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wow, I don't know how I'd respond to that question either
I know it's been tough on you and your family (cry as much as you need to). Your step-dad is probably on the right track, wanting to do something to involve your brother, but to have asked about it he's not sure he's on the right track. At least he stopped and asked before going through with it. I hope it works out ok.
posted by
littlemspickles
on April 26, 2005 at 4:50 AM
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(((((MiaElla)))))
posted by
teddypoet_TheGoodByeFade
on April 26, 2005 at 12:36 AM
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Mia,
Your step dad seems very sweet and genuine in his question. Personally, I'd say no. It's not a good idea. Just flood her with extra flowers, cards, and love this year; from you all.
posted by
SpitFire70
on April 25, 2005 at 10:10 PM
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MiaElla
Well, he didn't think it through very well, but his heart is in the right place luv.
Cryin' with ya luv.Bless ya
posted by
WileyJohn
on April 25, 2005 at 8:16 PM
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He was probably just trying to help. Sometime men don't get it quite right, even though their intentions are good. Big hugs...
posted by
Ca88andra
on April 25, 2005 at 4:11 PM
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Butterflygal
Don't be too hard on yourself. Release the pain with your tears for there's a rainbow to remind you everything will work out.
posted by
butterflygal
on April 25, 2005 at 3:28 PM
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Mia, I am sure your step dad wasn't thinking about....
how that would affect you. I don't know how your brother passed or when but there is no doubt in my mind that he was trying to help your mom through it, even if the attempt was misguided. I understand your reaction. I would have had the same. No one gives you a guide book on how to grieve
I hope you guys get through it alright.
Mike's Goddess
posted by
mikes_goddess
on April 25, 2005 at 2:26 PM
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what a very odd request from your step-father. I, of course no nothing of him or the situation, but I suspect his motive was not out of malice or unkindness...its sounds like he really didn't know that would not be helpful or appropriate for your mom. very odd indeed
posted by
MysticGmekeepr
on April 25, 2005 at 2:17 PM
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Mia...
That was a horrible thing to ask!!...Forgive me, but he should have known better. Don't be ashamed of your tears...I'm sitting here crying with you...
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on April 25, 2005 at 12:13 PM
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I'm with Rachel..
...I think that would only make your Mom feel worse. It's going to be hard enough for her this Mother's Day. And Mia..tears are okay....they sometimes flush out the sadness.
posted by
ginnieb
on April 25, 2005 at 11:42 AM
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Wow...
I don't think that's a good idea, personally. Part of helping your mom accept that he isn't around any longer is NOT doing stuff like this. But, every family handles this stuff differently. Like you, it just feels wrong to me...
posted by
RachelAnna
on April 25, 2005 at 11:18 AM
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