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Hiya, Symph
Just catching up on your posts.
posted by
Joe_Love
on August 29, 2005 at 7:57 PM
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pakner ....thnak you so much for sharing....
if you ever want to talk...then I am here - email me anytime.....I hope you find peace within.....take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 2:01 PM
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Thank you for sharing Ann
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 2:00 PM
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i'm still trying to cope up with the death of a dearly beloved a month ago. i can still feel her spirit is with us. i talk to her as if she's alive and i used to kiss her pillow often and cuddle all her favorite things. it's true, it hard to cope even if i make myself so busy, she's always on my mind.i know my dearly beloved will help me cope up and will continue to watch over me from ablove. Bless her soul.
posted by
pakner
on August 26, 2005 at 1:55 PM
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I had time to say goodbye to my terminally ill relatives before they died so that gave me time to mourn in advance.
Ann
posted by
A-and-B
on August 26, 2005 at 1:52 PM
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lovelyladymonk
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 12:32 PM
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Symphony,
Everything you say here is absolutely true. My great-grandfathre died nine years ago this past January and I mourn him still....I don't think I'll ever really stop...
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 26, 2005 at 12:29 PM
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BrightIrish - so very sad...thank you for sharing
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 12:04 PM
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Symphony..
Very Insightful! I was raised by my grandmother.. She died when I was 15.. For weeks afterwards.. I found myself waking in the morning and starting to prepare her some breakfast before I went to school.
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 26, 2005 at 12:03 PM
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Thank you scriber
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 11:23 AM
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Symp--well done. Some good advice.
posted by
scriber
on August 26, 2005 at 11:21 AM
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Thank you so much MiaElla
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 11:18 AM
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SYMPHONY
Yeah...you said it all...great post
posted by
MiaElla
on August 26, 2005 at 11:18 AM
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Thank you ever so much for sharing ginnieb ...wow 20 years?
it is so hard to confront feelings as well as accept...I always talk about those that have passed over because it makes them feel alive still...I also like the comfort of knowing they are still here but out of sight.
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 11:17 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing - yes it is very tough, strat
when my sister died (knocked down by a drunk driver) I was so damn angry with the driver that it took a long long time for me to grieve and get rid of the anger, but then my brother took his own life which then made me angry at him, but because I loved him and missed him, I began to let go of the anger and understand in a way ...I guess....
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 11:15 AM
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Talking about the one who has died is so important...
....they are here one moment, gone the next, but death shouldn't stop one from talking about them...though so many people find that tough to do. I don't think there is a limit to the time one should grieve...though in some cultures there is. The main thing..as you stated..is to let it out...don't keep your grief a prisoner. I didn't really cry for my father until about 20 years later and when I did I finally was able to accept it...this is way too long a time. Thanks Symphony for a great post!
posted by
ginnieb
on August 26, 2005 at 10:47 AM
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Grief is all consuming, and totally self-absorbed.
That's okay; it is supposed to be. The point I'm gettting at is only the bereaved knows what he or she is feeling and has any inkling of how to get past. It's a tough, tough thing to deal with.
UNderstanding is absolutely necessary, but it can get complicated after awhile. How much is enough? How many more conversations that start with "Looks like rain" and ends with "It reminds me of black death!" can be endured.
It's tough. I know it took me years to get over the death of my father. And I hate to admit it, but most of that time I was a complete asshat to my friends. It's tough.
posted by
strat
on August 26, 2005 at 10:40 AM
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