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May
As always, you make your points so well it is hard to add something substanative. So. . , I'll leave you with. . , "Yes, I agree". *grin*

posted by Joe_Love on August 20, 2005 at 4:54 PM | link to this | reply

MayB
Hi.. This is a good and interesting post. I would not be upset by constructive criticisum, I know that I have much room for improvment.. I'm open for any remarks except .. litttle snipits, that cause me to think that the person who wrote them thinks I'm so ignorant and won't catch them.

posted by BrightIrish on August 19, 2005 at 7:42 PM | link to this | reply

Avant-garde, exactly. Hopefully my feedback will iron out the issues which a publisher or editor will have no time and little tolerance to deal with. I think that editors are right to expect certain standards.

posted by Azur on August 19, 2005 at 2:23 PM | link to this | reply

well,
if you're not honest, then they'll be in for a shock by publishers and editors. you're in a no win situation, so be kind but firm and help them develop the toughness necessary to make it in this business.

posted by avant-garde on August 19, 2005 at 2:13 PM | link to this | reply

Thank you littlemspickles.

posted by Azur on August 19, 2005 at 2:01 PM | link to this | reply

Blackcat, luckily I'm good at being me. I spent my whole life doing it

posted by Azur on August 19, 2005 at 2:00 PM | link to this | reply

Frankenkitty, thank you. I'm not sure the students think that;-)

posted by Azur on August 19, 2005 at 1:59 PM | link to this | reply

I wish I had time to go back to school,
but first I need a long vacation. Have fun grading papers. Those are some lucky students.  Take care

posted by Flumpystalls3000 on August 19, 2005 at 12:55 PM | link to this | reply

the students need to hear the truth!
otherwise how do they improve? By the way, I liked your summary of the blogger's technique - it was spot on (for many of us).

posted by littlemspickles on August 19, 2005 at 12:10 PM | link to this | reply

frankly...
those who don't like me can kiss my a** lol haha that's just me!

posted by Marshallengraved on August 19, 2005 at 10:51 AM | link to this | reply

great post

posted by _Symphony_ on August 19, 2005 at 7:24 AM | link to this | reply

MayB... I'll try to remember to send you a link to something I find is

more off the wall but not reality show.  All I really meant was something less serious.  Honestly, there are a lot of us here with real jobs or other very demanding responsibilities.  I won't dump my workload on you, just trust me on this.  Blogit is just a fun break for me.  But.... Like I already said in your other post, you can only be you.  That's enough for me.

posted by -blackcat on August 19, 2005 at 7:03 AM | link to this | reply

I've found both with my boys and the kids I tutor that, even when they present work that has wrong answers or is done the wrong way, it helps to give them positive comments before criticism. So I would word things like "Well presented, however more time should have been taken in research." Always the positive first.

posted by Ca88andra on August 19, 2005 at 1:58 AM | link to this | reply

In your shoes,
I'd present my criticisms as neutrally as I could, but I'd be sure find something to praise as well;  think of them as children.  Yes, writers of all genres need to have thick skin.  We don't learn and grow as writers without someone else pointing out to us what didn't gel.  But we also need to hear what did gel, too.  (If this were a classroom setting, and this were my class, I'd set up a weekly critique session, where everyone critiques everyone else's work.  That way, they learn to accept criticism as part of the job, and they also learn important mechanics by critiquing others' work, as well.)  So, be honest, be fair, point out as many good things as you can as well as the "bad".  Be sure to explain why something didn't work, and offer suggestions--time and circustances permitting.  Without being condescending.  If the student has the right stuff, he or she will use all of that information to his or her best advantage.  It's not your responsibility to coddle them.  In fact, you'd be doing them a disservice.  I always welcome good criticism, when it's offered in an honest and respectful way.  

posted by SilverMoon7 on August 19, 2005 at 1:00 AM | link to this | reply

MayB
I'm glad you made sense of what I was saying...I can see you completely understood my points.  I'm really tired from my trip to San Antonio and was afraid I wasn't very clear.  I should have known you're so used to your students rambling,  you could easily get through mine!

posted by Krisles on August 19, 2005 at 12:19 AM | link to this | reply

I handle it like a pro...

I get my bat!!!

No, seriously, Use peer editing, if you've ever done it, as a guide.  Edit regarding the necessary punctuation and such, then give a bit of your analysis as to what the piece said to you.  Use phrases like "Your point here is good", "This works here, but might be stronger in paragraph 4", "You might try a format like this to better organize your points"...

I'm sure you get the idea.  Remember that people want to know what works and what didn't, and you'll probably be fine.  Also remember, some people will complain no matter how nicely you critique them, these are usually the same people who think it's gold nuggets they drop into the toilet every morning too!

Good Luck!!

ltlmac70 

posted by superflymom119 on August 19, 2005 at 12:15 AM | link to this | reply

Krisles, re sending emails making constructive criticism. This is something I do from time to time because I don't see the point in embarrassing people particularly when I only offer the criticism to help them. I feel good about doing it that way because I have always received a positive response. People are grateful for the feedback.

Yes, there is no explaining that conversation. I might edit it so that readers have a chance

posted by Azur on August 19, 2005 at 12:14 AM | link to this | reply

MayB
I read your post and it made such a good point....and then I read all the comments and got so lost in some other world - actually, it almost reminded me of some stoner conversation in a way - but maybe I'm just tired.....anyway, I think constructive criticism, worded truly constructively is going to be helpful and encouraging.  If a trend is noticed...a trend that one feels compelled to point out and doesn't know how to do it in terms that might be completely encouraging, perhaps an email would be better.  I don't know, just my thoughts.

posted by Krisles on August 19, 2005 at 12:09 AM | link to this | reply

MayB

Keep the gloves off! The truth is always a good thing, even if it hard to digest. You have one heck of a work load on you, how do you keep up with it all??

I have had a couple comments left in my posts that were less than desireable, but when I saw who wrote them, I had to take that into consideration too!!

posted by Offy on August 19, 2005 at 12:02 AM | link to this | reply

I know Blackcat30 and I do appreciate it. But I am not very good at fitting in.

I had to fit in enough this week. I had to fit in with the requirements to design a university course, I have to review a peer's course design (that peer is my BOSS at the university), I had to research a 900-word feature story for a newspaper about property, I had to write a proposal for a part-time writing gig I am in for, and I am grading 50+ feature stories to grade. Enough.


When I said examples I want to get a sense of what you see as "off the wall". I got enough assignments.
Just recommend me some stuff to read -- no hurry just when you notice something. Our understanding of "off the wall" may be as dissimilar as our understanding of r-e-s-p-e-c-t ;-) but I could be wrong.

There must be more than Ariala's mooning post. That is like the Blogit equivalent of a reality show on prime time TV. Very successful in its own way but not my thing.

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 11:36 PM | link to this | reply

lol. I'll huff and I'll puff and I'll blow your blog down! So...it wasn't intentionally funny then?

posted by Julia. on August 18, 2005 at 9:37 PM | link to this | reply

MayB... I wouldn't have suggested it, had you not asked for it?
Here is the post.... http://www.blogit.com/Blogs/Blog.aspx/Ariala3669/287401

posted by -blackcat on August 18, 2005 at 9:32 PM | link to this | reply

Now Quirky, don't get the huffs. I am sitting here sipping champagne because you thought I was funny;-). I've been working on that sentence a little more

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 9:31 PM | link to this | reply

Blackcat30, thanks for the idea. I missed that post and am not sure why I would have featured but I am very familiar with Ariala's style so I don't regard it as "off the wall". I am not after an "assignment" as I spend my days writing articles and assignments on nominated topics so I like the freedom here of choosing my own . But I am interested in examples of "off the wall" writing.

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 9:29 PM | link to this | reply

MayB--
What, you didn't like my comment?? ;-) I thought it was all right!!

posted by Julia. on August 18, 2005 at 9:26 PM | link to this | reply

MayB... it's tough to come up with an off the wall post, off the cuff. LOL
I was thinking you could reply in a post about your adventures in "mooning" if you happened to see Ariala's post yesterday.   You were mentioned.  It was quite funny in an "off the wall" sort of way.  What do you think? 

posted by -blackcat on August 18, 2005 at 9:18 PM | link to this | reply

GinnieB, I think university was almost never like this

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 9:17 PM | link to this | reply

Blackcat, one benefit of sticking closely to the wall is that nobody writes those hanging out to dry blogs about me, or maybe I missed something... no rush about the "off the wall" thoughts now, it can be our long term project.

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 9:16 PM | link to this | reply

Great article....
...reading some of it out loud to my stepdaughter who will be going to Uni soon...but...had a lot of laughs reading the comments!

posted by ginnieb on August 18, 2005 at 9:00 PM | link to this | reply

I haven't felt it either...but I must be irrestible, yes?

posted by Ariala on August 18, 2005 at 8:54 PM | link to this | reply

Tapsel_T, luckikly your stuff is pretty darn good and I aint just sayin' that

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 8:54 PM | link to this | reply

renigade3, funny how I never disagree with you :-) wouldn't dare

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 8:52 PM | link to this | reply

Can't say I'd felt the love...

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 8:51 PM | link to this | reply

Sassyass, very true. You've walked the walk (not on water). Thanks for the visit

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 8:51 PM | link to this | reply

It has already been claimed. LOL

posted by Ariala on August 18, 2005 at 8:51 PM | link to this | reply

Ariala, if you want to lay claim to constipation

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 8:49 PM | link to this | reply

blackcat, I've yet to see your "off the wall" suggestions

posted by Azur on August 18, 2005 at 8:48 PM | link to this | reply

she's going to write something "off the wall" next... she wanted
suggestions.... Got any? 

posted by -blackcat on August 18, 2005 at 8:43 PM | link to this | reply

Its just part of the real world
It is how we learn to write even better then before. Constructive criticism is not always a bad thing. It is bound to happen to any writer that submits their work, unless of course they can walk on water.

posted by Sherri_G on August 18, 2005 at 8:37 PM | link to this | reply

MayB, better aint nobody criticizes my stuff.

posted by TAPS. on August 18, 2005 at 8:25 PM | link to this | reply

If they're real, I punch 'em. If they're bloggers, I find 'em and THEN
punch 'em!  lol

posted by Renigade on August 18, 2005 at 8:03 PM | link to this | reply

MayB--
That WAS a gross generalization, and perhaps one of the longest sentences I've ever seen in my entire life!! And, gosh I sure hope you were going for humorous because I thought it was great!! ;-) I don't mind people disagreeing with me, as long as they can do it without name-calling or verbal attacks.

posted by Julia. on August 18, 2005 at 7:53 PM | link to this | reply

What's wrong with these freakin bloggers anyway? Gad.

posted by Ariala on August 18, 2005 at 7:50 PM | link to this | reply