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MayB
Perhaps some professional help for him might be good. Like even a talk with a person of the cloth? Spiritual help? Just a thought kiddo
posted by
WileyJohn
on July 16, 2005 at 8:41 AM
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QuirkyAlone, optimism is what I choose
posted by
Azur
on July 16, 2005 at 4:26 AM
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Joe Love, perhaps he's not feeling intimidated but like he failed
posted by
Azur
on July 16, 2005 at 12:19 AM
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May
It sounds to me that he might feel a little intimidated by your possible success.
posted by
Joe_Love
on July 15, 2005 at 10:09 PM
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don't they say that to try to buoy up someone only results in both people being down?? I hope that by stepping back you can keep your optimism.
posted by
Julia.
on July 15, 2005 at 8:46 PM
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MayB,
I'm sure you know - just by your own experiences - that relationships take so much work. It's even worse when in a situation such as yours. You both work in the same field so I would think it would be easy to celebrate each others achievements. Yet, it obviously isn't working that way. You can provide all the support you can for your partner, but if he cannot see the glass as half full - and stifle that condemning inner voice - and try harder at what he is trying to achieve, then he'll never be as successful as he can be.
posted by
word.smith
on July 15, 2005 at 2:34 PM
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Usualsuspect, i am laughing, but the breakthrough is if I can get the gloomy one to crack a smile
posted by
Azur
on July 15, 2005 at 2:20 PM
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It's frustrating...
when you're both "artistic types". You tend to succumb to the same demons and if those demons choose to show their ugly faces at the same time you could find yourself single (not you, just speaking generally). My guy and I are the same way. The "all-or-nothing" disease is an unfortunate one and one we both suffer with, me more than him. You are courageous in your levity. I hope you're laughing again soon.
posted by
UsualSuspect
on July 15, 2005 at 2:11 PM
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I know, MayB
It's always the absolutes with my guy. I has to be all or nothing. If it's just OK it's not good enough - it has to be fantastic!
posted by
MerryAnne
on July 15, 2005 at 2:02 PM
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MerryAnne, it has been sometime since we saw a summit. For some reason small triumphs are not marked
posted by
Azur
on July 15, 2005 at 1:58 PM
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It is true Mayb,
that people with artistic temperment do tend to travel the highs and lows to thier extremes. I know that my partner has these moments and that there is nothing I can do to help him. I just let him know that I will still be there when his wave begins to crest again. Meanwhile I allow myself to float, because I must.
posted by
MerryAnne
on July 15, 2005 at 1:51 PM
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where have all the readers gone?
posted by
Azur
on July 15, 2005 at 1:25 PM
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mmm-w, thank you for reading it right through. These things are not easy to deal with
posted by
Azur
on July 15, 2005 at 12:46 PM
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such a sad, sad post.... it depresses me to think of people who choose to live in darkness rather then try and find life worth living and God forbid, smiling about from time to time.
that is where the real courage is....... but even so, you wrote this piece beautifully!
posted by
mmm-w
on July 15, 2005 at 12:30 PM
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