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And, Lensman
No, he's not being deliberately hurtful...he is a very sweet man now that he's a broken man...he was quite an emotionally abusive man before and that is when I should have left, but felt bound by my vows; and then when he broke, I just couldn't abandon him. I am an enabler and know it and am trapped by that knowledge and sense of obligation and responsibililty. Thank you for caring.
posted by
Krisles
on June 23, 2005 at 3:28 AM
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Lensman
You are so sweet....he's had 14 yrs. at the shrink with the questions. He knows they are there and holds his breath that I have decided to quit asking them...it's why I live most of my life at the lake now....I just end up asking them most of the time when I am back here. I am a caretaker to a mentaly ill man who I stay married to when I shouldn't--something agreed to by just about everyone, including his family and shrinks. It would be healthier for both of us for me to just support him and cut the legal tie, which I may eventually do.
posted by
Krisles
on June 23, 2005 at 3:22 AM
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PS:
By "this," I mean what you've written.
posted by
Lensman
on June 23, 2005 at 3:00 AM
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Gee, Krisles...
Sounds like you're having one of those times that aren't much fun. I notice that a lot of these questions you've asked seem to have been given answers. Sounds like you already know a lot. This part here:
"How can he love me and leave me alone in the darkness…..he doesn’t know, how can you." It's small consolation, but you might console yourself by thinking at least if he doesn't know then he's not trying to be deliberately hurtful. It's not much, but it's something, I guess. Hey, why don't you let him read this?
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Lensman
on June 23, 2005 at 2:59 AM
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