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Bereavement takes time. Those who are deeply spiritual and meditate may cope in this way.
Ann.
posted by
A-and-B
on May 16, 2005 at 2:24 PM
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the cycle of grief...is very hard but "time" is your friend
if you ever want to chat...email me anytime
posted by
_Symphony_
on May 16, 2005 at 5:21 AM
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Whacky
Time is the only way I know, Whacky. All the best.
posted by
johnmacnab
on May 16, 2005 at 5:13 AM
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my prayers with you
posted by
1965stories
on May 15, 2005 at 10:57 PM
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Whacky46
God bless ya luv it is a tough time.
Some of the things my Dr. Margaret said to me were:
1-Just "be". Do whatever you like whenever you like. Sleep when you like. Eat when you like.
2- Let the tears flow and flow and flow.
3-Be very, very kind to yourself. Treat yourself to a good meal out. Buy yourself some "stuff".
4-Think to yourself: "God has brought me all this far in life, He will not let me down now in my grief.
5-Pray-but with great faith- when you get off your knees you will "know" He is looking after you.
6-There is no "getting through" or "over" grief. There is a time when acceptance and the knowledge your parents are happy in their new life will just come to you as a gift.
7-Keep numbers of people to call. When you are really down, call somebody. Call me if you would like, that's what friends are for. I think I
mailed you my number.
God Bless ya luv. And remember: Blah
posted by
WileyJohn
on May 15, 2005 at 8:12 PM
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Oh Whacky....
...there is no easy way to get through it and you never ever completely heal...the scars from the loss will always be there but focusing on the beautiful memories is one way of keeping your parents close to you. If you cry over a flower that reminds you of your Mom then the emotions are a mixture of sadness and of joy....but the sadness may be all you can really feel right now. Take your time Whacky...and be easy on yourself...just take each day and hold onto their love. Time holds no relevance when you are grieving. *hugs*
posted by
ginnieb
on May 15, 2005 at 1:51 PM
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Wacky,
I wish I had some words that would ease your terrible ache...But I don't. I went through these same feelings when my Grandpa went home. The best you can do for yourself for now is to grieve. Only through this terrible process can you truly heal.
It's all right to cry when your gardening...Or any old time you feel like it. Your mom and dad haven't left you, my friend. They watch you from Heaven this very moment. I pray it will comfort you to know this.
I want to tell you that it's perfectly okay for you to feel angry with God if that's what you feel at this point. He will understand and forgive you. Having said that, please know that He is crying with you and for you. The pain will never fully go away...But it will get easier, I promise you. Just give yourself as much time as you need to get through the grieving process and try not to judge yourself for whatever you may be feeling at a particular point in time.
Your mom and dad love you very, very much. On the days you think you can't stand the pain one moment longer, focus on this love.
I'm here if you need anything at all. My thoughts, prayers and love are with you....
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on May 15, 2005 at 1:05 PM
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Dear Whacky, Bless you ... I am truly sorry for your loss. When My father died in 1997 I cried for three days. I wrote a long testamonial to him, entitled "Daddy Said" which everyone loved because it was simply a series of quotes and things that daddy always said. Everyone could recognize everything. And it showed the differences in our ages. For example when my oldest sister was a child, Daddy was like 30 and he was an up-and-rising legal eagle working for the OPA or convincced that he would eventually sue the government and bring down the unfairness of the bureaucracy. But when my youngest brother was growing up daddy was nearing retirement and had accepted a lot about life. He took the long view on things and focused mainly on how experience was the best teacher for his kids. That meant of course that oldest sibs were way different from youngest, if you can count on environmental factors to mold personalities. Anyway, bless you and keep up your spirits.
posted by
kingmi
on May 15, 2005 at 12:06 PM
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One day at a time is the only way
you'll get through your grief. The various stages all have to be gone through and dealt with. Cry if and when you have to. You'll feel better. God Bless.
posted by
word.smith
on May 15, 2005 at 11:56 AM
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