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lol....mark2556
sounds like a great idea...
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:44 AM
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yeah I guess thats true MarleyZiggens
thanks for pointing that out....
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:43 AM
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LOL....johnmcnab
thanks for sharing
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:43 AM
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thanks katray
it is so hard to know what is right and wrong...I wish children came with a rule book
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:42 AM
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Do what my mother would do whenever I sulked in my room...
...skip town for four days and come back smelling like cigarettes and gin.
posted by
mark2556
on January 30, 2005 at 6:41 AM
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thanks Moondawg
I guess so...
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:41 AM
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thank you so much redlunar
I guess that answers my question to rachelanna
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:41 AM
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LOL.....DivineDiva
thanks for sharing
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:39 AM
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do they know that at that young RachelAnna ??
the thought crossed my mind before...but just thought she was to young to be able to do that yet
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:39 AM
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yes I feel better today now that I got some time to myself jollyjeff
but I did feel guilty all night
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:38 AM
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thank you so much lovelyladymonk
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:37 AM
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thank you so much for sharing homegirl
I may try that...
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:36 AM
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thank you renigade3
yes that made me feel a little better...thanks for sharing
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:35 AM
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thanks Slendah
I do tell her that too...
posted by
_Symphony_
on January 30, 2005 at 6:34 AM
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They seem like good kids, and you wouldn't be worried about these things if you weren't a good mother, hang in there.
posted by
MarleyZiggens
on January 30, 2005 at 6:23 AM
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Symphony
Enjoy! Our children are over 30 and we are still being blamed for bringing them up in the shadow of the bomb - sometimes I wonder if I invented the nuclear bomb in my spare time.
posted by
johnmacnab
on January 30, 2005 at 6:02 AM
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It's rough I know Symphony. You are doing a great job mothering, I can tell by reading you.
Try not to let guilt build; that is a mistake I made and I over-spoilt my kids; they were pretty stinky by the time they became teenagers, lol.
No fun!! Continue giving her love and attention, but teach her to be reasonable and fair. And stand firm when she isn't! Take care and Good Luck.
posted by
Katray2
on January 29, 2005 at 6:25 PM
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Children are always
demanding more time than you can possibly give them. It's their way of feeling secure in knowing that you care. Sounds to me like there is no doubt about that. She probably doesn't really feel the way she talks, she knows mom cares and loves her, but what's the harm of trying to get a little extra attention now and then.
posted by
Moondawg
on January 29, 2005 at 2:46 PM
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symph,
you're doing everything right...I was a single parent for a good amount of time and it is hard to find the energy to devote to everyone that needs attention. Your daughter is at an age where she can see that manipulation is a powerful tool -- don't let her get away with it -- and, don't let it make you feel guilty.
red
posted by
redlunar
on January 29, 2005 at 1:25 PM
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She'll grow out of it Symph
My two were jealous of each even though there is 8 years age difference between them. And now, the youngest is 23, and I'm thinking any day now she's going to grow out of it 
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posted by
DivineDiva
on January 29, 2005 at 1:13 PM
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She's just getting to the age where she has learned the power of
manipulation. Don't sweat it.
posted by
RachelAnna
on January 29, 2005 at 12:19 PM
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You'll be a better mother
if you have some time for yourself
posted by
jollyjeff
on January 29, 2005 at 12:13 PM
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I wish you well
Hi Symphony...
I'll never have children of my own, but I used to care for my neices and nephews when they were children. They sometimes used to say things like that to me. It made me feel badly too, but don't ever think you're a bad mum. You do everything you can for your children and give them endless, unconditional love. All children go through this phase and the best thing you can do now is to try and help Shannon work through it. Remember, you took a very important and positive step by removing your childrern from an absuive situation. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!! Try to have a good evening. God bless.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on January 29, 2005 at 10:45 AM
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Here's what I did...
but I did it while my youngest was a newborn..
I noticed serious jealousy issues... so I sat the oldest down who was 2 years old, and put the baby on his lap. Then I explained that this was HIS baby sister, and how he would be responsible to look after her and help take care of her. I made it clear that she belonged to HIM as much as she belonged to us.
The downside is I have never been alowed to raise my voice at her. He still says "don't yell at my sister!" She is 8 and he is 10.
posted by
homegirl
on January 29, 2005 at 9:19 AM
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Symphony--You poor thing...This must make you feel bad. Maybe
this will help: I am a stay-at-home mom with three children (ages 5, 3, and 2). I work around 12 hours of the week just to get out. However, my oldest, Lauren, says the SAME things your daughter is saying. And, staying at home requires to much cleaning, cooking, and other chores (as I'm sure you do as well), that I too often feel that I am neglecting all of them. You are doing a wonderful job. I alway say that "mother" and "martyr" both start with the letter "m" for a reason! It comes with the job! Good luck!
posted by
Renigade
on January 29, 2005 at 9:16 AM
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Maybe try explaining to her that...
your son is still just a
baby who needs to be taken care of, but she is a
big girl. Thank God I only had one!
posted by
Slendah
on January 29, 2005 at 8:45 AM
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