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I had to remove my
journal in fear that my ex-husband would find it. It is a real risk that you are taking. Love, Vib
posted by
Vibrance
on July 26, 2005 at 10:31 AM
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Yup...
Keep blogging and don't delete the posts. My philosophy is that if a person is gonna go digging, they are very likely to find something that they do not like. And, the only person they have to blame for that is themselves. Don't stop blogging and being yourself. That's what this is about. If someone comes snooping, well, they have to deal. This is your personal little space you've carved out for yourself where you can feel free to write about your crazy family and his ugly shoes. It could be worse, you could have dropped all that information on the first date!
posted by
RachelAnna
on July 25, 2005 at 9:08 PM
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Mia, one should no have to be afraid of who they are. Go on with your life.
posted by
Justi
on July 25, 2005 at 5:51 PM
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mia
You are pretty easy to find, I am sorry to say....if he looks, he should see you right away. But, if you can't be yourself and be honest, it really doesn't matter in the long run. 
posted by
FactorFiction
on July 25, 2005 at 3:42 PM
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OH yes...I met your sister once Mia!
Loved the photos of you two! But wow..didn't know your Dad was on too! Do we know who he is?
posted by
ginnieb
on July 25, 2005 at 3:29 PM
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well think about it this way... 1) if he searches for you.. be flattered, that means he cares.. 2) he can't read your blogs on blogit, without joining up and paying that fee.. 3) if he joins, at least you'll get paid for him reading your blogs!
LOL. but never in a million years, feel you have to censor yourself because, what if.... be who you are, if he cant handle it, then he's not worth having around!! 
posted by
daisysface
on July 25, 2005 at 2:21 PM
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scriber
How would he know that if I didn't tell him....it's not like I'm prudish or uptight or ugly or even cold.
Is it because I haven't slept with him yet? lol
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 1:24 PM
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It's common sense that we don't worry about strangers
knowing our sexual, or other, secrets. He probably already knows you are a virgin. That you don't like his shores might be troublesome.
posted by
scriber
on July 25, 2005 at 1:17 PM
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Geez...I would much rather have complete strangers reading my stuff than
friends and family any day.
posted by
Renigade
on July 25, 2005 at 12:22 PM
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ginnie
My sister and dad are both on blog-it. I know I've made them mad a time or too....hehe
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 12:20 PM
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But it's all you Mia!
And that YOU is a great person! I can understand that you don't want him to know too much right now though...but I'm guessing you wouldn't have too much to hide. I once mentioned to my mother-in-law about blogit...as soon as she left I deleted any blogs about her..and there were a few..I'd been 'venting' while she stayed with us. Some blogs obviously could be damaging....I'm guessing yours aren't!
posted by
ginnieb
on July 25, 2005 at 12:10 PM
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MIA
You summed it up yourself...........so what if he reads it.........if it is the true you, he should accept you for you.
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on July 25, 2005 at 11:04 AM
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fwmystic
What a great idea for a movie! Thanks!
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 10:45 AM
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Mia - what a great post!
and the answer, of course, is that most people are perfectly willing and content to tell a total stranger the most intimate details of their life that they are unwilling to share with friends and lovers, or in your case, family.
a 29 year old virgin?
now there's a play or movie there! Maybe post about all the pleas and rationalizations you've heard from males as to why you should give it up.
posted by
fwmystic
on July 25, 2005 at 10:22 AM
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mmm-w
It would be an invasion of privacy...however I think he secretly thinks I want him to read it since I brought it up, which isn't the case. I just have a stupid mouth...a stupid stupid mouth that says anything it wants, whenever it wants....lol...but he also pointed this out...if strangers can read about my personal life...why can't someone who wants to be a personal part of my life....he got me there a little.
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 6:13 AM
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kingmi
Every relationship I've had (that the guy ended it): he ended because of my family or my virginity....sometimes both...so maybe that means I haven't found the right person....and I'm weeding them out....but I still don't want someone I'm newly dating to read my diary....lol. How embarrassing.
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 6:10 AM
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hopelessLoser
oh...and the referral thing...great idea! Why didn't I think of that........lmao.
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 6:07 AM
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hopelessLoser
Haha...you read that right. 
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 6:06 AM
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Temple
You really are sweet. Thanks!
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 6:05 AM
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Madame_P.O.
Yeah....lol...those are things he'll eventually find out. I guess I just don't want him to find out yet. Not enough time has passed to reveal things that could be the "kiss of death" for a new relationship.
posted by
MiaElla
on July 25, 2005 at 6:04 AM
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ok... i am sure it will be fine, (most guys seem like they could care less and wouldn't track you down anyway..... much less read through your archives) BUT if he did, well..... maybe you should re-evaluate things because it is kind of an invasion of boundaries unless he let you know upfront.
posted by
mmm-w
on July 25, 2005 at 1:44 AM
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MiaElla, every risk takes you further in your life and relationships. Mayb
you are doing the right thing. Ever consider that?
posted by
kingmi
on July 24, 2005 at 10:02 PM
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I'm with temple.
I don't think you have anything to worry about, I'd leave it alone and not bring it up again. If he persists than let him pay the membership under your referral and get the twenty bucks. By the time all that happens you should be a dozen posts past this subject and it won't matter. But yeah, he shouldn't be trying to spy on you that way. I'm impressed that you are still a virgin at 29, did I read that right? Will you marry me? LOL
posted by
SomeoneElse
on July 24, 2005 at 9:15 PM
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If he looks for you and you have asked him not to...
That tells you what you need to know about
him, doesn't it? You requested privacy and trust, so he should respect that....and even if curiosity gets the best of him, he will have to sit with it quietly because he broke the rules. You didn't do anything wrong. Plus, if he can't accept you for who you are, then there's something else you're better off knowing. Don't you dare delete your blogs or do one thing differently.
posted by
Temple
on July 24, 2005 at 9:12 PM
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I don't understand.
Isn't he bound to find out about your "crazy family" and virginity (you know there's a telltale sign, right?) eventually, anyway? Or, do you just mean to keep those things hidden a little while longer (until the relationship becomes more solid)?
posted by
Mademoiselle
on July 24, 2005 at 9:07 PM
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