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Whim
My experience tells me you have made a very very good point there.
posted by
Luxbring
on July 28, 2003 at 9:57 AM
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Moving Out
I have always said when my kids turn 18, they had a choice--be gainfully employed and pay me rent or be a full-time student. And, by rent, I mean enough rent to make a dent in their wallet, none of this $10 a week stuff. I want it to hurt bad enough that living on their own looks good in comparison. In the meantime, I don't care if they are adults, my rules still stick under my roof.
I don't feel any parent is doing their child a favor by allowing them to use them and their home as a flophouse when life gets too hard in the real world. Sure, be there for short-term emergencies, but in the long run, they should know they are expected to stand on their own two feet. They won't learn to be independent and self-sufficient otherwise.
The problem is many of these parents, and it is usually the moms, don't want the kids to leave. They don't want to be alone or are afraid they will be forgotten if their kids move out, so they create circumstances where the child remains dependent.
posted by
Whim
on July 28, 2003 at 9:08 AM
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Tough Love
I hope my children grow up to be good, up-standing people. But I wonder if I could have enough "tough love" to kick them out if they became "dead-beat kids"?
posted by
koriani
on July 28, 2003 at 8:53 AM
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