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- Go to I MADE UP LIES AND BOUGHT MYSELF DOWN TO HIS LEVEL.....HOW STUPID OF ME!!!!
WHAMENATOR
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 1:38 PM
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Even if you get a restraining order, do not get a false sense of security.
It is a tool for certain, but it is still just a piece of paper!
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on February 13, 2005 at 7:33 AM
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yes I guess thats true WHAMENATOR
that makes sense.....
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 7:26 AM
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thanks JJ_Wilde
but like I said to chris......here we have to wait until he does something first...like if he kicked my door in and I called the police then it will be on record...but thanks anyway
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 7:25 AM
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thanks for reading chris2303
yes I do all the time...LOL.......and yes the restraining order would be great.....but you know as well as I do that where we live we cant get one unless he does something first.....stupid law!.........
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 7:23 AM
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He may not want you any more,SYMPH,
but in his mind you are still his property, and he does not want anyone else to have you either.
And because of the children, you cannot sever the bond.
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on February 13, 2005 at 7:00 AM
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Symph,
A restraining order wouldn't hurt, in addition to the other things we talked about. When he is served, it will give him notice to stay away. If the police are called, they will know the situation before they arrive, and if it should happen to end up in court, the order makes you look much more like the sensible party. It's up to you, but in addition to the phone thing we talked about, the order would cover you a little better. Talk to ya again soon.........
JJ
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 13, 2005 at 6:59 AM
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SYMPHONY
Tell him to fuck off in a firm voice, then arrange some kind of restraining order. Yeah you can.
posted by
chris2303
on February 13, 2005 at 6:48 AM
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thank you ever so much JJ_Wilde
you have helped in a massive way...I really appreciate it....
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 3:53 AM
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thanks Ben
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 3:52 AM
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Do exactly that. I sincerely hope I helped.
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 13, 2005 at 3:49 AM
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Good suggestions here. Don't let petty moves affect you. All the best.
Ben.
posted by
A-and-B
on February 13, 2005 at 3:49 AM
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thank you for all your advice...JJ_Wilde
I wasn't going to do that because he will come round then...but now.....I will change it....and if he comes round...then I will call the police...
thank you for talking me in to it
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 3:38 AM
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And make your new number unlisted, or phone co. will give it out.
Or get a cell phone and stop the wire phone for a while. Not much difference in cost.
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 13, 2005 at 3:33 AM
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If you just need for him to stop calling, change you phone number.
Just be sure to notify everyone whom you want to be able to call you. Like making a change to get away from junk email.
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 13, 2005 at 3:31 AM
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thanks JJ_Wilde
but I already decided that we break...we split up in the summer.....he just rings me to wind me up.....but I know full well I never want to get back with him....not ever
thanks for the advice
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 3:24 AM
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Symph, make the break or don't make the break------
You have to decide the hard decision: Do I go or do I stay? Don't leave but call back every few days. Don't want to do, but not do. Don't get stuck between reconcile and leave. Make the hard decision, stick with it, do the deed and move on. To get stuck between go and stay will be to live in eternal torture.
Decide and do.
JJ
posted by
Jack_Flash
on February 13, 2005 at 3:05 AM
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thank you so much Justsouno
yesterday I kept thinking I must be a bad person...so reading your comment today made me think....thank you for your encouragement...me and the children will have a fantastic valetine day
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:53 AM
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thanks Original_Influence
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:51 AM
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thanks jobella
I actually feel a lot better today....I was all panicky and everything yesterday but after some sleep and thinking about it....it cant be that bad.....maybe now he might leave me alone....especially if I tell him the guy is a body builder and a kick boxer....LOL....
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:51 AM
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thanks for sharing ThomasFranklin
she is very wise...good for her....and good for him.....my ex doesnt even see the children...he asks now again...how they are but thats all....
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:49 AM
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thank you so much for that comment MsOC
it really made me think....his motivation is to annoy me and hope that I will one day get back with him....and my motivation is talk to him on the phone then he wont come round and bother us......than
ks for asking
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:48 AM
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yes it was one of those things that came out of my mouth
without thinking Moondawg ....I am hoping that he now takes more time on his girlfreind and leave us alone
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:46 AM
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I am sorry to have worried you lovelyladymonk
but I am not in danger...when I say scared of him...I don't mean I am scared of actually him...I am scared of the situation...so please know that I be ok.....thanks for your concern
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:45 AM
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LOL ...thanks Tanoolicious
I guess your right...I got my msn working now...yippee
posted by
_Symphony_
on February 13, 2005 at 2:44 AM
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Symphony
I is okay! We don't have to be perfect to be a good person. Just love yourself the very way you are. God really created you in His image, you are special. Get some candles, fun paper plates and muffins and you and the kiddies have a party for valentine. It could be simply great fun!
HAPPY VALENTINE TO SYMPHONY
posted by
Justi
on February 12, 2005 at 11:05 PM
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Symphony,
It's okay...we have probably all done something similar at one time or another!
posted by
Original_Influence
on February 12, 2005 at 7:36 PM
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Symph
Dont worry yourself. You said what you thought was right at the time. Dont stress. Someday youll look back and laugh . These situations are tough I know Ive been there!!!! SMILE
posted by
jobella
on February 12, 2005 at 7:35 PM
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I had a divorced friend and this is how she handled it concerning the kids. She would never talk to him about her personal matters. She would talk about things concerning the kids. He wasn't invited in the house. He knocked on the door and the kids came out. For school meetings, they went in seperate cars. The kids were the only thing they had in common.
posted by
ThomasFranklin
on February 12, 2005 at 6:41 PM
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I have a theory that once you have been naked with someone, you can never act like a normal person again. Triple that if you marry the bastard, and then double it again if you have had children with him. My question would be..what is his motivation in calling you, and what is yours in talking with him? If there is an issue of safety for you or the children..then restraining order. Noone does anything without a reason. (I tell myself this often to explain my mental illness when I married my ex.) Good luck, love Ms.OC
posted by
MsOC
on February 12, 2005 at 5:54 PM
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Sorry Symphony
but you've probably really made things worse. He may start watching you to try and catch with this make believe guy. Be very careful I'm worried for you and hope he will eventually get over bothering you.
posted by
Moondawg
on February 12, 2005 at 4:25 PM
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God bless you, Symphony...
If your ex frightens you that much, You really need to go to the police....I don't know if it's all possible for you to get some kind of restraining order against him, but if you can please do so NOW...You're a wonderful person and mother to your children but by putting up with his phoning and coming round, you're putting yourself and your children at dangerous risk.
Please keep me posted...I'm worried for you.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on February 12, 2005 at 3:37 PM
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Oh God!! What an annoying person he is!!! I hope the earrings are small enough to fit in her NOSTRILS! And if not, we will make them fit!!
Dont let him get to you... you know something Sym? Even when you no longer love a person and have moved on, you never lose everything you felt for them and are still affected by them and their behaviour.... he wasnt worth you... be careful...
Did you try the link i sent you?
posted by
Tanoolicious
on February 12, 2005 at 3:03 PM
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