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Original...wow...I think I would move!!
posted by
Julia.
on January 22, 2005 at 6:27 PM
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Quirky,
Off a main road that leads to another main road that has been touted as a 20 minute path to new jersey or new york and some of the finest criminals in the us of a.....
posted by
Original_Influence
on January 22, 2005 at 5:44 PM
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Sillysoul, I'm not sure, but I think most of them probably don't feel any guilt.
posted by
Julia.
on January 22, 2005 at 5:38 PM
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Original, that is very sad...where in the heck do you live??
posted by
Julia.
on January 22, 2005 at 5:36 PM
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Greetings
Oh I can relate. Having my purse stolen twice and feeling sicken still by the whole thing, on more then one occasion I wonder about the minds of people who volate others. Do they ever think about what they've done? and if so how do they blance out the measure of guilt? ~Silly
posted by
SillySoul88
on January 22, 2005 at 5:34 PM
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Quirky,
It's a shame but I have had my things violated so many times that I now think of it as the norm.....
posted by
Original_Influence
on January 22, 2005 at 5:32 PM
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Dreamer, I agree, the things human beings will do to each other, are really shocking
posted by
Julia.
on January 22, 2005 at 5:30 PM
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Taps, that's right...most folks can't know when misfortune will strike...or how.
posted by
Julia.
on January 22, 2005 at 5:29 PM
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glenn, thanks for your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on January 22, 2005 at 5:28 PM
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Wiley, that is a good idea...I can imagine their surprise upon seeing you...but as a woman, I wouldn't go outside to greet them, even with a crowbar in my grip.
posted by
Julia.
on January 22, 2005 at 5:26 PM
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I can't stand the idea of theft ...
Once upon a time, my father had all his work tools ($5000 bucks worth) stolen from his garage. As the theives left the garage, they used his broom to sweep away their dirty footprints. Then they decided to steal his ride too, instead of carrying all those tools. So, they rolled his truck out the driveway (manual) and enjoyed their new tools and truck. Makes me sick that people will steal from an honest, hardworking man! People that earn the things they have ..... Sorry about your situation :(
posted by
Dark_Dreamer
on January 22, 2005 at 10:40 AM
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I sure know the feeling, Quirky, having been broken in to twice in my life, but, not where I am now so I feel safe. But, one never knows when something like that will take place. Be safe.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 22, 2005 at 9:03 AM
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You are Safe and There is God!
It is not the way of most humanity but people who do commit crimes are certain that they will gain (for kicks, hatred, mischief, financial, …) and they have an escape plan to remain undetected. Committing a crime is not a moral judgment but an overt physical act to violate a person’s space. Criminal acts against a person is not deserved by anyone and touches us all.
Our civilization is being challenged daily! I hope the physical damage you endured can be repaired and that you can continue to enjoy this life without reservations about it’s humanity.
Otis
posted by
Glennb
on January 22, 2005 at 8:04 AM
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Quirky
That is unfortunate but probably a one time thing. I live in a rural and isolated area, but I think there is less crime living like this not more. The fcat that it wasn't just your mail but others too is kind of calming luv.
There are some things you can do today that are sensible when you live as we do luv.
I have a remote sensor way down my driveway, and I have a ringer in the bedroom, so if somebody was to come in the drive or whatever in the middle of the night, I have been there to greet them with my crowbar just in case.
Usually just my being outside before they pull all the way up the drive is a shock to anyone.
posted by
WileyJohn
on January 21, 2005 at 9:05 PM
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Spitfire, that is very creepy. ;-(
posted by
Julia.
on January 21, 2005 at 7:16 PM
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Exstud, thanks for the reassurance!
posted by
Julia.
on January 21, 2005 at 7:16 PM
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Quirk,
I think switching the mailbox to your business one is a good idea. It's always an unsettling feeling when a stranger has gone through your personal stuff. When I was 20, me and my roommate had a stalker who went through our underwear drawers and would call me 5 minutes after I returned home from work telling me how hot I looked in my
whatever I was wearing that day. We finally had the cops tap our phones. It was scary.
posted by
SpitFire70
on January 21, 2005 at 4:53 PM
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I understand why you feel violated; that can definitely be scary. I once had my high school ring, a dress watch and about $35 cash stolen from a locker at the community college whose summer camp I work at. Of course, I didn't lock my locker when I went to the pool -- no one ever locked their locker; such a theft had never happened to anyone at the camp before; my boss who had been there for 15 years was amazed that it happened.
To make yourself feel a bit better, though, consider that crime in rural areas, while it might be theoretically an attractive option for a crook, is statistically rare. Your chances of actually being harmed by an intruder are very, very low; so I think your idea of taking all reasonable precautions and then just going about your life is a wise approach. Anxiety definitely does not make a crime less likely to happen; reasonable caution such as not just opening the door for anyone who comes to it does make crime less likely. Plus most home invaders just want to steal your stuff, not to harm you. Losing stuff definitely sucks, as I know personally, but again, the chance of something bad actually happening to you is miniscule.
posted by
Dyl_Pickle
on January 21, 2005 at 4:14 PM
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loanlady, thanks for the good advice.
posted by
Julia.
on January 21, 2005 at 12:43 PM
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You might want to check your credit report in a couple weeks. Also make sure you are getting all your regular bills. Some evil people like to steal identities and it can be a nightmare. However, I would say that statistically speaking it was probably some bad kids looking for a little cash in an envelope. Sorry you have to deal with the worry feelings
posted by
the-loanlady
on January 21, 2005 at 10:38 AM
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renigade, you're right, it doesn't feel good at all.
posted by
Julia.
on January 20, 2005 at 9:38 PM
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Ca88, well...I do think people, esp. women who live alone, should
always lock their doors and windows no matter where they live.
posted by
Julia.
on January 20, 2005 at 9:38 PM
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Ariala, thanks, I hope so, too.
posted by
Julia.
on January 20, 2005 at 9:36 PM
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beachbelle, I think you handled that remarkably well...you're right, most people can't disengage to that level.
posted by
Julia.
on January 20, 2005 at 9:30 PM
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Passion, yes to all that!
posted by
Julia.
on January 20, 2005 at 9:28 PM
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mark, yeah...great advice...
posted by
Julia.
on January 20, 2005 at 9:27 PM
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It's an odd feeling to know that someone has
touched your "stuff"--whether it be your mail, your undies, or the credit card number they pilfered and used online at a porn site. I know how this feels...Hope it gets better.
posted by
Renigade
on January 20, 2005 at 6:27 PM
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It's never a nice feeling, but you shouldn't lock yourself away or in. If you do that - They - will have won!
posted by
Ca88andra
on January 20, 2005 at 6:20 PM
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Hopefully things will be okay, but I'm sure it's unsettling.
posted by
Ariala
on January 20, 2005 at 6:03 PM
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QuirkyAlone
I was burgled once while I slept. My then baby son was in the house. I lost everything to do with my work. My computer, my contacts book - both hard copy and on the computer, my credit cards, my licence, keys, my passport, my brush, my make-up, my handbag, briefcase, my notebooks, jewelery- so much. It took me so long to get it all sorted and then of course the fraudsters started using my cards and my credit-rating was affected because of all they debt they ran up. Since then I had my bag stolen twice and and lost the cards again, and a cellphone.
I was angry about it but for my own sanity I disengaged emotionally. I was not prepared to let the thieves have that power over me. This approach doesn't work for most people but I just thought "Stuff them. They are not taking me down too." It was only stuff and life has gone on.
Take care
posted by
beachbelle
on January 20, 2005 at 5:36 PM
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Quirky
Whatever you do, don't listen to Mark2556. He's OFF his medications.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. It isn't possible to protect yourself completely from dangers. Use common sense, take precautions, but remember to relax and enjoy your life and your home.
Otherwise, the evil wins.
posted by
Passionflower
on January 20, 2005 at 5:33 PM
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Do what I do...put a small incendiary device in the mailbox. Sure, a few mailmen may loose their arms, but you only have to get it right once to get the bad guy.
posted by
mark2556
on January 20, 2005 at 5:30 PM
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Word, I don't know how it happened, no one watching I guess. It's true that we can take what precautions are available, and then it's out of our hands.
posted by
Julia.
on January 20, 2005 at 5:27 PM
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Amen to that Quirky.
We can do so much and no more. We basically just have to hope bad stuff doesn't happen. How did something like that happen on a Saturday with folks at home? Maybe I should go read that post.
posted by
word.smith
on January 20, 2005 at 5:24 PM
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