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- Go to I AM NOT PUSSY FOOTING AROUND YOU OR ANYONE ANYMORE .......................
Yup got it and replied hehehe
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 10:56 AM
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Tanoolicious lol
....I sent you another email......
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 10:32 AM
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tremacc thank you
thats sounds like a great idea....I could do with doing something new and different.....once I do it...then I guess there is no turning back...I just need to keep stepping forward...until I make it...............damn, it is so easy to say......take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 10:31 AM
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oops, I mean stifled...
posted by
Tremac
on November 16, 2004 at 9:52 AM
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Nevermind, I said it and saw your email....
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 9:52 AM
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Symmy Sym Sym.... you got the songie?
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 9:51 AM
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Sym--- what has helped me when I have felt
controlled or limited or stiffled by anyone is to go outside of what I currently know and do-- if only for a little while. Get involved in something new. I know it may sound lame, but you could volunteer a few hours of your time somewhere for just one day-- at a battered womens shelter or a phone bank or a food drive or or even hang out at a senior center. Read to them, play checkers, paint their fingernails-- sing karaoke with them maybe? Or take a dance, art or karate class at a local community center? Regardless, think of making a new memory, with a new group of people-- one that has nothing to do with your ex. It helps.
posted by
Tremac
on November 16, 2004 at 9:50 AM
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Tanoolicious
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 8:58 AM
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Melodystar
thank you so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 8:57 AM
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MerryAnne thats an excellent idea
my husband hates the colour purple which happens to be my favorite colour........maybe to paint the frontroom this colour may make me feel better................thanks for the advice
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 8:57 AM
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AnnaMJ
thank you ever so much...yes I should do something he would not aprove of......it maybe something I need to do...to realise that it was not so bad after all................thank you for reading and commenting
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 8:55 AM
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Yes we will Sym **hugs**
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 7:58 AM
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It is so hard I have done it twice before but I had to leave where I was living with to many memories. I wish you all the luck and understanding. You are a strong women I know you can do it! Take care.
posted by
Melodystar
on November 16, 2004 at 7:55 AM
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When I split up with my ex.
I painted the apartment a really outrageous color that I knew he would have cringed at, but that I loved. Then when that was done, I knew that the place was mine, and that I could do anything I wanted too. It was a physical act that helped me change my mindset.
posted by
MerryAnne
on November 16, 2004 at 7:49 AM
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I completely understand, been there done that. Time is the answer just keep working at it. (One trick I found is to take joy in doing something that he wouldn't have approved of even though it was right for me). We get so brainwashed in these toxic relationships that we lose sense of self. Eventually it won't matter what he thinks especially when you do something (or don't do something) and he's not there to criticize.
posted by
AnnaMJ
on November 16, 2004 at 7:16 AM
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Tanoolicious ....lol
thank you.
...well then we will have to be there for eachother at christmas....tough time of year....huh?
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 6:57 AM
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oh and I forgot to say
YOURE WELCOME!
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 6:53 AM
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Sym im uploading the song for you as we speak..... I know what you mean, I felt like it was something i would write too ..... dont worry sweetie, im here for you on Christmas.... my Christmas is going to be broken as always and i promise to call you!!!! **hugs**
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 6:52 AM
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jamryn lol...........I cant wait to forget him
thanks for reading and for your comment..............you are great
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 6:52 AM
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Tanoolicious
I forgot to say
thank you!!!!!!!!!
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 6:51 AM
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wow Tanoolicious
it felt like I wrote that....thank you so much for the lyrics.....yes I would love the song...send it please.......and I think your right about stalling...christmas is scaring me more than what I think...and doing it myself is kind of scary....but I am independent now......must start acting like it.......
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 6:51 AM
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Sym im listening to this song right now and after i commented i realized Hey Sym needs to read this.... I love this song so much, it makes me feel so good and its so true!! Here are the lyrics.... im going to email you the song right now if your account will hold a huge amount of space cos you MUST hear it....
Alter Bridge - Shed My Skin
I am not alone
I live with the memories regret is my home
This is my true freedom
Express all the feelings of what I've become
I watch the rising sun
I hope I can find some peace today
It seems I've gone away
It seems I've lost myself
It seems I've really lost my way
It seems I've lost myself
It seems I've
Shed my skin
Are you ready for me
Or purge my love
Are you ready for me
A bitter sinking feeling
Awake to the fact there's no going back
To the world in which I was living
I'm searching for something but found less than nothing
I watch the rising sun
I hope to find some peace today
It seems I've gone away
It seems I've lost myself
It seems I've really lost my way
It seems I've lost myself
It seems I've
Shed my skin
Are you ready for me
Or purge my love
Are you ready for me
Oh cause I'm dying to feel
What I have lost
Oh and what I was
All my life I've wanted
Endless days have taken
Taken what made me free
Years have gone
I'm broken
Left the past unspoken
Those years...
Oh they haunt me still
Shed my skin
Are you ready for me
Or purge my love
Are you ready for me
And shed my skin
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 6:40 AM
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One day at a time is the right answer.Set your priorities. You and the children first. Some day in the future some one will mention the ex's name and you're imediate reaction will be Who? Oh ya ! I forgot about him.
posted by
jamryn
on November 16, 2004 at 6:39 AM
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Sym, I havent found myself and have somewhat learned to love myself some days..... I know what you mean about something holding you back..... I thought that college was holding me back from alot of things and now i started working and still feel that and i realized that i am holding myself back....
As for you, what i understood that was that your husband was so controlling you got used to it because you know how to act to get the outcome you wanted.... and now you are the sole responsibility and decision maker of evcerything you do its such a big step, so i think youre stalling..... take that first leap of independance sweetie and if you fall we'll all be here to pick you up ***hugs***
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 16, 2004 at 6:37 AM
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Hollee THANKS.....I do trust you
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 6:24 AM
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One day at a time, dear Symph - it gets easier. Trust me.
posted by
Hollee
on November 16, 2004 at 5:59 AM
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scriber thnak you so much
I cant wait to my life is my own again
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 5:45 AM
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roofpig13 you know.. that was a great comment!
because I suppose it is the same thing...a trap of gulit is the same thing, so I know that you can relate to me, and your right ...I can make the thoughts go away.....I have been trying this positive thinknig but it is not working because I end up back to square one.....but then I guess it is not going to happen over night.....so I must keep trying....if I want things my way then I will have to wrok at it....right?.......thank you so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on November 16, 2004 at 5:44 AM
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Symp love, time is usually the answer...Each day his influence will wane,
and you will gradually gain more control until you have it all again.
posted by
scriber
on November 16, 2004 at 5:42 AM
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You know, obviously I've never had a husband before, but I kind of still feel this way in regards to my mom. She instilled a big guilt complex in me over the years, so I feel like I still need to pussyfoot around things when she's concerned. She's gotten better about things and I've gotten to be less of a coward about it, so things are okay now for the most part. You just need to keep telling yourself that you are your own person and your actions no longer concern him. He's nothing but a thought in the back of your head, and you know what the cool thing about thoughts is? You can make them go away. :-)
posted by
roofpig
on November 16, 2004 at 5:39 AM
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