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Mia--it isn't you and it isn't him, imho--it's that you want and value different things.
posted by
Julia.
on August 30, 2005 at 8:14 PM
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Mia--The difference stems from the fact that you are always right and he
is always wrong. Gawd! Have you learned nothing here, young apprentice? lol
posted by
Renigade
on August 30, 2005 at 6:50 PM
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Mia, this one won't be fixed. It just won't be. ((((((((hugs))))))) You do what's best for you.
posted by
SilverMoon7
on August 30, 2005 at 2:08 PM
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The BIG
difference is not what's between the legs, its what's 'not' between the ears.............................or perhaps I think I am superior...or I let the male species believe that I am
posted by
ALWAYSALOVER
on August 30, 2005 at 12:18 PM
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mial ella
I was here and I always read your stuff. It's not you or Riel. It's the social malaise that continually shouts into our ears, "bigger! better!"--or maybe not. You can mesh with anyone, but apparently he doesn't mesh with you as you would like? So you have a decision to make--or maybe not? Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on August 30, 2005 at 11:16 AM
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Uni
You know just what to say to make a girl blush...haha
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 9:13 AM
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lovelyladymonk
I wrote you a letter...will mail out today if the mailman comes
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 9:12 AM
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Mia
Will you ever find a guy that you can’t find faults in? Probably not. What you can find though is a guy you can say, “he’s got his flaws but so what? He makes me happy enough that I just don’t care” about. There are guys out there who want to spend their time with you rather than their guy friends (although guys’ nights out are important!) and really do want to make you feel special.
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on August 30, 2005 at 8:22 AM
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posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 30, 2005 at 7:54 AM
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JJ_Wilde
Ah, thank you so much for your comment. It's very helpful
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:45 AM
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RachelAnna
I was thinking of more excuses to (insert here)....haha...but you're right....
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:43 AM
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scriber
I thought that same thing after I wrote it...haha....
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:41 AM
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Mia,
I have the same problems that you have, so don't attach the male/female difference as a factor. You and I are opposite, so I think it's safe to discard that as an explanation. It can be, but that still takes it back to the person/person level. Not all men think the same way, neither do all women. It's a difference in attitude toward life, not in gender. I'm sure that won't help you a bit. The only thing you can do is work it out in your own head.
You are right in your thought that trying to fix something rather than dumping it might be a mistake. I don't know your relationship well enough to begin to make a statement on that for your specific situation, but trying to fix something is often a mistake that only leads to prolonging unhappiness. Or not. You have to evaluate that, or talk to someone whose judgement you trust and who knows your situation in detail. Be cautious in seeking advice from friend. Many times they are quite full of crap.
Hang in for the short term, but evaluate the possibility of a painful choice. jj
posted by
Jack_Flash
on August 30, 2005 at 7:32 AM
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Well, it's both of you...
You want more and he's fine just being the way he is... Doesn't work out well, you know? Try talking to him, or, find someone new.
posted by
RachelAnna
on August 30, 2005 at 7:32 AM
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ME--the old, "It's not Riel, it me," excuse.
posted by
scriber
on August 30, 2005 at 7:32 AM
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Ciel
That's true.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:24 AM
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It's not the differences between male and female, it's differences between
people. If you are not on the same wavelength, someone is going to have to leave theirs to be in that relationship. And that, finally, is what will end the relationship.
posted by
Ciel
on August 30, 2005 at 7:23 AM
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Silvermoon
I think I am beginning to feel disappointed and dissatisfied. But I'm one of those people that wants to fix things, instead of ending things, which may also be bad.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:09 AM
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Ariala
I started a book once about me and the dates I went on....fifteen dates later I was so disgusted with men, I couldn't look at another one for a year...haha...it's hard to find one you can even tolerate.....lol...I think I'm pretty lucky if I get that far...LMAO
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:08 AM
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Ariala's right. No one's perfect. but you shouldn't settle for something or someone less than what you want or deserve. That hurricane thing is a sure indicator; it's not a good sign. At some point, you're going to find yourself terribly disappointed and dissatisfied.
posted by
SilverMoon7
on August 30, 2005 at 7:02 AM
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It's truly hard to find a guy who likes the same things and has the same
expectations. If and when you do, he may not be as goodlooking or may have other flaws that you may have to weigh against the other things you want.
posted by
Ariala
on August 30, 2005 at 6:51 AM
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