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well done - great post
posted by
_Symphony_
on August 16, 2005 at 5:49 AM
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Actually, I think its the more sex you have the more you want, or something like that. Which sort of works with me, however when I'm going through a drought I still want it. *sigh* Good to read your first time was nice and your partner considerate. I had a good first time too, but not many do from what I hear.
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 16, 2005 at 2:20 AM
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Very sweet and honest...
posted by
Renigade
on August 15, 2005 at 7:41 PM
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This was a really nice post. BB
posted by
Justi
on August 15, 2005 at 7:26 PM
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Mia
This is one of the most profound statements I have heard in a long time
And then I realized, I am not God. I am not without sin. I can not hope to lead by example, unless I make mistakes, and redeem myself from those mistakes. I have nothing to teach, no knowlegde to share, if I am (in my eyes) so much without sin, that I judge those who are sinners.
What a wonderful way to think about things and an excellent philosphy. I have to admit, I was much more worried about sex BEFORE I had it than after. Granted, it tends to be very much on the brain now...but after 10 months I guess I can go back to the theory of worrying it and wanting it because I don't have it LOL!
posted by
Bel_
on August 15, 2005 at 6:54 PM
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Oh Mia!
Now here I was, thinking of taking a break from blogit...and then I read your comment and realize what a great place this is and now I'm hating to leave my friends. You are special Mia!
posted by
ginnieb
on August 15, 2005 at 2:05 PM
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Jimson
I'm saving reading it until tonight when I settle down to the computer with a nice rum and coke....and no ringing phones, faxes, or distractions...
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 1:44 PM
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I knew there was something about that theory...
hmmmmmm...I feel paranoid now! Hey, I don't know if you've been reading it but I posted chapter 7 last night, in case you were reading it. I think it's all your fault it's hogging a whole blog! :)
posted by
SomeoneElse
on August 15, 2005 at 1:37 PM
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welcome aboard.
posted by
mikebrown
on August 15, 2005 at 1:06 PM
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girly-girl
I'm not sure he felt privileged. He just asked why him. He's been acting different I think, or maybe it's my own fears that makes me think so...lol.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 1:00 PM
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Hey girl!
I had NO IDEA that the big event happened! Well, I guess it was your time, and i am glad Riel felt privileged. He probably felt like, "This is so much pressure!" Love, GG
posted by
buttsup
on August 15, 2005 at 12:54 PM
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Hemlocker
I grew up in a family where sex is very sinful...you go straight to hell....it's dirty...bad...yada yada yada...the strange thing was....out of all my siblings...I was the only one not having it....
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 12:51 PM
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mial ella--sex is not sin either,
unless you are exploiting and hurting others. Before I had sex, I was convinced that everyone in the world but me was having it. That made me feel that I was missing something very important, and I felt envious. I was never obsessed with sex. In fact, I had a rather pathological sort of fear of the intimacy that goes with sex. Something from my mother, I guess. Glad that you've found balance. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on August 15, 2005 at 12:45 PM
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Jimson
So are you admitting that theory was based on you? LOL...muhaaaa
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 11:09 AM
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hmmm.
You've done better than I. See when I lost mine, I felt a difference, almost as if the grass became greener and the air became fresher..... for about a minute!!!! Then I wanted some more and more and more and to this day I still want more and more and more, now I'm just older. :)
I'm happy for you
posted by
SomeoneElse
on August 15, 2005 at 10:55 AM
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Xeno-x
That is how I see God too. Thank you for your kind words.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 10:54 AM
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odd here
what rgylford says
such statements can lead us to expect too much of "God".
Jesus said "God makes his rain to fall on the good and evil alike."
plays no favorites mainly.
it's the life lived sincerely that counts.
I see your sincerity.
posted by
Xeno-x
on August 15, 2005 at 10:41 AM
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About Christianity
Mia,
You'll find, as I have, that life is a lot easier to live somewhere between the extremes. God is intimately involved in all our lives. He's in a partnership with us, and he doesn't stick us on time-out or give us the cold shoulder if we fail to follow everything to the letter all the time.
People on the other hand...
You had a goal, and you stuck to it for a long time...longer than many people you know. That's a good thing.
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on August 15, 2005 at 10:26 AM
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Frankenkitty
Haha.....next time I do something this "big" I'll wait until your back in town...lol....I guess I had a devil on my shoulder recently too...lol...
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 10:26 AM
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Wow! Big news!
I leave town and miss everything! Now I am going to the other post.... take care
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on August 15, 2005 at 10:23 AM
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rgylford
it's no wonder you had some ill-feelings toward losing your virginity....geez...some people...why do people assume the moral fiber of your being changes...
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 9:47 AM
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My first "lover"
The one I wrote about in that comment on your blog a couple of days ago, told me two days before we slept together that, "...and if I give you some, you'll be trying to F*@#$$K everything that moves..."
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on August 15, 2005 at 9:28 AM
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ginnieb
You are so sweet. If I didn't have people like you in my life, this whole "experience" probably wouldn't have been so good. I don't have very many supportive, understanding people in my day to day life anymore...they live in different parts of the country, so I'm glad I have all of you.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 9:06 AM
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rgylford
Lol...we'll I'm gullible...that was part of the reason I didn't want to have sex...thought I'd become an addict...like drinking coffee or something....LMAO.....I'm just silly sometimes....I believe things people tell me like they know what they are talking about....<shrugging> My brother once told me he wrote gullible on the ceiling and guess what? Yup, I looked.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 9:04 AM
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Original_Influence
Very true.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 9:02 AM
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I think that's a healthier attitude Mia...
...everyone is an individual...I dont' think that people should be living their lives under some sort of ethereal rule...you are a very good person where it counts..and to me..that's the most important value to have!
posted by
ginnieb
on August 15, 2005 at 9:01 AM
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That's a STUPID Myth, but
It must happen to some people somewhere or maybe humans are just that gullible.
posted by
AlienInsomniac
on August 15, 2005 at 8:58 AM
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In the end, it is what the individual thinks that counts!
posted by
Original_Influence
on August 15, 2005 at 8:51 AM
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Uni
You make me laugh!
Silly, silly goose.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 8:45 AM
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FactorFiction
I think my friends just like to toy with me because it's funny to them...haha...the stuff they've told me.....lol....I'm just glad I didn't believe
everything!
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 8:44 AM
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Quirky
Thanks! I'm glad you stopped by.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 8:43 AM
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=)
Here’s where the congratulations come to bear. You’ve freed yourself from a terrible series of guilt inflicted inhibitions and habits. See, sex you’re a lot like me sex in that after sex having sex I didn’t sex really sex become obsessed sex with sex sex. SEX SEX SEX. So it’s all good =P
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on August 15, 2005 at 8:43 AM
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Yup, I think it's healthy to move on now...
sortof a Phew, what a relief to not have that be an issue anymore sort of thing...
that's just how I would have been anyway. I suppose. Luckily, it was not a problem for me...I never heard that "you would never want to stop" idea... too funny!
posted by
FactorFiction
on August 15, 2005 at 8:41 AM
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OMG--I'm just catching up and learning of the big "event"--hey good for you!! You're right, it won't change your morals or values...so enjoy it!
posted by
Julia.
on August 15, 2005 at 8:41 AM
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Vib
Thanks! I hope you know you have a beautiful soul
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 8:35 AM
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mmm-w
You're so right....lol...
posted by
MiaElla
on August 15, 2005 at 8:34 AM
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you're only a slut
if you think you are. The number of men you sleep with is irrelevent and nobodys business. Enjoy yourself, enjoy your body. God Goddess loves you exactly as you are and so do I. Love, Vib
posted by
Vibrance
on August 15, 2005 at 8:31 AM
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there is no longer the "grass is greener" mentality... you wondering about sex, feeling excluded from everyone else having sex.... you have done it. it is totally normal for your mind to "move on" now....
posted by
mmm-w
on August 15, 2005 at 8:25 AM
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