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FactorFiction
Thanks! Good advice. 
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:04 AM
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SilverMoon7
Yeah, I'm just going to give it some time...it's been a rough few weeks for him I think... or maybe I'm making excuses for him...
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:02 AM
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My first impulse was "He's toast,"
but then I thought maybe he is just like my husband was who had never been in a serious relationship and had positively no clue. So cut him a _little_ slack and see how he seems if you look him in the eye and talk to him about it. If it were me, there'd have to be some Major apologies and promises for future supportive actions...but that's me
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 30, 2005 at 7:01 AM
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Ca88andra
I don't think he was thinking anything really....he just didn't want to be stuck somewhere with no electricity and knew I would be fine. Each man for himself kind of thing....lol.....
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 7:01 AM
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Madihattan
He's not a bad guy at all....unless I'm being duped....lol...I just think maybe he sees or thinks about things in a way I can't comprehend or understand because it's a way I am not used to. I'm used to guys going crazy over me, giving me a lot of attention, calling me all the time, claiming they love me, donning costumes for me, buying me stuff....basically trying to win me....I don't necessarily want that...actually find extremes a little silly, but a little "oooh...you are wonderful"...would be nice.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:59 AM
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No, I don't think you're jumping to conclusions. Uh, hurricane? Hello. This is the time to grab the one you love, not the one you hang out with. This boy needs a serious talking to. Or a serious dumping.
posted by
SilverMoon7
on August 30, 2005 at 6:56 AM
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word.smith
He did call as he was driving to the place to tell me where he was going. And maybe it was a work thing, so I couldn't have gone with...maybe I just needed to hear him say, "wish I was spending that time with you." Little things...sometimes just a word or two makes all the difference....makes you feel like you are on the same page.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:55 AM
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renigade3
That's exactly what I plan on doing.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:52 AM
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Ariala
Yeah, I don't want to make any rash decisions.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:51 AM
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Military_Wife
Jimson gives good advice, I think he knows more than he lets on about relationships....lol
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:51 AM
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RachelAnna
I read the book,
He's just not that into you. Actually there are several things that Riel does that are in that book. I guess that's why I'm like, "Hey dude, if you're not that into me, let me go." LOL!
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:49 AM
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gypsyredhead33
Maybe he is, but he'd probably never tell me.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:47 AM
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Tanoolicious
Haha...kick his butt....he's still sick, that wouldn't be fair.
lol
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:46 AM
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JimsonWeed
He's not the type to "bite" his lip. He knew I would be fine, so he wasn't even worried. He's not a woman you know...haha...although I expect, for some stupid reason, for him to act more like one....lol!
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:45 AM
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BrightIrish
Yeah, it seems puzzling to be alone during a hurricane when you actually have someone. I remember when I was single during a hurricane I'd be thinking, "Gosh I wish I had a boyfriend right about now." What was I thinking, I have one and it isn't any different....hahahaha.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:44 AM
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lovelyladymonk
I'm not really even sure what to do other than take it one day at a time and see where things go.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:42 AM
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rgylford
You're right. I'm used to being on my own, but the thing is I like him...I really do, but I'm starting to think maybe the feeling isn't mutal.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:41 AM
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strat
The thing is I never asked him to be with me during the hurricane. I'm not even really sure he could have been because of his work, but I'm not sure. That's another thing, he never goes into detail with things with me, everything is so vague.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 30, 2005 at 6:40 AM
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Are you joking? I don't know anyone who would chose a roomate over a loved one in that case. I'd be asking him what on earth he was thinking of!
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 30, 2005 at 4:10 AM
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Hurricanes will show us the way...
Mia darling you are waaaay too good for this shit. Look, the only reason any of us put UP with relationships is that ever-present, gnawing fear that we be facing terror and death in solitude and suddenly realize that maybe it
was worth putting up with the absolutely disgusting way Sam chewed his food if only he/she were here (albeit, not chewing on anything) to hold us. Dump the bastard!! Its easy to feel 'too picky' when your trying to find fresh fruit in trash dump.
posted by
Madihattan
on August 29, 2005 at 8:01 PM
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I'd prefer to be with my significant other..
Perhaps he had to leave in a hurry and didn't have a choice about calling? Is the cellular network up? If it is and you have a phone, there's no excuse.
posted by
word.smith
on August 29, 2005 at 6:49 PM
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Wait till the storm passes, and then see how things go...
posted by
Renigade
on August 29, 2005 at 3:13 PM
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Give him the benefit of the doubt and then dump him if he's not what you
want and doesn't mutually return your feelings. LOL
posted by
Ariala
on August 29, 2005 at 1:51 PM
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I'm going to agree
with Jimson on this...wow for someone who thinks he is no good with women, he is actually pretty smart LOL!
posted by
Bel_
on August 29, 2005 at 12:03 PM
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Eek
Have you heard of that book "He's just not that into you!" yet? It totally reminds me of your situation with Riel. It's like he likes you, but he doesn't like you enough, you know?! I dunno. I'd feel it out for another few days and go from there...
posted by
RachelAnna
on August 29, 2005 at 11:59 AM
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Mia...
Maybe he's still stinging from being in the emergency room without you all those times?
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on August 29, 2005 at 11:57 AM
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Oh man id kick his ass if he left me in such a situation,.... do what you feel girl!!! **hug**
posted by
Tanoolicious
on August 29, 2005 at 11:28 AM
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Well, you're definately right about one thing!
I'd only tell you to dump him and move here with me so I'm probably prejudiced towards the decision I want to you to make... :)
But...
Did he know you were staying behind? Did he expect to keep in some kind of contact with you? Where is he? A hurricane is kind of, somewhat, you know a little bit, maybe just a smidge a BIG DEAL!
For his defense..even though I don't want to give it to you :) , maybe he got to whereever he is and cannot get to a phone that works? Maybe he's biting his lips into peices because he can't contact you and find out how you are doing. I'm sure, if he knows he jewel he has, he's trying everything in his power to get ahold of you.
posted by
SomeoneElse
on August 29, 2005 at 11:08 AM
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MiaElla..
Hi.. Definitely, I would want my love close with me. You are a smart lady and once you connect the dots.. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 29, 2005 at 11:02 AM
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Hey Mia.....
I'm glad you have electricty. Sorry about Reil, though. I'm not really sure what I'd do if it were me....Sorry!!
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 29, 2005 at 10:51 AM
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Damn
Darlin,
Unless you're one of those
I gotta have someone at all costs types of people, which from reading your stuff I don't think you are, I don't see how it will be possible for him to recover from this one. If he's acting like this now, how would he act if you were at the in-love/totally committed stage. One would not expect such behaviour from a significant other at that point, but it happens. I think you should follow your instincts.
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on August 29, 2005 at 10:36 AM
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I'd say if he bugged out of a major,
potentially life-threatening disaster, he ain't that serious.
Then again, I'm a cynical bastard. Maybe he's just a weenie.
I know I would want my lady with me and safe. Because I'd be scared spitless and would need her to hang onto me!
posted by
strat
on August 29, 2005 at 10:35 AM
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Quirkyalone
Thanks, your comment is very helpful and very much appreciated
posted by
MiaElla
on August 29, 2005 at 10:24 AM
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As a third party I'm hesitant to say yes or no...however it does seem like you are not at the top of his priority list. Trust your instinct, you're obviously having some questions about where you stand.
posted by
Julia.
on August 29, 2005 at 10:18 AM
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