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Thank you for sharing this with me, Wetzel
I can very much relate, I too have lost many in my life....both my brother and sister who passed are the two I have had a hard time coming to terms with....more so my brother because he took his own life and well, I am very angry at him for it...I know my daughter would probably understand, but thats not the problem....the problem is ...talking to her about it...I am not ready to answer her questions because I find it too hard to talk about....writing is my release....but Thank you and take care..
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 14, 2005 at 10:13 AM
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brother's death
I'm new to this list and have been perusing various contributors. I've enjoyed your writing, its honest and I do appreciate that quality. I thought I would share with my feelings about my brother's death. He died 4 yrs ago, my only sibling. There have been many losses in my life but his death was the most significant. I had expected we would grow old together. His death was unexpected although he was not in the best of health. There are still days when I am angry that he is gone. Still lots of tears. I vist his grave as often as I can stand the pain, knowing that I need to do that for myself. As for children, I believe they also need to face the pain of loss. It is a life reality. Perhaps reading the old book by Elizabeth Kubler Ross will give you some good ideas as to how best to present death to your children. I work with children and they do understand. Their understanding is different than ours but real nonetheless. Take care. Wetzel
posted by
Wetzel
on March 14, 2005 at 8:04 AM
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Brothers Death
posted by
Wetzel
on March 14, 2005 at 7:57 AM
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Thank you every body for your wonderful comments!
I don't really think it has anything to do with my little girl understanding..I think its because I am not ready to answer her questions...the emotions are still very raw....but thank you all so much...
posted by
_Symphony_
on March 7, 2005 at 6:26 AM
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Hi Symphony
I am very sorry to hear about your brother. Mother's day must be really hard for you. It's good to see that you can write about it though, and hopefully that helps a little. I very much enjoyed reading your posts and hope to see more from you soon! Take care!
posted by
demmalition
on March 6, 2005 at 10:55 PM
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Oh yes, the tapping is bad, it drives me nuts
Sorry to hear about your brother.I know everyone has there way of dealing with such a senitiative subject like death, but you know dear holding on to it by not telling your daughter is still a way of holding onto the pain. I'm not saying you should tell her now, but just remeber to one day, because it could become something more then just a issue. Take care. ~Silly
posted by
SillySoul88
on March 6, 2005 at 8:56 PM
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Tap, Tap, Tap and other annoyances
I remember as a child annoying my parents with the same type of repetitive things. My dad used to go MAD with me coming in and out, in and out of the front door, slamming the screen door each time.
Finally he told me....."Look, you can come in and out that door 10 times today. If you're on the wrong side of the door come nightfall, too bad". I think he was kidding......I hope he was kidding 
posted by
DivineDiva
on March 6, 2005 at 3:54 PM
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Happy Mum's Day
I agree with MayBe. Kids are able to deal with things like that better than we think they will. If you are of a religious nature, simply tell her he has gone to be with God.
posted by
Moondawg
on March 6, 2005 at 3:41 PM
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Happy Mothers Day!
posted by
Ca88andra
on March 6, 2005 at 1:57 PM
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Symphony,
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother...I hope your mum had a good day all the same. I'm thinking of you my friend. God bless.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on March 6, 2005 at 12:54 PM
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The tapping thing drives me mad. One day soon I think you have to tell your daughter in a matter of fact, simple way that your brother died. I had to tell my son that his grandfather, who he always had fun with, had died. Keep it simple. You will be surprised how resilient kids are
posted by
Azur
on March 6, 2005 at 12:21 PM
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Its never easy telling anybody that somebody died- Even tougher when its a kid. She seems like a cute girl that likes attention.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on March 6, 2005 at 12:15 PM
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Happy Mother's Day....
posted by
TCRogers6875
on March 6, 2005 at 10:58 AM
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symph,
Happy Mother's Day! Hope you have a restful and wonderful day. And, about the tapping thing, I'm sure your daughter will soon grow out of it.
red
posted by
redlunar
on March 6, 2005 at 9:57 AM
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Hi Symph,
I think you woudl be surprised at how much she would understand it. My Mom tried to keep stuff like that from me when I was little and in the end I wan mad that she hadn't told me to begin with. However... you know her better than anyone. It is your choice.
posted by
MerryAnne
on March 6, 2005 at 9:32 AM
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Ew, I hate that tapping thing...
Another thing I hate is "Momma, Momma, Momma, Momma, Momma" until I am able to stop what I am doing and have direct eye contact! lol
You'll find the right time to tell your daughter, and she'll probably understand better than you! Children have a way of understanding death better than we do.
posted by
RachelAnna
on March 6, 2005 at 8:53 AM
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{{{hugs}}} you will tell her when you think the time is right... happy Mothers day
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posted by
Tanoolicious
on March 6, 2005 at 8:21 AM
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