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E-Shock,
Ah, that explains it. Glad to see you back though.
posted by
Julia.
on February 25, 2005 at 5:58 PM
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So true and so scary. ...................................................... Greetings Julia. I left aol for a bit, or they stopped giving free months so I missed your email - I forgot to update Blogit about email change. Then gave me 3 to come back
I think they send subliminal messages that keep me online tooo long. Anyway, Missed you. Bingo is doing great. he is a great dog and gets along with my cat and kids fabulously.
posted by
EccentricShock
on February 25, 2005 at 2:52 PM
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CA88,
Yes, words can be powerful and sometimes more damaging than any physical harm. My poem
BONFIRE OF MY BEING was about the havok words can wreak upon a human being.
posted by
Julia.
on February 22, 2005 at 8:17 AM
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offbeatpub,
yes, I know for a fact, that even if those parents know in their hearts they were not the "cause,"--they ask themselves that every day.
posted by
Julia.
on February 22, 2005 at 8:13 AM
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Yes, I agree with him. And I agree with you that he writes beautifully. I think that sometimes parents can damage their children even when they think they are doing the right thing. Words can make incredible impressions. I still remember things my parents said to me 30 years ago, even though they can't.
posted by
Ca88andra
on February 22, 2005 at 2:18 AM
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Quirky/ Good question
Having raised 3, I would definitely say yes to some extent, although it was not intentional. I often wonder about the parents of a Ted Bundy, or a Dalmer...their parents seemed like normal people, but I bet they ask themselves where they went wrong.
posted by
Offy
on February 21, 2005 at 10:52 PM
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MsOc,
Not necessarily!
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 10:03 PM
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Katray,
You're right, there are so many variables that no "manual" could cover everything. BTW, this book is actually fiction and not really about this, it just happened to be one paragraph I really liked.
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 10:02 PM
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I feel much better as a parent knowing that no matter how perfect I am, he is still going to be somewhat screwed up and resent the hell out of me. Just like I did my parents!!
posted by
MsOC
on February 21, 2005 at 9:57 PM
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Interesting post Quirky
Yes, I have to agree unfortunately. I think some of the problem for even the best intentioned parents is not fully understanding or being able to relate to your child's inbred personality - for instance my three children are so different; one very social, popular and physically active, one quiet, loner type, creative and the youngest genuis level intelligence, extremely orderly and set apart from his peers. With parents a mix of social, creative and also loner type. No "one size fits all" enviroment possible here so there was a lack or too much of certain qualities for each child probably. Thank God they're all fairly well adjusted and relatively happy. Love can tie it all together and accomplish miracles. I'll have to read this book.
posted by
Katray2
on February 21, 2005 at 7:35 PM
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Ren,
haha--buy ten get one free!
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 3:25 PM
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Quirk--No kidding. lol. I should have a "frequent therapy card" myself!
posted by
Renigade
on February 21, 2005 at 3:23 PM
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renigade,
good idea...too bad my own parents weren't so forward thinking!!
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 3:22 PM
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quirk--In addition to a college fund, I have also set up a therapy fund for
my children. It is inevitable that one of these funds will be used...
posted by
Renigade
on February 21, 2005 at 3:20 PM
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zoke,
yes, so true. Thanks for commenting!
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 3:19 PM
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jobella,
I agree, but I think he was saying there is no such thing as a "perfect parent," because the nature of living and being human, makes that virtually impossible.
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 3:18 PM
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Cynthia,
That's a nice way to look at it.
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 3:17 PM
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Tanoo,
It is a good book, worth the quick read.
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 3:16 PM
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That is so true about the kids
being damaged goods. But when you think about, we're all basket cases, just some of us can hide it better than others.
posted by
zoke
on February 21, 2005 at 2:39 PM
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I think we blame our parents but then we become parents and understand how difficult a job and that there is no such thing as a perfect parent.
posted by
jobella
on February 21, 2005 at 2:30 PM
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Yep, It's true. It's the nature
of things, the unknowing and sometimes knowing damage that we parents do. But luckily
some of us get to be grandparents and have the chance to repair the earlier damage.
posted by
Cynthia
on February 21, 2005 at 11:40 AM
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Ive been hearing alot about this book and also from people here on blogit... i need to check it out
posted by
Tanoolicious
on February 21, 2005 at 11:30 AM
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Gypsy, oh...you're right it is a better name...but why did they name it that I wonder?
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 11:22 AM
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Merry,
Atta girl, blame it on Dad!!
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 11:21 AM
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I think that is true Quirky,
My oldest is onlt three and I'm already regretting somethings I've done. However I will take credit for her being happy and smart and caring. I'll blame her OCD on her Dad....
posted by
MerryAnne
on February 21, 2005 at 11:00 AM
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I know but I like the name better lol
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on February 21, 2005 at 10:59 AM
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ROFL!--super glue IS krazy glue funny girl...
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 10:58 AM
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Krazy glue is more like it LOL
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on February 21, 2005 at 10:53 AM
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gypsy, do you stock up on super glue??
posted by
Julia.
on February 21, 2005 at 10:52 AM
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I'm a bad influence on mine, but at the same time
I provide a strong base and some glue just in case I'm too careless.
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on February 21, 2005 at 10:50 AM
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