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Vane kind of hit on the point I was going to make. Men have that Madonna/whore fantasy thing going one. Like every woman should come to them a virgin, yet be a tiger in the bedroom. Then again, some of the men might have actually been sensitive and concerned.
posted by
Holy_Grail
on August 13, 2005 at 7:42 AM
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Mia,
I think the men are right on...it is truly worth the wait...you'll never have to deal with regrets if you take your time and do it when the time is right...
posted by
SincerityAnna
on August 13, 2005 at 7:41 AM
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Once you start, you're not going to stop.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on August 12, 2005 at 9:51 PM
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Strange there was such a difference in answers between the men and women, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised. I say go with your gut feeling. Your instincts will tell you whether its right or not.
posted by
Ca88andra
on August 12, 2005 at 9:28 PM
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men want to live in this fantasy world where women are virgins, and save themselves for marriage or love. Whereas they get to f*ck everything in a skirt before they find the one. The fact is if you're ready, you should go for it. it doesn't have to be about love, in fact, some of the best sex I've hade was sans the love. Sex is meant to be fun for us too, and it doesn't always have to be emotional.
posted by
Vanidad
on August 12, 2005 at 8:40 PM
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I say do what comes naturally...
You are a changed person over the last months because of life experiences, so you may make different decisions than you would have before because of that. Nothing wrong with that... You're a woman, you're allowed to change your mind any time you want to.
posted by
RachelAnna
on August 12, 2005 at 6:50 PM
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I think you should just let things be by which I mean set no rules and follow your own instincts. None of us is sure that anything will be perfect when we set out. If we put such pressure on ourselves about the right time it makes it harder. It's like when we have babies, (which I know is related to but not what you are speaking of as such) I started out planning and learned that things happen in their time. Let that time emerge
posted by
Azur
on August 12, 2005 at 6:24 PM
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Mia Mia
So true, so true. Getting pounded into the ground would most defina--wait, fovorite male blogger?! *faints on the keyboard*kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on August 12, 2005 at 3:51 PM
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I hate to say this but generally speaking I wouldn't come within a mile of
a virgin. I like a woman who knows what she's doing. Ideally, I think a woman should have been doing most of it, if not all, for about five years so she will know what she likes, and how to do it.
posted by
scriber
on August 12, 2005 at 2:01 PM
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Mia... besides... what woman wants a virgin? Men need practice... LOL
posted by
-blackcat
on August 12, 2005 at 1:54 PM
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Uni
Yeah...I didn't want to let on to the truth...you're a tall guy and all, but a little on the skinny side...I couldn't have my favorite male blogger beaten to the ground, now could I ....haha
posted by
MiaElla
on August 12, 2005 at 1:52 PM
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See! See!
The girls think the same thing I thought! Better they say it than me though haha =P
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on August 12, 2005 at 1:50 PM
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blackcat30
Meow.....lol.....you get me crackin' up like no other
posted by
MiaElla
on August 12, 2005 at 1:49 PM
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Krisles
Whew...am I glad to know not alone...I don't know about you, but I tend to drive those around me crazy with all my "thinking" ....lol
posted by
MiaElla
on August 12, 2005 at 1:48 PM
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I think the men are saying to wait... because a small tiny part of them
thinks that they have a chance with you! LOL
posted by
-blackcat
on August 12, 2005 at 1:47 PM
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MiaElla
Analysis Paralysis....I've been accused myself! Curiosity is fine, I didn't realize that's what you were doing!
posted by
Krisles
on August 12, 2005 at 1:43 PM
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Word
Haha...I didn't even think of that! So good to see you.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 12, 2005 at 1:41 PM
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Krisles
Hey, nice to hear from you. It's true guys get to see "women" on a truer, clearer level on blog-it....a peek into our uncensored world, honest input, etc. And I agree with the whole Madonna/whore aspect. In history, men had wives they had sex with, but used mistresses for oral sex...because they didn't want their wife’s mouths contaminated when they kissed their children. It sounds so crazy to me now, but I think some men are still like this today. Ah...and I know I shouldn't ask so many questions, it makes me look like I'm polling people for the answers to my own question, which only I can answer. That just not the case...it's the damn psychologist in me...my analytical mind....perhaps also my worst enemy and critic....lol...I live for the science of the why and how...instead of for the moment and life I am presently in. Perhaps I should seek therapy...lol...
posted by
MiaElla
on August 12, 2005 at 1:40 PM
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miaella
You also have to remember that the men on here deal with women in real life who are dealing with them in real life....meaning that they have to live with them in real life, be the women that they (these men) need them to be in real life...and nearly all men have the Madonna/Whore problem with women built into their psyche on some level, no matter how intelligent, how worldly, how in touch with their emotional side, how many sisters they had, etc., etc....and most are not even aware of it...it goes back to my favorite graffiti(sp?) - saw it on a bar table in OKC, and most men never get it - "the reason most mothers are more fond of their children than most fathers is they are more sure they are theirs". Men have from the beginning of time had a much more vested interest in virginity...take all the romanticism away from it, think of the pure property value that women had from the beginning until not that long ago, and in too many cultures, this very day...than women really do. Not all women have actually done the thinking on this and buy into it themselves, have to, in order to go along with it...but, in their heart, we are much more pragmatic about the whole virginity thing... So, my point is, when the women on Blogit "talk" here, we are talking much more openly here and these men see into our true feelings about these things...they get to see the way women talk when it's just the girls, not having to protect the guys from their fantasies about women..... Now, all that said, you have held onto your virginity for your own reasons...you should do what feels right, when it feels right for you and only you - I suggest you quit taking polls and stuff though...you're building it up to be the most important thing in the world and it is but one step in what should be a beautiful chapter of the rest of your life that just gets richer and richer.
posted by
Krisles
on August 12, 2005 at 1:28 PM
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Mia...seems all the good men are on Blogit!
posted by
word.smith
on August 12, 2005 at 1:28 PM
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TIMMYTALES
You are so right....hahahah! Omigosh.....I can't stop laughing.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 12, 2005 at 1:06 PM
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MiaElla
If you were a guy, the answers would probably be reversed with the guys saying "do it" and the women saying "no, save yourself"
It is rare to find a virgin, something most guys will only fantasize about. I would think the same holds true for women. Being the first, to have all others compared to you, to your performance.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on August 12, 2005 at 1:05 PM
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mia ella
I think most of the women on Blogit are, shall we say, atypical, in relation to the general population. When I was "available", if I had run into such women on a regular basis, there's no telling what would have happened to me. I say you do what is comfortable for you, and don't get wheedled into anything you don't want to do, or have doubts about. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on August 12, 2005 at 1:03 PM
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Mia mia
Hey, I like being outside the norm. A guy who said go for it! Woohoo!
posted by
Unidentified_Hacker
on August 12, 2005 at 1:00 PM
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