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SpitFire
I am so lucky to have known those things, somehow, from early in life. I laugh at everything, especially myself. I love that saying about lucky are they who can laugh at themselves for they will never cease to be amused....I'd give anything if my hubby could have that ability...and if he knew that it is just as easy to set down the bullshit and quit carryin' it around...I can't do it for him...I've tried. Thanks for reading.
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Krisles
on June 24, 2005 at 1:11 PM
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Krisles,
We all have the power to change how we feel and act if we choose to do the work. It's so much easier to remain in the "poor me" mode and be depressed cause it's a safe place. Changing our life is the "unknown." Honestly, I've actually had to trick myself into being happy or telling myself everything is going to be fine. It usually works. Especially when I can laugh at myself or my life. Laughing at myself always makes my mood lift. I do it often, too, cause I have done some really stupid things to give myself reason to make fun of myself.
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SpitFire70
on June 23, 2005 at 6:58 PM
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Usual
I am not at all surprised you related...and thanks for the kind words. Don't you sometimes just want to shake people?! It just isn't that hard, really...it's like the old thing about how many more muscles it takes to frown versus to smile. Of course, I realize that's because I was taught from the gitgo how to smile so I don't really have to work at it...
posted by
Krisles
on June 15, 2005 at 9:52 AM
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BRAVO
This is a great post and one I really, really enjoyed. You're absolutely right....some peeps never seem to want to be accountable or admit that they have the power to change their lives....that would mean (gasp) hard work, commitment, having a damn original thought every once in a while. Loved it!
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UsualSuspect
on June 15, 2005 at 7:24 AM
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Talion
I think that is so true and, unfortunately, it seems to be almost intrinsic in the "mix" of human nature...we don't seem to be able to get away from it...no matter the group, some in it seem to have to find a way to feel better and make others feel less than. I think of myself as an optimistic person and this one area seems to be the one thing I am fairly pessimistic about. I have often wondered if it is in anyway akin to the same kind of thing that animals do when they band together to leave weak behind to starve. I believe that true "religion" teaches that man is supposed to rise above animal instinct and I really believe that love of each other and love of self is that key to rising above this...I refuse to call instinct...whatever it is. My, aren't we getting into such a philosophical realm here?
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Krisles
on June 14, 2005 at 3:55 PM
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Krisles
Because some people feel powerless as individuals, I think it leads to establishing too-strong bonds/connections with groups and organizations. To find strength as a group, these individuals must somehow prove their's is more powerful/better/etc. than another group. Hence we have racism, sexism, chauvanism, classism, ageism, Christian vs. Mulim vs. Jew, straight vs. gay, the endless battles between liberals and conservatives, the list goes on and on. Because they have no personal identities, their place in the larger group becomes the most important things in their lives. Gangmembers are another example of this. It's really quite simple when you get to the heart of the matter. If you truly love yourself, it becomes extremely difficult to truly hate another.
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Talion
on June 14, 2005 at 3:38 PM
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Talion
If only more were as wise as you. Too many people don't realize that they control their own reality...we are not slaves to what was or is, but only what we allow...I know that is a sweeping statement and I believe we have to have help but I do believe any change is possible.
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Krisles
on June 14, 2005 at 3:15 PM
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Krisles
It's certainly possible to change one's outlook. Over time, I changed mine. It's a tired old cliche, but it's true. You reap what you sow.
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Talion
on June 14, 2005 at 1:22 PM
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Strat
I have a great paradigm story I used to use in training classes...I'll have to find a way to put in into a post someday...thanks for reading...we'll talk.
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Krisles
on June 14, 2005 at 12:53 PM
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Another one hammers right home.
Needless to say, you're right. When someone has their paradigm set, they will, by God, find a way to validate it, no matter what.
It's too weird for words sometimes. So screw it; I'm done!
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strat
on June 14, 2005 at 12:37 PM
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fwmystic
I never heard it put that way but you are so right! Sad, isn't it? Thank you for that addition to my philosophical nuggets and for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on June 14, 2005 at 12:24 PM
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To some people, not only is the glass half-empty ...
but it's filled with blood.
posted by
fwmystic
on June 14, 2005 at 12:16 PM
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Ariala
Thank you...I'm a strong believer! And thanks for reading.
posted by
Krisles
on June 14, 2005 at 11:14 AM
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Great post...the power of attraction and intention can go a long way!
posted by
Ariala
on June 14, 2005 at 11:04 AM
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