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Editormum - I believe that there is always a better way than spanking. But, since children are all different, what works for one does not necessarily work for another. Parents must really know their children and they must really know themselves. Discipline calls for being consistent, without fail. The most important aspect is consistency.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 10, 2005 at 8:25 AM
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Folks who tend to be speak in definitives like never and always...
are usually the ones who don't have a good view of reality. I do not approve of "spanking" as the first resort, but it is a necessary resort at times. Young children don't understand much in regards to more than basic word usage, you can't give a 3 year old long disertations on why he/she can't do something. My kids aren't Einstein, they're normal. It's silly to think you can reason with children in every situation, you can't even expect that from all adults...
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posted by
superflymom119
on January 10, 2005 at 8:01 AM
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Cynthia
In all my years, I have never seen a child who was merely given a good "speaking to" with nary a swat turn out to be disciplined. If they could reason like adults, they wouldn't need us.
Polls show even 95-99% of parents who don't believe in spanking have swatted their kids at least once.
Editormum, I totally agree with you. I received spanking as a punishment for doing things I knew were wrong and had previously been told not to do. In my life, I only remember receiving 10 or less spankings...that's how effective they were....I certainly didn't want to get more and learned my lessons well.
My oldest is very headstrong. She's the kind that will do something she knows is wrong right in front of me just to show me she's not impressed with my 'reasoning' and test the boundaries. When it gets to that point, a spanking (punishment) is in order...not discipline, which I consider to be a demonstrative learning experience.
posted by
koriani
on January 10, 2005 at 7:42 AM
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Sorry Editorium, in my book,
there is no excuse for spanking. In-spite of your, long, thorough, rationalizations it never works in the long run. To me it demonstrates the act of someone who doesn't really believe they are bigger, stronger and smarter (that's the important thing, smarter) than their own kid. By the time you spank them, you might as well admit your own failure.
posted by
Cynthia
on January 6, 2005 at 4:47 PM
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