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L.E.GRANT!

Hello again….how are you?

Calling him an asshole in general would be a closed mind im sure….but when I say he turned out to be an asshole in my post its my diary its my journal and my mind is open knowing there are assholes in the world, I don’t feel that’s having a closed mind…I don’t just go on them couple of things that were said in my post to figure that he is an asshole, but I feel that I am very aware and I am not wrong and nor is he…our views don’t match so there’s nothing compatible about us being together

Like I said this was my first date and I knew by the end of the night it was our last one too, I can’t help how I feel there my emotions and feelings!

I am not a bad person you know?, admittedly I have had violent and abusive relationships and am very aware of assholes, he is not an asshole in that respect,

The advice I would had give to somebody who would have wrote my post…….is

“Better luck next time” “don’t give up” “not all are assholes”

But I do see your point…..take care

posted by _Symphony_ on December 11, 2004 at 4:50 AM | link to this | reply

You're welcome.Calling him an asshole is NOT a closed view? Is not saying that he's wrong, and you are right?

And I have NOT come to a conclusion about you or your relationships - I stated a view and asked a question, based on what you wrote. That this view does not fit with yours (or many of the other commenting bloggers) is just par for the course.

And, of course, you ARE entitled to not create relationships. But re-read your post and ask yourself (and answer YOURSELF as honestly as you can) just what advice you'd give someone else if that was all the information given.

posted by L.E.Gant on December 10, 2004 at 9:56 PM | link to this | reply

thank you so much DivineDiva

...I hope you are ok?....take care

posted by _Symphony_ on December 9, 2004 at 11:35 AM | link to this | reply

yes KlaraRoberts

I see what you mean...your right...I'm glad I found this out early on instead of being brainwashed....thanks for reading...take care

posted by _Symphony_ on December 9, 2004 at 11:34 AM | link to this | reply

Gotta kiss alot of frogs

....before you meet a prince .

Finding out that someone isn't quite what you wanted isn't a waste of time, it's more like: 1 down, 10 billion men to go !!

posted by DivineDiva on December 9, 2004 at 10:22 AM | link to this | reply

I'm glad you at least had the date, Symph.

Look on the bright side if you can. At least you didn't waste a whole lot of time on him. You know what I mean. Some pretend to like certain things about you, and pretend to like the kids, etc., then months later tell you, "Oh well, I really don't want to raise someone else's kids", or "You're not really what I was looking for". I hate that most of all.

posted by KlaraRoberts on December 9, 2004 at 8:58 AM | link to this | reply

thank you so much beachbelle

posted by _Symphony_ on December 9, 2004 at 8:47 AM | link to this | reply

hello L.E.Gant

thanks for sharing your males prospective on things, this was my first date since I had split up with my husband some months ago!

firstly I don't see how him or you can come to that conclusion when you have never been in that prediciment, you are judging without the situation occurring!

secondly what you see from my writing has nothing to do with my personal relationships...you cant come to the conclusionon like that

and thridly I never said he was wrong and I was right and I don't complain of the lacks!

but I am not prepared to be around somebody with closed views....they are not my type!

posted by _Symphony_ on December 9, 2004 at 8:46 AM | link to this | reply

Quirkyalone

thank you

posted by _Symphony_ on December 9, 2004 at 8:40 AM | link to this | reply

hello Moondawg

how are you?.....no I was not looking for mr right......this actually was my first date since spilitting up with my husband. your such a sweetie

posted by _Symphony_ on December 9, 2004 at 8:39 AM | link to this | reply

You don't need someone like him

but do keep an open mind and someone will turn up when you least expect it. Be yourself and if a man is relaxed in himself and you like him go for it

posted by beachbelle on December 9, 2004 at 12:17 AM | link to this | reply

A Male Perspective...

Maybe it's something that you have said that gets him to express what he thinks. As Cassandra's Instant Answers put it - people want certainty. They don't like change, and anything that represents change has to be viewed with distrust.

I don't think I'm particularly macho, but I don't like tattoos of women (come to think of it, I don't like tattoos on ANYBODY). Rasing children is always a personal choice, and I don't know how I would have reacted to working with kids that were not mine (or directly related to me) - never needed to make the decision, but I suppose I'd have given a similar answer to your male friend.

I know that I'm opinionated, hate people disagreeing with me (unless they can prove I'm wrong), and am as stubborn as they come. But then, from your writings, you're opinionated, stubborn and many other similar adjectives.

So, why do you really think he's wrong and you are right? Maybe if you decide to make a relationship work, instead of complaining about others' lacks...

posted by L.E.Gant on December 8, 2004 at 11:55 PM | link to this | reply

what a loser...he's way too opinionated!

posted by Julia. on December 8, 2004 at 8:48 PM | link to this | reply

Peas of a pod

Still looking for mister right I see. Maybe you should give us ugly guys a shot. We're much easier to pusuade. In fact will probably agree with most anything just to go out with a woman. Tha's alright I've given up on it anyway. Thanks for the welcome back, hope your mood has improved.

posted by Moondawg on December 8, 2004 at 5:08 PM | link to this | reply

mary_x

oh, I see!...that makes sense

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 2:08 PM | link to this | reply

It depends, I guess. I got very bitter for a while and I think that vibe that I put out kept me from attracting good men.

posted by Blanche. on December 8, 2004 at 2:07 PM | link to this | reply

mary_x ..keep me from it?

wont it make me appreciate it more?

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 2:03 PM | link to this | reply

Symphony,

Don't let him sour you on the whole lot, it'll keep you from appreciating the real thing when you find it.

posted by Blanche. on December 8, 2004 at 1:59 PM | link to this | reply

Ca88andra ...thank you so much

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:58 PM | link to this | reply

Well, I would be crossing that man off my list! you can do much better than him...

posted by Ca88andra on December 8, 2004 at 1:57 PM | link to this | reply

gypsyredhead33 .......rofl

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:52 PM | link to this | reply

jamryn ...lol....thank you so much

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:52 PM | link to this | reply

Tanoolicious ...thanks

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:51 PM | link to this | reply

AnnAndBenjamin ...thanks

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:51 PM | link to this | reply

gypsyredhead33

im not searching...they can find me

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:51 PM | link to this | reply

Oh and thanks for letting me know first!! :::Hug:::

posted by Tanoolicious on December 8, 2004 at 1:47 PM | link to this | reply

hehehe

and a plug for every outlet... ok I'm just being dirty now. But Jam started it, by accident lol.

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on December 8, 2004 at 1:38 PM | link to this | reply

Keep looking

as my grand mother use to say - there's a lid for every pot. You may have to kiss ( or not kiss ) a lot of frogs to find the one true Prince.

posted by jamryn on December 8, 2004 at 1:36 PM | link to this | reply

Sym, it shows how thick he is if he didnt shut his mouth if he saw you were pissed!! Talk about loving the sound of your own voice!

posted by Tanoolicious on December 8, 2004 at 1:33 PM | link to this | reply

Well at least, this was a first date

since your break away from your hubby.

Date away, I say.

Ann

posted by A-and-B on December 8, 2004 at 1:30 PM | link to this | reply

Symph,

don't give up, there's some fun guys out there too!

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on December 8, 2004 at 1:30 PM | link to this | reply

gypsyredhead33 ...yay

I wanted to know more of the black eyes...lol.....but thats great that you carry mad money........thank you so much for sharing....

this was my first proper date in years......I was so nervous...I think it be my last for years too...lol

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:29 PM | link to this | reply

MerryAnne ...I am too nice for my own good!

lol....anyhow we didn't got for a meal...we went to a pub with a live band.....it was not a late night...but we bought drinks for eachother....we got a cab home and I said goodbye and left...I don't know if he thought I was going to offer him in...and I felt terrible rude thinking about it later on.....but still...all done and dusted now!

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:27 PM | link to this | reply

Symph..

What part did you want to know more about? "Mad Money" is just a set amount of cash I carry on a date for if I get pissed off and don't want to wait for them to take me home. It's happened a few times. I did give a few black eyes back as a teenager because hands didn't stop roaming when I said to stop. As far as being verbal. I used to be alot quicker to shove than to say something. Now, I just say it like it is. I won't waste my time on a dickhead!

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on December 8, 2004 at 1:24 PM | link to this | reply

I would have said, "Gee too bad you'll NEVER get to see my tatoos..." and left it at that. I hope you at least ate dessert and left him with the bill....

Don't worry your time will come.

posted by MerryAnne on December 8, 2004 at 1:21 PM | link to this | reply

gypsyredhead33 ...lol..please tell me more!

don't just leave it like that!...hehehe

I wish I could get more tougher ...I need to verbal what I think

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:20 PM | link to this | reply

Symph,

You're nicer than me. I'd have said,"Thanks for your time, however, since I have kids and am a tattooed freak I'll spare you from wasting anymore of my time. Bite me!" Then I'd walk out. I carry what I call "Mad Money" on a date. This is from the days as a teenager when I gave more than one date a black eye and took a cab or bus home!

posted by RedHeadedGypsy on December 8, 2004 at 1:18 PM | link to this | reply

WHAMENATOR ....

I would truly appreciate one good date!

....one day my time will come

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:18 PM | link to this | reply

Tanoolicious ....lol

one day for us both!.....I must admit..I was getting really pissed off...and I think my expressions said it all

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:17 PM | link to this | reply

thanks roofpig13

I hope so......I always seem to make the wrong choices...

posted by _Symphony_ on December 8, 2004 at 1:15 PM | link to this | reply

Symphony, all of the assholes out there do make me greatly appreciate

the one good date I did have! LOL

posted by WHAMENATOR on December 8, 2004 at 1:14 PM | link to this | reply

Well at least you saw him for what he is right now, not later on.... God what an ass!! I would have sat there slowly turning angrier and my eyebrows rising higher and higher till they almost shoot up from my forehead and then i would have.......i dont know what i would have done.... "!$£^$"^$"$£!$£"!!$" man!!