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Thanks pakner
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 22, 2005 at 11:17 AM
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Joe_Love - thank you for all your comments
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 22, 2005 at 11:17 AM
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it's not easy to be nice specially when you're already pissed off, but kids are always kids.say NO politely and ignore them.
posted by
pakner
on August 21, 2005 at 10:52 PM
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mmmhmm
So your holiday wasn't as ummmm relaxing as you thought it would be. *grin*
posted by
Joe_Love
on August 20, 2005 at 9:53 PM
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Ben. thank you very much for the advice
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 20, 2005 at 3:29 PM
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When you can't avoid them, say no and ignore them thereafter. I used to get work dumped on me from neighbors too until I took action. It is so true about kids with huge appetites burning holes in others' pockets. :(
Ben.
posted by
A-and-B
on August 20, 2005 at 2:27 PM
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thank you ever so much for your comment RabbitFromtheWoods
saying No is easier said than done, but I do know I have too....and I must say - you are a wonderful mum - well done to you....take care and thanks again
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 20, 2005 at 12:38 PM
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Just say no
I understand completely where you're coming from, and I know I've let this kind of thing happen to me in the past. It's been an effort to change but it's not always best to be the 'nice guy'. (A few years ago, one of my children's friends was in the habit of dropping her son off as she was leaving to go somewhere! I found out that his older sisters wouldn't keep him, and apparently she would have him call my son on the phone just prior to bringing him, so she would know whether or not we were home!) Just recently, we moved and I'll be darned if another mom didn't try it again!As my kids have grown older, I am finding it's best to restrict or deny them when they want to go somewhere knowing that they are allowed to do things there that I won't allow at home (Which is usually why they like to go!) I make a point also, of checking in with their friends parents about their wishes before plans are made, and explaining to my kids that many people are too 'polite' or just want to be nice to them, but that doesn't make it any less of an imposition for them to just be hanging around somewhere continually etc. I don't allow it.
posted by
wiserabbit
on August 20, 2005 at 12:25 PM
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Thank you lovelyladymonk
again you are right too...although I would like to keep the peace because our holiday homes are very near to eachother...
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 20, 2005 at 12:06 PM
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DivineDiva....thank you so much, I know that you are right.
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 20, 2005 at 12:05 PM
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Thanks Tanoolicious
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 20, 2005 at 12:04 PM
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Symphony,
First off, I got your e-mail. Cheers!! I'll answer it in just a bit. Now, on to your problem....I hate to say this, because I tend to be a walk over myself....but I seriously think you should get this woman and her kids out of your life...for good.
You're right in saying they're only kids, but they are kids who have been extremely spoiled by their mum. As a result, you can be sure they not only walk all over you, but her as well and until she learns to put her foot down with them, this will always be the case.
You have every right to your space and privacy. You should NOT have to lock your door or ignore people simply because they think their children have the right to do whatever they please. (I have to tell you that reading that bit made me extremely angry).
Be firm with this woman and her kids...Put your foot down. If they don't like what you have to say, they don't like it...They either get over it or they don't...But that is their choice entirely and there's nothing you can do with people like that.
Best wishes to you.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 20, 2005 at 11:54 AM
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It's the mom you need to talk to Symph
Symph, the kids are just kids like you say, and probably like being with you 'cos you do answer them when they ask their 1,000 questions and your place is "new" with different things to see (and eat). When I was a kid I loved being at my best friend's house and he liked being at mine for just these reasons.
The mom of these kids is the one that needs to be spoken to - she is getting a free ride 'cos she has a built in babysitter! Tell her you enjoy her kids and that they are welcome in your house when they are invited, but not more than that. If you think the kids are capable of understanding, sit them down and tell them how much fun they are, but that this is your holiday home, for you to relax and unwind, so they must please mind their manners and come over when invited.
It might feel funny for a while, but you have to put your foot down or they will ruin the whole idea of the holiday home.
Good luck Symph !
posted by
DivineDiva
on August 20, 2005 at 11:30 AM
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Jeez I hate people like that ... they dont have a clue and get soooooo insulted if you tell them anything... I hope they at least get the point!
posted by
Tanoolicious
on August 20, 2005 at 11:30 AM
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