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MiaElla
Just tell it to him like it is and then cut yourself some slack.
If he doesn't understand then he should be the goner not you luv. Remember the many fish in the ocean adage kiddo and do for YOU what you have to do.
This hospital thingy could take years for you to be able to deal with the issue.
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 21, 2005 at 7:51 PM
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Mia
explain to him as you did here. I am guessing he will totally understand why it was too much for you. If he doesn't then he is a jerk and dump his butt! Though from all you have said, he is not a jerk, so I think he willunderstand.
posted by
Bel_
on August 21, 2005 at 3:55 PM
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Who would you have left the kids with anyway?
If nothing else, I'm sure he will understand from that perspective.
posted by
word.smith
on August 21, 2005 at 12:26 PM
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Mia,
don't be so hard on yourself.
posted by
poeticspoken
on August 21, 2005 at 10:58 AM
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MiaElla
No, no, no.......what could you have possibly done while he was being tested? I'll tell you, nothing. Don't sweat it.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on August 21, 2005 at 10:16 AM
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I dont think you sound cold at all... if I were in your place I would have done the same thing.... even IF you wanted to go, you couldnt have tossed away responsibility and took off... he should understand that, and if he doesnt then thats not right!
*hugs* I hope it all turns out okay
posted by
Tanoolicious
on August 21, 2005 at 10:11 AM
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Mia
I think you’re being waaayyy too hard on yourself. You’re not cold, you’re not mean or bad for not going. I can understand feeling guilty about not being there, but there were both emotional AND practical reasons for not going. And all of your reasons make sense. You were responsible for those girls, which is a big responsibility, and you can’t just throw that into the wind to drive 1 ½ hours to go see him every time he gets sent to the hospital. And six months isn’t really a long time. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Tigger would still be your friend =)
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on August 21, 2005 at 10:08 AM
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Mia
HUG
Here's a
BEER.
I don't think it is as bad as you think. You had a perfectly good REASON why.
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on August 21, 2005 at 10:01 AM
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Mia..he'll understand...
...it's too hard for you. My niece couldn't go into a hospital for a couple of years after her mom died. She was actually having a baby and was determined to have it at home...was all prepared..and then had to be taken in an ambulance once complications set in. I was so scared for her as I knew she was afraid of hospitals. I honeslty think Riel will understand if you tell him why you couldn't come. Sounds like you had other reasons too though. Don't beat yourself up Mia...you've been through hell already.
posted by
ginnieb
on August 21, 2005 at 9:56 AM
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Nah...
Nah, I think you'll be fine. At least he's really sick, right?!
Why do you think he's gonna dump you for not going? Did he realize you had the kids with you? I think if he's a normal adult he'll realize that you COULDN'T be there. Have you called him today?
posted by
RachelAnna
on August 21, 2005 at 9:26 AM
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MiaElla!
You have a perfectly good reason and I don't know if I'd ever tell him. Maybe it could come up why you don't like emergency rooms, but not about him....That's a deep conversation and I wouldn't explain that to him now, over something trivial. The kids are what I'd say is why you couldn't go, he'd understand, everyone understands that!
You're too nice of a person to worry yourself like that.
posted by
SomeoneElse
on August 21, 2005 at 9:05 AM
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Mia, well, you could tell him later...I'm sure he'd understand?
posted by
Ariala
on August 21, 2005 at 8:43 AM
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Ariala
I never told him I didn't go because of my brother.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 21, 2005 at 8:39 AM
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Mia, I wouldn't feel that way about you if I were him...I'd understand what
you just said and let it go...not a biggie. Don't be so hard on yourself.
posted by
Ariala
on August 21, 2005 at 8:36 AM
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