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You-Look-Fabulous: I know exactly what you mean. I guarantee you, I didn't step into divorce over trifles. I took four years to make the decision. And I agonized over it. But the abuse was escalating. It would have gotten physical if I hadn't gotten out when I did.
Home-Girl: Yes. You can find what you were thinking of in April 24, 2004's post.
Renigade: You know, I think you are right. I talked to an old friend a few minutes ago, via AIM. This friend knew us both way back when. And she said pretty much the same thing. He has to choose happiness, I can't give it to him. And I tried so hard to do just that. Maybe that's why I am so discouraged by it all. So much time and effort wasted.
posted by
editormum
on January 25, 2005 at 7:45 PM
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As a wife--I take divorce VERY seriously. As a former abused child--
dump him and don't EVER let him convince you that your life is less important than his. You're depressed because here is someone that could have had everything, but yet chooses to ruin it instead...Chin up...
posted by
Renigade
on January 25, 2005 at 7:24 PM
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NO ONE ASKED YOU-LOOK-NOSY!
sorry, edmum, but it had to be said.
From what I remember your husband had serious problems that you staying with him could not fix. As a matter of fact, if my memory serves me, it would have been dangerous for you and your kids to stay.??? do I remember correctly?
Pick your chin up and know you did the right thing..... remember this letter is from someone who believes in the sanctity of marriage, but not at the expense of ones own life.
posted by
homegirl
on January 25, 2005 at 7:17 PM
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Breaking one's family has permanent, life-long and very negative consequences to the relationships of every member of that family, the innocent as well as the guilty. I would never do it.
posted by
TARZANA
on January 25, 2005 at 6:11 PM
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