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loan lady,
thanks for your most excellent and insightful comment.
posted by
Julia.
on November 10, 2004 at 10:17 AM
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I have experienced that feeling of instant connection with both men and women. Often that first impression is pretty correct. Maybe more that the energy around us it is combined with other factors. I do know that we have a life source energy and the point where that extends to may not only be at the end of your skin. Sense of smell to me can trigger emotions. Memory and past olfactory connections from our nose/mouth to brain may give us this instant response to another human. People use the word chemical attraction and the chemistry of our bodies can be experienced by smell, heat, touch, breath, and energy forces. We are really animals, with instincts and reactions that are not simple to decipher. The sound of a voice can connect with some positive tone from your mother singing when you were a child or the sound of brakes screeching and create the instinct to run. Thanks for making me think!
posted by
the-loanlady
on November 10, 2004 at 9:51 AM
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inns,
but if you write it, they will come, hehe.
posted by
Julia.
on November 9, 2004 at 11:49 AM
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Quirky...
don't get me started on this...
that would be a blog unto itself. I'll just say the answer is yes.
posted by
theinnkeepersdaughter
on November 9, 2004 at 11:46 AM
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qwerty,
I can always count on you for the best...comments, hehe.
posted by
Julia.
on November 9, 2004 at 11:02 AM
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Hmmm
Hell, I hate people at first sideway glance, or pungent aroma. The world would be a better place with more pure hatred.
posted by
qwertyui
on November 8, 2004 at 9:21 PM
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Tap,
Yes, do ponder...pondering is good, lol.
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 5:27 PM
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Wilds,
Yeah, I like it too.
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 5:26 PM
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Wiley, LOL.
Glad you managed not to kill each other.
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 5:25 PM
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Ann,
Oh okay then...BE different! ;-)
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 5:24 PM
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Alf,
What do I think? Hmmm. I think all men probably do that, a holdover from the cave-man days perhaps. I don't think women do this, though. At least I know I don't...or do I?
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 5:23 PM
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Quirky - Very interesting. I'm not a believer in reincarnation so that on
is out for me. But, the energetics or energy field theory is very interesting. I might just ponder on that one a bit. I like to think about things like that.
posted by
TAPS.
on November 8, 2004 at 4:33 PM
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I loved that line. I don't know what to attribute it to, the etiology of it, but I've certainly experienced both ends of the spectrum as well. Nice post, Quirks!
posted by
Wildwoman_Laloba
on November 8, 2004 at 3:04 PM
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HELLO!
Quirky!! 
Neat blog, really neat. Yes to the love at the "hello" with Joyce, like caramel flowing down vanilla ice cream, smooth, ohhhhhhh.
And yes to the other life. I did meet a man where it was instant hate, just like that. Sad part was he was an NCO in the military, and my crew chief!! It got very violent, we nearly killed one another, it had to be left over from another life. 
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 8, 2004 at 2:55 PM
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made sense to me...
ltlmac70
posted by
superflymom119
on November 8, 2004 at 2:33 PM
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Yes, that one too Quirk - though I can't think of anyone I've ever really
"hated." Perhaps cared nothing for is a better description.
posted by
Hollee
on November 8, 2004 at 1:26 PM
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I get my impressions gradually,
some of them informally,
some by intuition.
Ann
posted by
A-and-B
on November 8, 2004 at 12:55 PM
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Quirky,
I think both explanations are possible and have merit. I think there is one more, perhaps the most obvious. When I meet men for example, it's just part of my subconscious Alpha male instinct to immediatly size them up, assess their character, their level of intelligence, and their physical strength and condition. I don't realize that I am doing this at the time, but I am certain I am and I think it is natural. Based on what my subconscious scan percieves within five minutes I have an opinion of a guy, whether or not I like him, trust him, etc. I am not always correct, but as I get older I think my brain has gotten better and better at this. I don't do the same thing with women however. Women do not represent competition to me nor are they a threat of any kind. This is precisely why I have such a hard time judging the character of women and why I have made so many mistakes in doing so. What do you think?
posted by
A_Norseman
on November 8, 2004 at 12:26 PM
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Quirky,
I think both explanations are possible and have merit. I think there is one more, perhaps the most obvious. When I meet men for example, it's just part of my subconscious Alpha male instinct to immediatly size them up, assess their character, their level of intelligence, and their physical strength and condition. I don't realize that I am doing this at the time, but I am certain I am and I think it is natural. Based on what my subconscious scan percieves within five minutes I have an opinion of a guy, whether or not I like him, trust him, etc. I am not always correct, but as I get older I think my brain has gotten better and better at this. I don't do the same thing with women however. Women do not represent competition to me nor are they a threat of any kind. This is precisely why I have such a hard time judging the character of women and why I have made so many mistakes in doing so. What do you think?
posted by
A_Norseman
on November 8, 2004 at 12:24 PM
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ltlmac,
yes I think that's correct re: your analysis of the movie. But I think either of my two possibilities could ALSO apply, in addition to that. Does that make any sense?
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 11:35 AM
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tanoo, ROFL,
love the visual accompaniment.
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 11:32 AM
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I think you're right...
in your assessment of the potential applications of the sentiments. In the movie though, I think it was even deeper still, because these two people were together before, and were about to reunite. It's been awhile since I've seen the movie, but if I remember right, she said that because she was already prepared to go back with him, and his words weren't relevant to her decision. She already knew she was in love with him before he said "hello"...
Anyway, good post, that is definitely one of those movie phrases that took on a life of its own!!
ltlmac70
posted by
superflymom119
on November 8, 2004 at 11:29 AM
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Quirky, not alot can guess it, im not a people person, but i can sense feelings from the other person when i meet em, and its i either like em or GO AWAY GO AWAY! 
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 8, 2004 at 11:25 AM
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tremacc,
thanks much!
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 11:22 AM
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tanoo, lol.
thanks for sharing re: the "hate you at hello." That's an interesting fact about you I wouldn't have guessed.
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 11:21 AM
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word.smith, thanks.
I like that phrase...
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 11:14 AM
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This is great stuff, I agree. I have felt instant connections as well...
posted by
Tremac
on November 8, 2004 at 11:06 AM
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oh ive met a few people who had me at hello but those are very rare, now many people i hated at hello.... thats the way i am, i immediately dislike or like a person.... and im rarely wrong about them, i trust my instincts alot
Great post, i totally believe in the whole aura thing
posted by
Tanoolicious
on November 8, 2004 at 11:04 AM
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Good Post Quirky..
I believe indeed that we have a certain 'aura' about us, both good and bad. In Jamaica, we say that the person 'makes our spirit cross'. I've met people who did that to me, but usually, it has to do with their demeanor.
posted by
word.smith
on November 8, 2004 at 11:01 AM
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Hollee,
Well, how about a "I hate you at Hello" moment??
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 10:17 AM
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On my yes. Oh yes, oh my. The whole enchilada and a bottle of tequila too.
posted by
Hollee
on November 8, 2004 at 10:09 AM
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Holleeeee,
the whole enchilada? Have you ever had a "you had me at hello" moment?
posted by
Julia.
on November 8, 2004 at 10:06 AM
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Quirk - I agree with you whole-heartedly. Great post.
posted by
Hollee
on November 8, 2004 at 9:50 AM
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