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they can be very annoying but we will miss them when they are not here! Cheers Roony35
posted by
roony35
on September 6, 2005 at 11:41 PM
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KODACHROME1970
Thanks. My mom actually took it very well....maybe she's learning.
posted by
MiaElla
on September 3, 2005 at 9:52 AM
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rgylford
Nope, I didn't make any of that up. No need to exaggerate when you have my mom as a mother...lol....thanks for the hug. You're really sweet!
posted by
MiaElla
on September 3, 2005 at 9:51 AM
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Krisles
I'm glad you're sending it to her...
Things could always be worse. That's why I appreciate my mother so much...I just wish sometimes she was happier and more nuturing.....and warm
posted by
MiaElla
on September 3, 2005 at 9:50 AM
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blackcat30
Well I went to Boston for two years....those were some happy times...I felt so free....it's hard because I love her and enjoy her company, but at the same time she knows how to push my buttons until I can't be pushed no more. (shrugs)
posted by
MiaElla
on September 3, 2005 at 9:48 AM
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Good for you!
I am a parent myself and if I acted that way towards my kids , I would expect them to tell me to kiss their backsides too. I hope your mom realizes soon that your life is your own and not hers to run anymore. When kids turn a certain age, its time to cut the apron strings (or unbilical cord if they were REALLY over protective) and let them fly. Granted they will make mistakes, they will crash and burn, they wil get in trouble...but its up to us as parents to stand back, watch their mistakes and be there for them IF they need us. Your mom's actions will only serve to make you spiteful towards her. I hope she realizes it before its too late.
posted by
KODACHROME1970
on September 3, 2005 at 8:09 AM
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Sweetie,
I take it you didn't make up that last line about wishing...
H
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posted by
AlienInsomniac
on September 2, 2005 at 11:26 PM
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MiaElla
I hope you don't mind....I just sent my daughter a copy of your post. I know she appreciates me....but sometimes I want her to really appreciate me. Right now I wish I could reach through the screen and pull you in here and mother you...I know you love your mother but that is just f'in ridiculous! I think you should record some of her nonsense and let her hear how she sounds...if she really loves you she will be ashamed of herself!
posted by
Krisles
on September 2, 2005 at 9:00 PM
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wow... and I thought my mom was in my business.
I'm sure she cares about you... but I can understand your frustration. Try taking a vacation from her for a while....
posted by
-blackcat
on September 2, 2005 at 8:31 PM
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Ainsley_Jo_Phillips
Hey I read your post...I think there may be some validity to it...I tried the link but I couldn't get it to work from the office computer, so I will try again now that I'm home.
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 6:43 PM
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Your mom sounds as if she needs a hobby to keep her busy, or...
...as was suggested here at least once, therapy.
It's one thing to be concerned about you, but she's downright overbearing--almost a stalker! And her remarks don't seem to be ones that show all that much concern but, rather, judgment.
As for what your mom said about New Orleans...
There IS something wrong with the picture down there, or so many people wouldn't be responding to the rescue workers the way they are.
Lots of places have had catastrophic tragedies (e.g. San Francisco in 1989; NYC in 2001; and those who were affected by that tsunami), but this is the first time I've ever heard of those in need responding like a bunch of rabid dogs to the people trying to help them.
Anyway, I've put some of my thoughts together in a piece here and will share it with you.
Good luck with your situation.
Peace!
AJ 
One question
some people
are asking
is:
Did God send Katrina
to punish the sins
of New Orleans?
Here's my view!
posted by
Ainsley_Jo_Phillips
on September 2, 2005 at 6:03 PM
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At least you can't add to the list: Spying on me on Blogit, reading things that I had chosen not to tell her, forcing me to delete all of my blogs and change my name. 
posted by
Holy_Grail
on September 2, 2005 at 3:42 PM
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Right on. Sometimes you just have to lay
down the law. I'm sure she vents on you b/c you usually listen. My mom does this to me. Sometimes, I tell her I don't want to talk right now, especially about my dad. I think some of my poetry is on here. I suppose I ought to do a post with a poem or two from my book. I really want to see what it looks like before I get all gung ho about it. What if there are a million typos? And grammar, yikes! Have a great weekend
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on September 2, 2005 at 3:29 PM
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I have family that I've told to kiss my a**, too...
and to
F off...but they are evil and deserve it!!! Your mom is lucky she found a non-gay one to do all that for her! Where in HELL did she find him?!?!? lol! ~LB~ xo
posted by
Anony_Miss
on September 2, 2005 at 2:10 PM
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I think you would have to say something. Might as well. Although it doesn't sound like she'd notice
posted by
Azur
on September 2, 2005 at 1:54 PM
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marzieh
well I called my mom a "bitch" once...thought she might kill me...lol...told her to "go to hell" once too...that was really bad, but I was 14 and didn't know better, or at least that's what I claimed at the time...lol
If you try it with your mom, just don't tell her it was my idea.
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 1:42 PM
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well done
:) I really have to try telling my mom that...yo bitch kiss my ass ...(I would add the bitch just to be authentic-like:) I think she'd be in shock, but the woman could use a good shocking:)
posted by
marzieh
on September 2, 2005 at 1:39 PM
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LaylaBeth
Not just some folks but my mother.....LOL!....yeah, she's not going to like me for a while...oh, and my mom married one of those guys and he's not gay...stupid, maybe...lol...for being able to put up with her when I think even a saint wouldn't...
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 1:21 PM
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Sometimes folks just need to be told to kiss your a**...
And sometimes we just need to say it. Oh--and good luck with that
findingaman
totakecareofyou
andhelpoutaroundthehouse thing...there's no such thing!
The ones that do exist are probably
GAY!!! lol!!! ~Miss_L~ xoxo
posted by
Anony_Miss
on September 2, 2005 at 1:16 PM
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Thanks strat!
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 12:46 PM
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"I want grandchildren. I'm not going to be alive forever."
That theme of "I, mine, me, and about me" never shined through louder or more crystaline than in that quote.
Hang in there, kid.
posted by
strat
on September 2, 2005 at 12:42 PM
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Rach
That is bad! Haha...thanks for sharing...it's good to know I am not alone.
Oh, and my mom wonders why sometimes I suffer from anxiety and low self-esteem...duh...she's not helping me!
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 12:42 PM
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Yikes...
Well, it's not as bad as the time I called my mom up and said, "I don't know who the fuck you think you are, you fucking nosey bitch!" Yeah... and that was just my introduction. Not a good thing, really, but sometimes you need to put them in their place. It's hard, and it sucks, but damn! I'm sorry she says these things to you, it's just not right.
posted by
RachelAnna
on September 2, 2005 at 12:39 PM
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MiaElla,
If she had a horrible past, then she undoubtedly has some deep emotional scars. I know you didn't cause them but she loves you and you love her. People most often vent on those they love. I don't know what the answer is, but it sounds like she could use some counseling by a good counselor. That may or may not do the trick either. I have some deep emotional scars myself from a bad marriage and, though I've been out of that marriage for over a decade, there are still things that trigger old responses, though now those responses are no longer appropriate. Someone can say something to me in the same words and same tone as my X used to, and though I know they don't mean it the way he did, I reflexively strike back. I always feel badly about it and apologize but those scars haven't healed yet and I don't know if they ever will.
posted by
RAME
on September 2, 2005 at 12:32 PM
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RAME
She's had a horrifying past...the kind of stuff you only read about in books...and wouldn't wish on your worst enemy....but I didn't cause all that...and I can't help her with it...it's bigger than me. Thanks for reading....what you said reflected a lot...thanks!
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 12:21 PM
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Miaella,
Sounds like your mom has some emotional issues and scars. Has she had a hard life or a mother treating her the way she is treating you? If so, she probably doesn't know any other way. I'm glad you obviously love her. Maybe it would help if the two of you could sit down and talk uninterupted and see where all that negativity comes from. Best of luck to you.
posted by
RAME
on September 2, 2005 at 12:18 PM
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ginnieb
She says stuff like that all the time, usually I just look at her and say, 'how can you be my mother?"
Can't she focus on the positive? Just once.
I know she's a good person and she means well, but what must other people think about her????
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 12:13 PM
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LifeByLisa
Omigosh! That's crazy. My mom set me on a couple dates, turns out they were perfect....to her!! Never with an ex murderer though...lol...
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 12:11 PM
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Reni
Yeah, then why do I feel so bad??? She just went to my house to let my dog out. She was tyring to be nice.....but then she started on my house and on Riel...and on me...ugh...another sleepless night for me.
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 12:09 PM
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Schree
I've been talking to her about how I feel for 29 years now...she's not listening.
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2005 at 12:08 PM
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Geesh Mia...
..that's awfully tough criticism to deal with!
What a horrid thing to say about the people in Biloxi...good for you to tell her off.
posted by
ginnieb
on September 2, 2005 at 12:00 PM
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Don't you feel better though...
I'm always telling kids to respect their elders, but honestly they do need to earn respect like anyone else. I feel your pain...I have my boyfriend's father that just drives me up the wall. I've realized there is no hope in making peace, and then am asked about my opinion which raises the roof.
Side note, my mom quit bugging me about boyfriends when she tried to set me up with the nice boy down the street...ended up he killed his girlfriend. Shut her up pretty quick.
posted by
LifeByLisa
on September 2, 2005 at 12:00 PM
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Good for you.
posted by
Renigade
on September 2, 2005 at 11:58 AM
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Try to...
take a few deep breaths and relax. I know it's tough. Baby and I have you in our thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry that your mom makes you feel so bad. Perhaps you can talk to her about the way that she makes you feel. You don't deserve all that. No one performs better when they are made to feel worse..chin up girlfriend...
Schree`
posted by
Schree
on September 2, 2005 at 11:47 AM
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