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Ja...
...it's not a formal part of the meeting, Ja. I was exaggerating. Again. Sorry to confuse.
In effect, though, this, "thanks for sharing," codependent crap, at a group level, becomes a vote on the sanity, sobriety or respect the group has for what you just shared. It's a form of feedback to the person who shared that really isn't helpful, in my opinion.
Bare in mind that I took the high road about this stuff and let it ride. Why should I allow anyone else's opinion impact how I share, right? Well, terrific boundaries. But we're talking YEARS of this crap. Over time any amount of exposure to unhealthy behavior impacts a person's sobriety. It's crazymaking.
Anyway, I just realized that I'm victimizing myself, again. I'm the one who has refused to stay vigilant about this crap, I am the one who chooses to surrender to somethign that I know in my heart isn't the right thing to do.
Welcome to Texas, though. This is a good meeting, it's my home group, and it beats the hell out of anything in Houston that I have heard about. Confrontational, ego-heavy recovery is a complete contradiction in terms. And yet, those bastidges stay sober. Not sure how helpful they are to newcomers with all their lunatic tough-guy stuff, but that's not my concern. I haven't seen one of those morons light up into a newcomer in my home group in years. Maybe I have changed this part of Texas, I don't know.
posted by
Volaar
on May 8, 2005 at 9:28 AM
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This was really interensting to read. What I don't understand is why do they have a time to "judge" your "share" at the meeting? I don't get where this helps anyone. I could see letting people talk and comment or make suggestions but who the hell has the right to judge? I know we all do it everyday, but to make it a formal part of a meeting doesn't seem ok to me. Anyway, thanks for sharing, and I enjoyed reading.
Go Easy,
Ja
posted by
J.King
on May 8, 2005 at 12:44 AM
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