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blackcat, I sent an e-card knowing full well he won't open it!
posted by
Julia.
on June 17, 2005 at 10:59 AM
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I'd suggest...
just appreciate what you have... and if he doesn't deserve it or you don't truly want to wish him a happy Father's day, then don't. They make generic cards or you don't have to send one at all.
posted by
-blackcat
on June 17, 2005 at 10:22 AM
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Spitfire,
I'm going to do as you suggested; thanks for your help.
posted by
Julia.
on June 17, 2005 at 9:57 AM
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Quirky,
So, there's nothing wrong with writing it in a card or a more detailed letter and then channeling your energies into it while burning it outside. Then, as it burns, watch the smoke disppear into the nights' sky; back into the universe. As you watch that smoke travel, ask the universe to direct it to the proper place in which it belongs. Ask the universe to take it
away from you. And, She will. I promise.
posted by
SpitFire70
on June 17, 2005 at 12:58 AM
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L.E. Gant,
But that is NOT very nice!
posted by
Julia.
on June 16, 2005 at 6:40 PM
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Spitfire,
I might feel better I suppose...but I don't know...some things are better left unsaid. Or maybe I could write it but burn it instead of sending it so as not to stir a hornet's nest.
posted by
Julia.
on June 16, 2005 at 6:39 PM
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Quirky,
That's what "Blank inside" cards are best suited for! I think if you wrote in what you wished the card said, it might help you release some of those feelings. You're not only getting it off your chest right to the source, but kinda letting go into the universe; away from you.
posted by
SpitFire70
on June 16, 2005 at 3:49 PM
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What about: "Dad, I love you because you are my father but NOT because of the man you are or what you (don't) mean to me and my life."?
posted by
L.E.Gant
on June 16, 2005 at 2:49 AM
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L.E. Gant,
I have done that for my mother, but the problem is, with my father I can't find anything nice to say.
posted by
Julia.
on June 15, 2005 at 11:10 AM
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Quirky: you're a writer - create your own! I always did for my father, until he died. And for my mother. Not just FD amd MD cards, but birthday cards, special occasion cards, and all the rest. And my wife gets a special creation for all her occasions too.
posted by
L.E.Gant
on June 14, 2005 at 8:05 PM
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lovelyladymonk,
yeah, it's true--we love them because they gave us life but not much else.
posted by
Julia.
on June 14, 2005 at 6:25 PM
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Quirky...
I know how you feel...My dad wasn't always the kindest person and still isn't most of the time. I do love him, but only because he's my father...Not at all for the man he was...(or is). He was rarely ever there for his children, and when he was, it was either to tell them what pains in his ass we were or to lecture us.
I don't call my dad on Father's Day...He doesn't usually bother to call me, either. We get on a lot better now that what we did before, but it will never be wonderful....
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on June 14, 2005 at 4:04 PM
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Talion,
Well, I feel bound by familial obligations, that I must put forth the pretentions or risk being thought rude, I guess.
posted by
Julia.
on June 14, 2005 at 3:57 PM
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Medusa,
No, I'm not really all that lucky. I'm glad you had a good father, though.
posted by
Julia.
on June 14, 2005 at 3:56 PM
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Quirkyalone
Father's Day, besides being the brainchild of the retail industry to make people go out and spend money, is supposed to be a celebration of fatherhood. If there's nothing to celebrate, don't.
posted by
Talion
on June 14, 2005 at 1:00 PM
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Excellent Point...
Those cards never say what you truly feel. I try to fill the stuff in, inside the card. Dad will understand....You're so lucky your dad is still around. I miss mine, terribly.
posted by
MedusaNextDoor
on June 14, 2005 at 12:55 PM
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