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Mia
A great comfort to me after losing 3 loved ones in a short period of time was a scripture from the bible a good friend shared with me. I hope it will give you comfort as well.
Isaiah 57:1 (NIV) -- The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart; devout men are taken away and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.
You have no idea what might have been in the future for your brother.. Maybe he was taken in order to be spared suffering in the future.
God Bless You and Yours
posted by
RosieV
on February 24, 2005 at 10:01 AM
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Oh, Mia,
Maybe you can take a few items of his clothing (if you still have access to any) of his unwashed clothing and box them up. That way, maybe his scent will remain on them. As far as his daughter still "smelling" him in the house, I'm sure she is more in tune with his spirit being there than any adults are. I know this is still very hard and it will be for some time. You'll never get over it, but I promise, one day, you will get through it. 
posted by
SpitFire70
on February 23, 2005 at 11:17 PM
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i love to read about your brother, Mia. you write beautifully about him!! thanks for sharing yourself with us!!
posted by
daisysface
on February 23, 2005 at 8:31 PM
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Mia
I'm sometimes visited by loved ones who have passed on. My dad once told me that death is a misnomer. The person simply leaves this plane of existence and moves on to another one.
Yes, their essence changes. They are no longer flesh and blood, but energy instead, but they still exist.
He also said that they usually hang out with the people they loved while here. He was walking beside me in the yard as I picked up trash when he told me these things. He passed over years ago due to cigarettes.
There are so many things we don't understand about life and death.
posted by
Passionflower
on February 23, 2005 at 7:56 PM
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There is little in our experience more profound than...
birth and death. Having Wakely is your brother's gift to the future. I hope you and her are always close. Some of the most beautiful relationships I have seen are aunt/niece relationships. I love my nephews and nieces to pieces.manboy
posted by
man-boy
on February 23, 2005 at 4:58 PM
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Mia
Sometimes I wonder, if I died, would anyone even miss me, except for the bill collectors...
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on February 23, 2005 at 4:52 PM
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MiaElla
I know exactly the things you speak of, there are so many things that are reminders in our daily lives of the one we've lost . I can't bear to take my lover's phone number off my cell phone list, or his contact info from my msn account. I keep expecting to sign on one day and he'll be there. I wear his t-shirt to bed at night, make coffee every day the way he loved it made. The memories are sweet, and oh so painful at the same time.
My heart breaks for you and for your brother's daughter.
posted by
DivineDiva
on February 23, 2005 at 4:25 PM
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It is so sad MiaElla,
everything you write brings tears to my eyes. I suppose my painting is intense because it is part of me. Your poetry is intense, striking, and lovely. Take care lady, I wish you and Wakely peace.
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on February 23, 2005 at 10:59 AM
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MiaElla, yes, death does stalk us...and when death arrives, all grind to a
halt...but it is for us, the living, to move on...your brother has left untold riches for you and all those he loved...these must not be wasted in sad thoughts...there is more strength to be had in thoughts of joy...
posted by
void-is
on February 23, 2005 at 9:39 AM
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MiaElla--the memory is awakened by scents and sounds...very sad.
posted by
scriber
on February 23, 2005 at 9:36 AM
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he lives on as long as u still remember him
posted by
PoeticHoneyDew
on February 23, 2005 at 8:59 AM
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Mia--How sad...
posted by
Renigade
on February 23, 2005 at 8:40 AM
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ginnie
It is so sad. If you ever feel like writing a letter to little Wakely...you can. I plan on sharing lots of stuff with her when she gets older, especially from people who also lost their dads.
posted by
MiaElla
on February 23, 2005 at 8:35 AM
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lovelylady
Thank you...you have such a beautiful soul....
posted by
MiaElla
on February 23, 2005 at 8:32 AM
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Reni,
When my dad left us when we were little...it was easy to remember his smell...all someone had to do was open a can of beer...
posted by
MiaElla
on February 23, 2005 at 8:31 AM
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Written beautifully Mia...
...when my Dad died suddenly..I was 17..I went to the closet and smelled his housecoat..and I felt like I was being hugged by him. It's all so sad....
posted by
ginnieb
on February 23, 2005 at 8:26 AM
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God bless and keep you, Mia...
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on February 23, 2005 at 8:14 AM
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Mia--I remember my dad leaving for a few years when I was a little girl.
Every night I went to bed I took one of his tshirts with me just to smell it...You reminded me of that. Very sad, but you wrote about is so eloquently...
posted by
Renigade
on February 23, 2005 at 7:56 AM
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