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thanks beachbelle

you are right.......after a goodnight sleep...I maybe thinking more clearly....guilt is such a horrible feeling...it makes me hate myself!

I am going a bed in half an hour!

thank you so much for your advice...I will defiently have a word with the doctors...for the sake of my mum and to put my mind at rest.....you are wonderful...thank you

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 12:30 PM | link to this | reply

symphony
First: you mother's condition is ongoing so it would have happened anyway.

Second: Get yourself a good night's sleep and then you will be fit to cope.

Third: Go to the hospital and tell them, and then phone her doctor and say you are very concerned about the pain and discomfort your mother is experiencing. Tell them that you are very concerned that this is having a detrimental affect on your's mother's well-being and lonmg term health prospects and that you are concerned that the long delay before the surgery may permanently affect her.

Be very firm and persistent in this. Lay it on a bit thick but stay cool and in control when asking them this.

Don't waste time hating yourself - it won't help your mother.

posted by beachbelle on December 29, 2004 at 12:26 PM | link to this | reply

thanks for reading erinlove
its all wrong...but theres nothing that can be done...its so unfair

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 12:17 PM | link to this | reply

I hope things work out for you mum, Symphony! I don't understand why
they can't move up a gallbladder surgery either. 

posted by erinlove on December 29, 2004 at 12:06 PM | link to this | reply

ok...KlaraRoberts

have a great day or night...take care....

thanks for my order

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 11:48 AM | link to this | reply

OK, then, here's an order: Go to bed! LOL
I'll be on later again and we can chat more then.

posted by KlaraRoberts on December 29, 2004 at 11:43 AM | link to this | reply

thanks KlaraRoberts

I will be going to bed soon.....it is now 7.40pm....I want to be in bed for 9pm tonight

so if im still here...please send me away.....as I may fall asleep right here in this uncomfortable chair

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 11:34 AM | link to this | reply

Ah, don't feel guilty, Symphie. Sleep well, as you will need your strength
to help.

posted by KlaraRoberts on December 29, 2004 at 11:31 AM | link to this | reply

thank you jimmy68

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 11:26 AM | link to this | reply

Love to mum...
take care of yourself...

posted by jimmy68 on December 29, 2004 at 11:23 AM | link to this | reply

thank you void-is

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 11:23 AM | link to this | reply

Oh Symph! I hope all goes well, and get some sleep!

posted by void-is on December 29, 2004 at 11:07 AM | link to this | reply

thanks ThomasFranklin
I will tell her to check it out

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 10:59 AM | link to this | reply

I believe in nutrition as the key to fixing problems. Check out a book by  Maureen Salaman called Foods that Heal.

posted by ThomasFranklin on December 29, 2004 at 10:19 AM | link to this | reply

thank you so much DivineDiva

you raised great points there.....since she has had the camra thing and the gall stones removed...she has not been eating much at all because she says she feels weird....yesterday she said she did not feel like anything to eat.......maybe thats what flared it up again.....

thank you for telling me about the liver and all that....its late here now so I wont be able to talk to the hospital doctors...but I defiently will tomorrow.....thank you...

I still cant help hating myself and feeling guilty though

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 10:06 AM | link to this | reply

thanks gypsyredhead33
I feel guity that she babysat.....I wish she would have rang me....

posted by _Symphony_ on December 29, 2004 at 10:03 AM | link to this | reply

Symph, try not to hate yourself

Your Mom was being a Mom Symph, wanting to do whatever she could to help her "baby". Since she knew how to get in touch with you, please don't feel bad because she chose not to. She wanted to be at your house.

Is there a chance you can shake up the hospital a little? Talk to her doctor? One thing about gall bladders is they can affect the liver if not watched carefully. Maybe put a bit of pressure on the doctor since your Mom's condition seems to be acting up so much? I found that eating any kind of fat (butter, mayonaise, anything fried) would put me into an attack right quick. Also, if I went too long without eating anything that would start an attack also.

Get some rest Symph, then go raise hell with her doctors

Take care,

posted by DivineDiva on December 29, 2004 at 10:00 AM | link to this | reply

Symph..
don't blame yourself. your mother is an adult and quite capable of telling you how she feels! Try and get some rest soon.

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on December 29, 2004 at 9:55 AM | link to this | reply