Go to MY PERCEPTIVE REFLECTION!!
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- Go to DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - I THINK YOU SHOULD WATCH WHAT YOU FRIGGING SAY!!!!!!!!!
In my OPINION
there is a defining moment in an abusive relationship when it is
enabled. The second slap or punch OR (in the case of verbal abuse) the second verbal assault.
posted by
Joe_Love
on August 29, 2005 at 7:43 PM
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mysteria
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 11:26 AM
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SYMPHONY
What a heart you have..thank yo for reaching out to that hurting soul...it does the whole world good you know...
posted by
mysteria
on August 26, 2005 at 11:24 AM
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Military_Wife ...Thank you for telling me.....
I will be over your way soon
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 9:36 AM
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Symphony
If yo uare interested, I wrote in my ramblings blog a part of my experience.
posted by
Bel_
on August 26, 2005 at 9:13 AM
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Whacky46
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 4:16 AM
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Thanks for reading and commenting FactorFiction
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 4:15 AM
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Thank you Passionflower ...I have a lot of catching up to do...
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 4:15 AM
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hehehehe homegirl
I know what you mean, but I am thinking that your thinknig just about wimps....the two men (that were in my life) that hit me was BIG men (although I still fought back) but I didn't stand a chance.
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 4:15 AM
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lovelyladymonk
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 4:12 AM
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LOL...Kiddo75 ....of course I will .......
but I am sooooooo sure that you can look after yourself
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 4:12 AM
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Thanks for sharing SillySoul88
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 26, 2005 at 4:11 AM
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Listen more talk less and don't judge!
I'll try.
posted by
Whacky
on August 25, 2005 at 7:56 PM
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Great job with this post Symphony.
You really described the relationships and "how it can happen" perfectly so that those doubters can get a glimpse(I hope!) of what happens...
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 25, 2005 at 7:22 PM
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Very good/strong post!
I
know you lost track of the Road Trip story when you went on vacation, but I still wanted to let you know that Episode 21 is done.
posted by
Passionflower
on August 25, 2005 at 7:06 PM
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I come from a family of fighters...
My mother tried to kill my real father because he punched her in the face when she was pregnant with me.. I believe had she not been a fighter, this man would have raised me while I watched him beat my mom silly..
I thank God for her strength because she taught me to stand up for myself.
I had a boyfriend smack me in the year once right after I had a second hole put in.... I beath the stew out of him.
Because of my past, I have trouble understanding why other women don't fight back... But I guess everything is not for me to understand. But if anyone wants thier man beat up.. I might be willing to do if for them!
posted by
homegirl
on August 25, 2005 at 6:00 PM
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posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 25, 2005 at 5:20 PM
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symph...
come live with me for a while and be my backbone?
posted by
Kiddo75
on August 25, 2005 at 5:11 PM
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I've study on the subject of abusive behavior and have talked with family members that have dealt with it and really sometimes all it takes is listening, put yourself in there shoes before judgeing. ~Silly
posted by
SillySoul88
on August 25, 2005 at 5:10 PM
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zarrothepaun ...you are great!
I already like you .......I easily got the notebook style...email me I tell you how......and thanks for reading and sharing...take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:44 PM
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Yes OFFBEATS...I have been told about that, I have yet to read it
going there soon....
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:41 PM
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I'm fighting with my other two selfs!
zarrothepaun beta wants me to tear into you and zarrothepaun epsilon really doesn't care, but would rather have me not get involved. But I want to! I want to say some nice things about your writing and your philosophy. You have really hit the nail on the head; we all need to be more understanding and patient. You’re a great writer; I really like your style. I’m a fan already. How did you get the delightful background with the notebook look? I’m going to look in often if I can fight off my bad side, beta, and over come the apathy of epsilon. Zarrothepaun alpha
posted by
zarrothepaun
on August 25, 2005 at 2:40 PM
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SYMPHONY
It is horrible, to be in the middle of that type of situation is almost unthinkable. Like you, I know these relationships are doomed, and regret will come only after resolution. The regret of staying too long. It is probably difficult to see it while your in it, but with my son this week, I had an eye opener!
posted by
Offy
on August 25, 2005 at 2:37 PM
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Tanoolicious
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:31 PM
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Military_Wife
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:30 PM
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Yes really!!!!! Go for it!
posted by
Tanoolicious
on August 25, 2005 at 2:26 PM
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Symphony
It does seem that experience gives way to compassion.
posted by
Bel_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:25 PM
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BrightIrish ...Thank you
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:25 PM
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MaggieMae
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:24 PM
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Symphony..
Great Post! I hope that many people take the time to read this and if they don't understand or relate to it then their lives have been blessed. Indeed.. listening is a powerful tool!
posted by
BrightIrish
on August 25, 2005 at 2:21 PM
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Thank you!
posted by
MaggieMae
on August 25, 2005 at 2:18 PM
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LOL....IT DID MaggieMae...but I deleted it for you...hehehe
and yes I know woman do it to men too..I should of stated that - SORRY TO MEN WHO ARE SUFFERING!!!....thanks for reading and commenting
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:17 PM
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Military_Wife ...yes the police were involved..
I too grew up in a violent enviroment so when I got with my first boyfriend...I too thought it were normal...but then later down the line, when married...I thought my life took a turn for the better...but then he changed..he was violent smashed up my home only hit me once then I got rid........but I learn from mistakes I know the signs now and also know its not right!...I do hope you talk about it as unburdening the soul helps alot...
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:16 PM
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well, did it or didn't it, ?????
I'm gettin off of here! lol
posted by
MaggieMae
on August 25, 2005 at 2:14 PM
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OMG, Symphony, I'm sorry........
I didn't think it was taking. Well, sorry again!!
posted by
MaggieMae
on August 25, 2005 at 2:12 PM
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This is so widespread.....
domestic abuse is a terrible thing, Symphony, and I hope you gather a large audience on this one.
and don't forget, the women beat up on their men, too - did you read Offbeat's post on her son???? She wrote on that yesterday!
Good post, Honey!
posted by
MaggieMae
on August 25, 2005 at 2:10 PM
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Nobody called the authorities?
I grew up in an abusive home, so when I was married for the first time, I honestly thought the cruel words and the physical violence was normal. I also believed that if I was a better wife, he would not "have" to treat me like he did. Maybe someday I will share the details.
Symphony, thank you for seeing that some just don't know....they don't know alot of things.
posted by
Bel_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:10 PM
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Thank you so much for reading and sharing, SincerityAnna
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:07 PM
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Symphony,
Great post !!! So many times the man makes the woman feel it is all her fault...it is such a shame. My husband knows that if he hits me I'll slug him...lol...I wish all women were so lucky!!!
posted by
SincerityAnna
on August 25, 2005 at 2:06 PM
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Thank you so much Ann.
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:06 PM
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daisysface ....you nearly spoke my life....I can sooooooo relate...
these baaaaaaaarrrrstoods
are very clever....I am so glad you got out the relationship
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:05 PM
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Excellent post. This is a good post on self-help and awareness.
Ann.
posted by
A-and-B
on August 25, 2005 at 2:05 PM
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ginnieb
I think you are just wonderful and I do hope that I reach out to woman who are suffering...my email is open to those in need
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:04 PM
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your words are soooo true Symphony... i was in an abusive relationship. my x husband never laid a hand on me, but often threatened to kill me. he pulled a gun on me once. and his words were hurtfully abusive. he threatened to kill my family, everything dear to me, which is why i stayed. i never blamed myself. i thought i was doing the right thing. until one day i went to the police department. and they explained some things to me. i didn't want to end up another dosemetic violence statistic. i moved out. it was the end of our lease on the house and we knew we'd be moving out. he still stalked me for about 8 months after i moved out. and it took almost two years before he'd agree to give me a divorce. it's a vicious cycle. these abusers control you. not necessarily brain washed..but they lead you to believe they will take everything dear to you. unfortunately, alot of them do.
posted by
daisysface
on August 25, 2005 at 2:04 PM
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Wow thanks Tanoolicious....I only talk from experience....
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 25, 2005 at 2:02 PM
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Symph...
...you've expressed this extremely well and with a lot of good solid knowledge on the syndrome of the battered wife/girlfriend. While I don't personally know how it feels to stay in an abusive relationship, I have worked with women at shelters who have come to flee both physical and emotional abuse. A woman 'leaves' her partner an average of 7 times before she leaves for good. Of course some never leave, and some are killed by those men who vow they'll change. It's a cycle of abuse that is hard to break...not impossible though! Some (or most) of these women have grown up in abusive homes..to them love involves beatings..it's a way of life. It's certainly not easy for many to leave but you have put it all so well...it's not impossible. Way to go Symph...I hope you are able to reach many women.
posted by
ginnieb
on August 25, 2005 at 1:57 PM
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Sym that is one FANTASTIC post!!! You covered all areas perfectly!! I hope anyone suffering from abuse be it emotional or physical will get away from these monsters....
Sym why dont you send this post to some magazines? It would make a kick ass article!
posted by
Tanoolicious
on August 25, 2005 at 1:56 PM
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