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Justsouno --- you are more than a little confused
Blogit is a members only site and I contribute to it (as everyone else does) under the alias of a user name. This little fact makes anything I put to print virtually anonymous, adding a further veil of anonymity to anyone I may refer to in such vague terms as "mother in law" or "crazed bible thumping in laws". To call it public ridicule of an individual ignores this fact. Also my wife is in full agreement that her family is "crazed" in their religiously induced fervor. Much like some contributors to this site, they have replaced reasonable behaviour, respect for the beliefs of others and simple common sense with the self righteous notion that they are justified in doing anything they please in furtherance of their own beliefs. In the future, you may save yourself a lot of grief by simply not reading my postings. I've suggested this to you before. Little snide comments, such as this last one by you, which has nothing to do with the posting's topic ... are not welcome.
posted by
gomedome
on July 30, 2005 at 7:39 AM
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I do have something to add. I am very sorry for your wife. Married to a man
who publically ridicules her mother. Such trashy behavior.
posted by
Justi
on July 29, 2005 at 11:55 PM
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WhiteJedi ---that is a valid point and understanding the issue has some
value in a global and historical sense but it really is dependant in how the subject is approached. To simply query what is wrong with it more than suggests that the enquiring indvidual is simply looking for answers, it implies that the person is comfortable with it and even is a proponent of it as another lifestyle option. Whenever a subject such as this is approached it must be done with due caution, if not treated this way it serves to further desensitize us towards it's ramifications.
posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 7:51 PM
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I did a paper for one of my lit classes that examined the topic of incest. It is far more common in the U.S. than most of us would like to admit. Birth defects are only a small slice of the pie. There are cases of miscarriage or the baby simply not surviving. Father/daughter incest can also lead to promiscuity in the daughter. Many of these girls become prostitutes because they have learned to associate love with sex. I do think cousins marrying is perfectly acceptable. There is an extremely low chance of birth defects. I think it's like one in a million. However, I do believe people need to at least be open minded. The question, why incest? is an intelligent one. To assume that every culture has and does marry/have intimate relationships in the same manner as Americans is not only ethnocentric but also incredibly arragont. There are many different forms of marriage. If nothing else, incest should be understood in an historical sense.
posted by
WhiteJedi
on July 29, 2005 at 5:28 PM
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Hmmm....I'm clueless, how did you?
posted by
Ariala
on July 29, 2005 at 4:37 PM
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Ariala -- how did I already know that?
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posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 4:33 PM
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avant-garde - thanx -- I made a point of dealing only with the practical
and tangible from a pragmatic perspective. I may make an attempt to deal with the intangible later.
posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 4:32 PM
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Gome, I agree...very much so
posted by
Ariala
on July 29, 2005 at 4:31 PM
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Ariala - playing devil's advocate or not - there are some subjects that
should be treated with due caution.
posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 4:30 PM
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kooka_lives -- there were two such comments
And I know what you mean. To me the first one was a good stiff jab while the second one was an unexpected uppercut. I couldn't believe what I was reading.
posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 4:26 PM
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Hemlocker -the answer to why dignify the question with a response is simple
to me. It is an inherent sense of duty. Once the initial shock is overcome one is forced to answer. If there is any chance at all that the persons asking these questions are in fact looking for an answer to something we all assume need not be asked in the first place, we need to make the answers forthcoming. It is vital to not let the seeds of any form of contrarian thinking, when dealing with this issue, be planted. It is equally important to arrest this avenue of thought before it establishes itself. In this posting I intentionally dealt with the tangible and practical pitfalls of this subject, feeling that anyone so limited as to ask these questions may hopefully understand.
posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 4:21 PM
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gome
I admire your patience and need to know, but why even dignify such a question--"What's so wrong with incest?" by responding? Well, at least that person asked a question. There are some here, for the most part in the religion section, who have no need of questions since all the answers are already revealed to them and it's just a matter of getting the rest of us on board to make this a world we can all be proud to own. Hemlocker
posted by
Hemlocker
on July 29, 2005 at 3:42 PM
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gomedome
great post. good thoughts and good reasoning.
posted by
avant-garde
on July 29, 2005 at 1:32 PM
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I saw that comment
And was just at a lost as to what to say in reply.
It is one of those things that throws you off balance.
posted by
kooka_lives
on July 29, 2005 at 1:32 PM
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Oh, and he does have kids...adult kids, too! LOL
posted by
Ariala
on July 29, 2005 at 11:23 AM
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Gome, because I "know" this person and how he thinks, I believe he
personally doesn't buy into incest, but what was looking for "logical" reasons why anyone of us would stand in the way of grown "adults" marrying each other...he did say he was against adults marrying children or anyone hurting animals. He likes to play devil's advocate and in this case, I think he went too far.
posted by
Ariala
on July 29, 2005 at 11:22 AM
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Ariala - it is almost a certainty that whoever would suggest such a thing
or ask such questions is not a parent and has never really thought about the subject. But it does make one wonder what their parents taught them growing up?
posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 11:20 AM
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Gome, and that's just one more thing I can add to the list of the many
things "that blogger" and I DON'T have in common.
Incest is among one of the worst things I can think of.
posted by
Ariala
on July 29, 2005 at 11:17 AM
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Schatz -- there are cases where outrage is decidedly a good thing
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posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 10:53 AM
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Deplorable. I guess I am judgmental.
posted by
Schatz
on July 29, 2005 at 10:43 AM
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Schatz -- thanx for stopping bye ---- no they were not joking
The recent comments on the subject left me muttering to myself in stunned disbelief.
posted by
gomedome
on July 29, 2005 at 10:38 AM
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I just can't walk away.....
Were these Bloggers joking, or are you reporting actual human beings with intelligence advanced enough to use a computer and to write with any degree of clarity actually asked this in seriousness?
Aaarrrrggggggggghhhhhhhhhh. Terrorists? We're lucky to escape our
neighbors.
posted by
Schatz
on July 29, 2005 at 10:30 AM
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Good grief, you did better than I could've done. Glad to see your sense of right and wrong intact and fully operational.
posted by
Schatz
on July 29, 2005 at 10:27 AM
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