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Man-Boy,
Thanks very much, for everything.

posted by Julia. on March 13, 2005 at 6:52 PM | link to this | reply

Hi Quirky! I am doing well. I didn't come by for a while...

I see your life is just as fabulous and dire as always. I won't stay away.

As to the poor lottery loser- I have not checked my old numbers. I just don't want to know.

BTW... telling the truth. The truth must be told. 

I turned into a terrible liar early in life. I feel as if I have worked out all that karma now. I am happy.

I read your prayer blog too. Very sensitive stuff.

Manboy

posted by man-boy on March 13, 2005 at 12:05 PM | link to this | reply

Saul Relative,
Thanks for your comment. You make some good points and explain your beliefs well. --Our beliefs may not be the same but I respect yours.

posted by Julia. on March 13, 2005 at 10:26 AM | link to this | reply

Man-Boy,
So true. Philosophical, but true. Nice to see you, hope you are doing well.

posted by Julia. on March 13, 2005 at 10:23 AM | link to this | reply

word.smith,
Perhaps you're right!!

posted by Julia. on March 13, 2005 at 10:22 AM | link to this | reply

I do not believe in predestination, Quirkyalone.

The belief that everything happens for a reason implies a predetermined accounting for events, a master plan that would by its own nature become somewhat predictable, even with random equations thrown in.  And this lottery story has occurred to quite a few people, I am sure.  It happened to me on a much smaller scale:  About 15 years ago, I had played a pick-4 number every drawing for about six months without fail.  One weekend I went out of state, the numbers I played religiously (and I use that term as loosely as possible) came up, and I failed to win $5000.  I had just become unemployed.  A friend of mine saw the drawing that night, told me he couldn't stop laughing.  I couldn't start.  It still pisses me off.  I haven't played pick-4 since in any state that currently has it.

I believe in cause and effect, action and reaction.  I didn't play the lottery, therefore I did not put myself in a position to win.  I did not lose, either, for the same reason.  That is it.  That is all there is.

Being a realist, predestination is true in only one instance:  once born, you are guaranteed to die, leaving even your time of death an unknown, if certain, and undetermined variable.  That is not defeatist, nor fatalist.  It is simple truth and bonewearying sad. 

posted by saul_relative on March 12, 2005 at 10:42 PM | link to this | reply

Hi Quirky.

I just recently stopped buying lottery tickets. After some 20 years straight...

I just stopped. I don't miss them at all. I know I need far more than monry to be happy.

Manboy

posted by man-boy on March 12, 2005 at 7:19 PM | link to this | reply

She is also probably wondering what type of monster
he would have turned into had they actually won the money.

posted by word.smith on March 12, 2005 at 6:58 PM | link to this | reply

word.smith,
I think that's what the guy's wife must be thinking.

posted by Julia. on March 12, 2005 at 2:48 PM | link to this | reply

lady,
If you can actually kick yourself in the ass, that's something I'd buy a ticket for!

posted by Julia. on March 12, 2005 at 2:47 PM | link to this | reply

reecie, lol.
Thanks for the great comment...I agree...tragic indeed!

posted by Julia. on March 12, 2005 at 2:46 PM | link to this | reply

Mmmm, I'd also console myself with the
thought that if it was really meant to happen, it would have.

posted by word.smith on March 12, 2005 at 9:01 AM | link to this | reply

Quirky
Oh that sucks!  I would be kicking myself in the ass too.  But then again, wasn't meant to be

posted by ladyofshalott on March 12, 2005 at 8:41 AM | link to this | reply

Quirkyalone

I used to believe God was involved in worldly goings-on; I don't anymore. I now believe life simply happens ... we have the choice to view things as either "good" or "bad." Are spiders good or bad? Is the wind good or bad? Is losing millions good or bad?

Was the church couple better off by not winning the lottery? No one will ever know. Sure, one can argue, "Most lottery winners wind up worse off because family and friends constantly badger them for money." Valid point. One could also argue, "They would've had a chance to improve someone's quality of life--their own, their kids', etc." Another valid point.

How would I feel if I was the husband? Well, I'd certainly wouldn't be as accepting as this guy's wife ("easy come, easy go.")! I'd probably need weed--daily--to cope with my depression. I know some mistakes are costly. But, multi-million dollar mistakes aren't costly--they're tragic!  

posted by Reecie on March 12, 2005 at 7:48 AM | link to this | reply

thanks for your comment
Yes it is rather sad, but as you continue reading you will notice that there come positive things out of it too.

Dirk (brabander)

posted by brabander on March 11, 2005 at 10:41 PM | link to this | reply

jimmy,

I have heard a lot of stories like that too, of people not being able to handle it, and it ruins them.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:22 PM | link to this | reply

Kaelen,
Thanks for sharing!

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:21 PM | link to this | reply

HG,
I'd be pretty mad too.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:20 PM | link to this | reply

Although I think I am evolved enough at this point to handle the millions..
so if you win millions, hand it over, I'm prepared to buck the odds...

posted by jimmy68 on March 11, 2005 at 7:00 PM | link to this | reply

They should be thankful...
winning millions usully ruins peoples lives...the suicide rate among lottery winners is out of this world, and most of them wind up broke again in just a few years....

posted by jimmy68 on March 11, 2005 at 6:57 PM | link to this | reply

I Agree!
with Blasphemous Rumors. In watching and observing people for so long, I believe that God has a really twisted sense of humor. Who knows?

Kaelen

posted by Kaelen-Myril on March 11, 2005 at 5:31 PM | link to this | reply

I'd be f-ing pissed as hell!! But it would be my luck...Oh and yes the song is called Blasphemous Rumors...

posted by Holy_Grail on March 11, 2005 at 4:38 PM | link to this | reply

It might be titled Blasphemous Rumors, not sure

the lyrics include:

"I don't want to start any blasphemous rumors

but I think that God has a sick sense of humor

and when I die

I expect to find him laughing..."

you get the idea

posted by FactorFiction on March 11, 2005 at 4:29 PM | link to this | reply

Factor,
Is it titled "What a Bummer"--?? lol

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 4:00 PM | link to this | reply

I think there is a Depeche Mode song about this...

posted by FactorFiction on March 11, 2005 at 3:52 PM | link to this | reply

ARIALA,
Yeah...me, too! We'll probably never know.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:56 AM | link to this | reply

Quirky, perhaps...and that's how I usually look at it, but I'm open to
being wrong and that nothing has meaning might be right LOL

posted by Ariala on March 11, 2005 at 10:38 AM | link to this | reply

Ariala,
I was at first inclined to say, yeah, maybe that's true, maybe it's only the bigger things. But then it becomes a question of, how do you say what is big or little? Where do you draw the line? What seems little and of no consequence might be part of a bigger chain of events that we can't see. So perhaps if that newspaper boy hadn't been five minutes late, he would have been hit by a speeding car or bitten by a dog that had been out.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:25 AM | link to this | reply

MayB,
She must've had a prenup or she could have gotten rid of the louse a lot sooner than waiting for her win! But yay for her!

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:22 AM | link to this | reply

Quirky, I do agree about that for most things, but it's the little stuff

that happens that sometimes has no meaning or connection to anything...I sometimes wonder if we give everything meaning and connection because we want to find meaning and connection?  For example, let's say the newspaper is thrown every day at 6 a.m. and one day it's at 6:05 a.m...there was no result good or bad about the difference in time...but had we left the driveway earlier or later we may have made a connection and thought about how cool it was that we were there at the "right time" and therefore would have said, "That wasn't a coincidence!" 

I realize this is going against what I usually write -- that there are no coincidences -- but sometimes I do think we "look" for unique happenings and therefore seem what we want to see.

posted by Ariala on March 11, 2005 at 10:20 AM | link to this | reply

offbeatpub,
Only an hour? I commend you!

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:19 AM | link to this | reply

Merry,
So true!!! I have read that the people who play the most, are the least likely to be able to afford it.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:18 AM | link to this | reply

Darrke,
Okay, but don't maim yourself (at least not permanently). lol.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:17 AM | link to this | reply

I think his attitude shows that he is not cut out for a big win because money is too important and he couldn't cope easily. My aunt and grandmother lined up once to buy lottery tickets. My aunt was married to a rich man and wanted for nothing (but love, her husband was not a nice man) and my grandmother never had two coins to rub together and dreamed of winning the lottery and told us what she would give us when she won.
My aunt bought a winning ticket. In the end it was for the best because it was the start of her being able to make a new and happier life for herself

posted by Azur on March 11, 2005 at 10:16 AM | link to this | reply

word.smith,
That is a good attitude to have, and you are absolutely correct, it doesn't pay to let it wreck your life...but I know I would be quite upset for longer than just a few days.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:16 AM | link to this | reply

I think I would be bummed out for an hour.

posted by Offy on March 11, 2005 at 10:15 AM | link to this | reply

Ariala,
I (sort of) agree with you.....except that I  don't believe in random little happenings or coincidences. In other words, God doesn't control them because they don't exist.

posted by Julia. on March 11, 2005 at 10:14 AM | link to this | reply

It's that old saying,
there is no use crying over spilt milk. What's done is done (or not done in this case) and there is no point in getting upset about it. Besides (here is my practical side) if they had invested that money every week in a high interest account or something they would have a lot more money now!

posted by MerryAnne on March 11, 2005 at 10:13 AM | link to this | reply

I would be completely devestated, for at least 5 minutes.  Then I think I'd let it go.  I would have to beat myself up for a few minutes about not buying that ticket though! 

posted by DarrkeThoughts on March 11, 2005 at 10:12 AM | link to this | reply

I would have thought about the big chance I missed
for a few minutes for a couple of days and then moved right on. What's the use in mooning over what you don't and probably will never have?  That gent needs his head examined.

posted by word.smith on March 11, 2005 at 10:10 AM | link to this | reply

I would say God had a sense a humor, but I'm not sure every
little random happening is controlled by God, though God is in control.

posted by Ariala on March 11, 2005 at 10:02 AM | link to this | reply