF A "GOLDEN GIRL"
Okay, Golden Girl...I just wrote your post. Hope you can handle
a little humor...lol
posted by
Renigade
on September 9, 2005 at 9:04 PM
| link to this | reply
Moondawg
Thank you....and I don't know if I'd have the energy to do it again or not...I've kind of lost the heart to put that much of myself into anything outside my immediate circle these days....re-prioritized too much...know what I mean?
posted by
Krisles
on September 9, 2005 at 9:01 PM
| link to this | reply
mcbreeze
Thanks....glad you enjoyed it!
posted by
Krisles
on September 9, 2005 at 8:59 PM
| link to this | reply
Mixed emotions I'm sure
and I somehow suspect that if you really wanted to, you could rise back to that spot again.
posted by
Moondawg
on September 8, 2005 at 11:31 AM
| link to this | reply
Legs
A wonderful read.xx
posted by
mcbreeze
on September 8, 2005 at 9:30 AM
| link to this | reply
MW
You nailed that one on the head, baby girl....I'm on the trail, makin' headway, clearin' brush, kickin' rocks....I just got up and haven't had any coffee so I'm full of these things....a short night so I'm a little silly, too....hope your night was short, too....but for good reasons!
posted by
Krisles
on September 8, 2005 at 5:51 AM
| link to this | reply
Lensman
Rocky and smooth at the same time....that's a very apt description of my career....never thought of it in those terms but, now that you've put the thought in my head, I will from now on - and I had to do it in heels!! And I've since seen you like the "legs", huh? Good thing you weren't around me, guy....I'm not ashamed to admit than when I got bored in meetings, I sometimes had some fun with them - it's not hard to spot you guys - actually, in a boring enough meeting, just about any guy becomes a leg man!
posted by
Krisles
on September 8, 2005 at 5:47 AM
| link to this | reply
Kris
we all find our own path in this world...I think at the moment you are looking for your newest path.
posted by
Bel_
on September 7, 2005 at 9:13 AM
| link to this | reply
Krisles
That was an interesting background read. Quite a road you've followed. Interesting how some roads can be rocky and smooth at the same time. Ahh, life.... Legs, eh? Great nickname
posted by
Lensman
on September 6, 2005 at 11:45 PM
| link to this | reply
Kris,
I was a golden girl. Shined in my career as a respiratory therapist. People loved me. I landed a cushy state job 3 yrs ago. Quit two months ago because I hated the facade of "oh we treat our residents so well here." Bull-F'ing-Shit! Healthcare here in the U.S. sucks! It twists and warps damned near everyone involved in any aspect of it. I got out to save my integrity and sanity and don't regret it one bit.
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 4, 2005 at 4:02 PM
| link to this | reply
Quirky
Thanks! Yeah....that's why I need a knee replacement !! I can't believe it now....and I used to run to catch planes in those things carrying luggage and a briefcase with a suiter slung over my shoulder - Hey! That's why my dang shoulder is doin' this now!! And it's too late for worker's comp....
posted by
Krisles
on September 4, 2005 at 3:43 PM
| link to this | reply
CL
All the backstabbing I ever got came from men....there really weren't that many women in my department in my region at the time....I think a lot of that is myth, anyway....it's just a difference in the way men do it...I've sat in too many staff meetings and watched the boys to think they play one bit fairer....and I guarantee they gossip as much! I couldn't believe it! Cracked me up! Thanks for the kind words...you are too kind....and you're right - I've got the t-shirt that says that, and it's in the basement after having been used as a dust rag...gonna start a fire one of these days!
posted by
Krisles
on September 4, 2005 at 3:40 PM
| link to this | reply
Toker
Thank you, dear.....and I'm glad you had a good descent. Mine was mixed...it was by choice because I didn't want to move....then I cruised, waiting to retire and hit rough water when we had a merger....long story.....that's when I took a tumble because I ended up having a breakdown awhile after that....but, it ended up being the best thing that could have happened...most things do.
posted by
Krisles
on September 4, 2005 at 3:35 PM
| link to this | reply
krisles--
high heels and stockings every day--ouch!
Quite a fascinating post, though!
posted by
Julia.
on September 4, 2005 at 2:22 PM
| link to this | reply
Interesting Read
I've heard a lot about the backstabbing and bickering women in the corporate world go through that their male counterparts never have to deal with. For you to make it under the conditions you describe here, really does say a lot about your mettle -- not to mention your likability factor. Hey, you've ' been there, done that,' so you know you could do it. You're still The Golden Girl. Golden enough to make hard choices.
posted by
CunningLinguist
on September 4, 2005 at 1:45 PM
| link to this | reply
krisles... at this point, I'm stuck there until the end of the year. After
that, even without another job, I may just have to leave. They've left me with no choice.
posted by
-blackcat
on September 4, 2005 at 12:19 PM
| link to this | reply
Blackcat
It wasn't about the money for me either...I just happened to have picked up a mortgage, etc., along the way that went along with my position and then needed to make the money. It was about not disappointing people for me, too....but, like I said...finger in a glass of water...and when you are willing to give, "they" are willing to take....and the people who love me, like my family, wanted me happy more than they wanted anything. And the juggling? One of the most incredible things that ever happened to me was when I walked out and never went back from lunch one day.....guess what? They somehow managed! It's still the shame of my life...and I've beat myself up over and over, even with the sweetest letter and flowers in the world from the guy who had to do most of the "mop up" on my desk...I still can't forgive myself for leaving my duty like that....but I have to face the reality that they carried on and survived without me just fine....I thought I was indispensible....hate to be repetitive; I, too, was just that finger....I have done a lot of priority shifting since.
posted by
Krisles
on September 4, 2005 at 12:15 PM
| link to this | reply
krisles... it's never really been about money for me. I just work hard...
I don't like to let people down, especially those that I respect or love. So I keep pushing myself for others... but I feel like I'm letting myself fall in the process? It's kind of like juggling... I'm trying really hard to keep all the balls up in the air.... lately I've been failing miserably. I don't know how I got to this place... I probably need a lot of therapy. lol
posted by
-blackcat
on September 4, 2005 at 12:06 PM
| link to this | reply
Blackcat...achievement is addictive, responsibility is addictive, for some
saying "I can do it" is a reflex...and the the lifestyle the money brings becomes a web hard to escape. It was, for me, something I stumbled into and not a goal...but once there, I was as entrenced as anyone who started out with the ambition. I will tell you what you have to know in your heart and understand when you make your choices...we are each nothing but a finger in a glass of water....pull it out and it is as though we were never there - perhaps we leave a flavor in the water, until enough new has been added to wash it out; I know that I left an influence on a lot of people and that makes me feel good, but they will be gone soon enough. Whatever you do has to be completely for you....not for "them" - I let loyalty and dedication almost kill me, getting completely out of balance with the business transaction that it really was. I was paid well but I gave full value and way beyond....finger in a glass of water, and don't forget it - is it worth your life, where you are so much more. When it isn't fun anymore, and when there are so many things that life has that you haven't fully tasted...is it why are you doing it? What have you still got to prove and who are you proving it to? These are all questions only you can answer; just be true that you are answering them with your heart and not with your head. Use your head to look at the realistic facts of the situation...use your heart to decide what you long for, what makes you happy, makes you feel like getting up in the morning. There are many ways to skin a cat, many ways to feel successful. I will end this long yada,yada by telling you that with all I accomplished at work, the absolute greatest feeling of success I ever had in my entire life was when I held my daughter's leg and watched her push my granddaughter into the world and then pull her up onto her stomach, and saw her begin to parent...saw that I passed it on, passed on the ability to love and nurture....that was better than all the annual reductions in average severities.
posted by
Krisles
on September 4, 2005 at 11:39 AM
| link to this | reply
Hey, I think I fell pretty hard off that damned latter.
And you know what? I'm glad I did. I'm a better person for it. Looking back now, I'm thinking I didn't fallof the latter at all, I
crawled down all by myself!!!!!!! Excellent post!!!!!!!
posted by
Jaxson-Pete
on September 4, 2005 at 11:21 AM
| link to this | reply
krisles... I know you've been there. I just don't know how to get out...
It's been a great rise... my career path has been 11 years... up the ladder, like you, getting the golden child label. The first 10 were great. The eleventh is when the merger came. Now I'm drowning. But at least I know I'm drowning? The other day I just broke down and cried on my way home from work. I've never been in this place emotionally... and my life is crumbling... but I'm working on getting out.
posted by
-blackcat
on September 4, 2005 at 11:13 AM
| link to this | reply