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Cass, but the Champion of what?
Cheese?  ;)  Thanks, love....I'll take your word for it.

posted by Temple on July 23, 2005 at 3:35 AM | link to this | reply

You are The Champion and always will be...

posted by Ca88andra on July 22, 2005 at 9:56 PM | link to this | reply

Yes, sad is a permanent bedfellow....even when I say I'm okay.
Such is the way of losing love...and feeling lied to, still.  But, it will pass.  It's funny you say that about the tea.....I go through tea phases and it always ends up in my posts.  I've had people say, I HATE tea, but now I want some!  :)  I believe in the magical properties of tea and I guess it shows through.  It also helps that it's not as hot here, although we have had a couple of hot days....not like you guys though.  Take care, stay cool :)

posted by Temple on July 22, 2005 at 1:16 AM | link to this | reply

Wow, how sad--but I guess you knew that already. On the upside,
you sure do know how to make a cup of tea sound REALLY good--even in this nasty Texas heat!

posted by Renigade on July 21, 2005 at 10:11 PM | link to this | reply

Temp
you are very welcome, :)

posted by smartdog_670 on July 21, 2005 at 9:12 PM | link to this | reply

smartdog
I don't know how liberating "I don't know" is for me -- in fact, it makes me pretty nuts.  I like to -- need to -- know and don't do well with uncertainty.  I try to live with uncertainty, because that is where, as you said, the possibilities are.  As far as my writing goes, thank you for such a strong and wonderful compliment.  It was lovely and I appreciate it.  I write to sort things out, whether it ends up here or not, and to see the picture.  Obviously here it is more polished, but the process of it helps me answer my own questions.  I do think it is a great gift that I can sit down and write out what is in my heart and on my mind, and find ways to make a shift back into a better place...find something more positive...sort through something.  And, I do think it's a gift that sometimes something I write people feel drawn, to.  It's been my outlet since I was a child.  I can use your words, but I thank you for them, and for your support and kindness through this tough time.  :)

posted by Temple on July 21, 2005 at 6:39 PM | link to this | reply

Temple
I have found that the most liberating phrase for me when I'm in a tough spot is "I don't know..." It allows me to see doorways I never thought were there in the first place. And it immediately opens my mind to new ideas; new ways of living.

I'm not sure how you do it, but I find myself drawn into your words - gently, and lovingly. I think you have a real talent for expressing what is in your heart, and for making the reader understand what you are going through. This was strong and evocative writing. What I'm saying is, you forgot one very important blessing that you have: a talent for putting emotions into words and the ability to express universal truths to others.

take care,
-smartdog

posted by smartdog_670 on July 21, 2005 at 5:27 PM | link to this | reply

HG, yes indeed....

I've been writing and things have been developing....I just have to decided what I want to post on next.  But, it should be soon. :)

posted by Temple on July 21, 2005 at 4:36 PM | link to this | reply

mystic, you're right, sometimes it is nobody's fault...
But, I think looking at it allows us, at least me, to learn and grow from it so maybe I can do better.  When you know better, you do better and all that.  I'm sure I do put too much energy into it though sometimes.  I think things after the fact could have been handled with more sensitivity and compassion, but it's not what's he's able to do... not able to look at anything other than what doesn't cause him pain.  I hope he learns from this, too, because although pain sucks, it creates depth....and in that depth lives true, lasting love.  I hope I get over this soon, too.  I'm doing better though...every day. 

posted by Temple on July 21, 2005 at 4:35 PM | link to this | reply

temple
Glad you'll be posting "in real time" again soon! ;-)

posted by Holy_Grail on July 21, 2005 at 4:05 PM | link to this | reply

Temple - this is painful to read ...
sometimes it's nobody's fault, and to go back and try to determine what you did and what you should have done is an exercise in futility and a tremendous waste of energy. I hope you get over this soon.

posted by fwmystic on July 21, 2005 at 2:42 PM | link to this | reply

Passionflower, it is brutal when those things happen.
I've found they happen more than once in life, and it's testment to my abiity to pick the wrong people or do the wrong things.  I don't regret time with Jimmy, but we both regret that for such exeptional communiators we couldn't say what we needed to each other.  It's of no matter now, since he is in love with someone else and I am letting him go.  Thank you for the kind wishes, and I am getting up and moving on...just not as fast as he did.  It takes time for me.

posted by Temple on July 21, 2005 at 12:25 PM | link to this | reply

Quirky
The blessings bring growth and change, and hopefully we break old patterns if we take sometimes to focus on them...and the painful things.  As far as the posts, I'm not sure what you mean.  The poems are small, that's how they flow in my head...that's the rythym.  By widenening them you mean make them bigger or put them more in the middle of the page, I don't think sylistically I could get it to present how I want it to.  I'm not sure what you mean.  I just post them on the left side of the box and send them in.  Sorry if they are difficult to read.  I had a host of reagular writers that seemed to not know I'm back or not be reading lately, so that's why I mentioned that.  Anyway, nice to see you here in Gidget. :)

posted by Temple on July 21, 2005 at 12:21 PM | link to this | reply

Everyone I loved let me down too...it was the hardest thing I ever

Had to recover from...People you love intensely, people you care for deeply, just walking out of your life like you don't matter. I'm naive too and trust too easily and I'm too transparent...alway my downfall.

Sorry to hear you're suffering but I hope you find the courage to get up again and move forward.

posted by Passionflower on July 21, 2005 at 10:33 AM | link to this | reply

Focusing on the blessings and having gratitude for them goes a long way toward improving our moods...and eventually our lives. You know I love reading your poetic blogs, but I find the teeny tiny width very difficult to contend with--is there any change you could widen the posts...an inch or two??

posted by Julia. on July 21, 2005 at 10:23 AM | link to this | reply