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tbgroucho
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 3, 2004 at 3:02 AM
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jamryn
thank you so very much, that sure made me think..........you are great..............thank you ever so much for being so kind and caring
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 3, 2004 at 3:02 AM
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symphony
tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on September 2, 2004 at 9:50 PM
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SYMPHONY - IT'S ALL A CONSPERICY
This there ( your x and his mother ) plan - to upset you and the children and to turn the children aganst you. They are WRONG, WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. You were 110% corect today to do what you did.
In the future instead of allowing yourself to get angery enough to start screeming. Close the door - imediately call the police and have them take care of the situation. See by showing up as they did they knew it would get you all worked up and flustered.. Then later in court they think they clam that you are always screeming and flying into a rage in frount of the children. It's a BAD - BAD plan. It's there only plan. It's all they have and they know the athorities will be on your side. So they have to think up anything they can to make you look bad.
YOU'RE NOT!!!!!! Don't give them anymore chances to try that bad game again. Go on another holiday or you and the kids disapear for a while if you have to. Do you have shelters for abused women and children - over there? Lie if you have to buy you and the kids some time to sort things out.
posted by
jamryn
on September 2, 2004 at 5:25 PM
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Ca88andra
thats what I don't want is to be blamed when they are older...........I want them to understand
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 3:50 PM
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Symphony - separation is never easy, and even more difficult for the children. Whatever you do, make sure they get hurt as little as possible and remember that he is their father. Its not easy, but later in life they might blame you if you don't allow them access to him. (Unless he was ever violent to them, in which case its a different kettle of fish).
posted by
Ca88andra
on September 2, 2004 at 3:49 PM
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Melodystar
thank you so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 2:20 PM
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So sorry that you had to go through all that.
posted by
Melodystar
on September 2, 2004 at 2:13 PM
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mariantonia
thank you.............you made a point there............first thing tomorrow that is exactley what I am going to do.....I know it is probley to late, but if I contact them and see what they say...............thnak you
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 2:07 PM
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Apology on typo error on police.
posted by
mariantonia
on September 2, 2004 at 1:49 PM
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Looks like the common trick is to turn up un-announced. Another dirty trick is to get the kids on his side. Don't worry. Don't fall on account of those dirty tricks. I'm sorry - you need at least 1 polie report. Will help you for covering your own actions, use for evidence in case you need to fight out this case. You may loose your kids if you can't fight your case. Seriously.Please do this.
posted by
mariantonia
on September 2, 2004 at 1:49 PM
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tremacc
yes you are right thank you so much...........I really could do with some thinking of what I need to do for the best for the future....thinking is all I seem to do lately......thank you so much for reading and commenting........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 12:40 PM
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Symphony, don't underestimate yourself and don't let anyone else underestimate you either. Remember that chess game I was telling you about? Always think four moves ahead...
posted by
Tremac
on September 2, 2004 at 12:37 PM
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hugz_n_kisses
thank you so much for your concern, you are so kind, thank you for everything........you are wonderful, take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 10:36 AM
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awful day for you sweety, I am so sorry , youu reallyhave a rough time, i wishi could help, you only deserve the best
i think you should wath out that his mum doexnt try to take your chiildren away
i am here if you need me sweetie xoxxoxoxoxoxox
posted by
hugz_n_kisses
on September 2, 2004 at 10:25 AM
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scriber
thnak you
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 10:18 AM
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Symp--you are staying firm and strong...good going luv. Scriber
posted by
scriber
on September 2, 2004 at 10:14 AM
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YOU take care too sweetie ~
posted by
MariVye
on September 2, 2004 at 10:13 AM
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MariVye
thank you so much, it is so nice to hear that I am doing something right, even though it don't feel right now
thank you so much for everything, you are wonderful, take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 10:11 AM
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Symphony, I believe that showing love to your kids will never mess their heads up. If you make decisions based on your love for them, with their future in mind, and with the mindset of making them good people then you cannot go wrong. You are doing well ~
posted by
MariVye
on September 2, 2004 at 10:06 AM
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MariVye
thnak you so much, I have a problem with guilt, I am worrying about what my children will think of me later on in life, I don't want to mess there heads up, it is so hard.........thank you so much for your support.....take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 10:02 AM
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man-boy
yes I think I do need to see a councellor to pour my heart out to them, but I have a problem with speaking out thats why I choose to write how I feel, I really do need some sort of help, but I have no confidence...
thank you so much for your concern you are wonderful........take care...hope you are ok?
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 10:00 AM
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ltlmac70
thank you so much for caring and for being so very kind, it is so hard to be strong all the time, I don't like them seeing me upset, but sometimes it is to hard not to show emotion.......thank you so much for everything
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 9:58 AM
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Symphony - You have received such good and solid advice, I don't have much to add. I just wanted to drop in and extended my support and sympathy. You will be just fine and so will the kids. You are a smart girl and will do what is right for your children because you love them. Do tell them that often and show them in the ways you know they will feel loved. They may not understand what you are doing in relation to this man, but they won't need to question your love for them if you shower them with it and THAT is more important.
Keep singing - you are awesome ~
posted by
MariVye
on September 2, 2004 at 9:58 AM
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RachelAnna
thank you so much, you sound like you know this from experience.............I really hope it will be ok, I really do, thank you so much for everything, you are wonderful..........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 9:55 AM
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wow WHAMENATOR
thank you...........I better get doing that as soon as possible.............thank you so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 9:52 AM
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ladyofshalott
thank you so much for your support and encouragement, I feel so fed up....thank you so much I will be as honest as I can to my children I just hate to hurt them, but nothing is going to stop that........thank you take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 9:51 AM
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Hi Symphony. Have you found a counselor?
We know that you are right to hold your husband at arms length until you know what you want. But you might need help sorting out what is possible and what is not possible. Someone standing outside the situation can help you see possibilities that you may not even have suspected exit. Take care. You deserve better. Your kids too.
posted by
man-boy
on September 2, 2004 at 9:47 AM
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Sometimes doing what's right...
is the hardest thing to do. Talking from experience...there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. Don't let anyone push you around or question your decisions. You're in charge now, remember that when you start to feel weak. Your kids will not hold this against you later on, when they can, they will understand. Good luck with all you have on your plate...and hug the kiddies from all of us here who care!!
Write On! ltlmac70 wuz here...
posted by
superflymom119
on September 2, 2004 at 9:46 AM
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You're just doing your job...
Sure, your kids are angry and confused because the man they have known for so long isn't an every day part of their life. Who could blame them?
Only problem is that man doesn't really exist anymore, like you say. So, it's your job to protect them from the man he has become. Don't worry about being blamed in the future. It doesn't matter if it's this or a million other things, you are their mother so you will be blamed for plenty. Just keep in mind why you are doing the things you do, and in time, they'll understand your side of it all, too.
Just be patient. In time these kind of situations get a bit easier to deal with.
posted by
RachelAnna
on September 2, 2004 at 9:45 AM
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SYMPHONY....GET THE FORMAL LEGAL CUSTODIAL PAPERWORK ASAP
Do it now and don't delay. Then it is not whenever they want, it is according to court order!
Also, bear in mind that there is no law in kidnapping one's own child. Don't delay in getting to court!
Call your lawyer!!!!!!
Luv,
Whammie 
posted by
WHAMENATOR
on September 2, 2004 at 9:44 AM
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Symphony
dear girl, I am so sorry for you. I think though that this will have to be resolved legally. Just for your safety, and slight peace of mind. Yea your kids are suffering, and they don't understand, right now. Just try to explain the best you can and be open when they want to talk, but try not to say anything bad about him to them. Just say daddy is sick and he isn't good to be around you guys right now. Or something. I'm so sorry for you. good Luck.
posted by
ladyofshalott
on September 2, 2004 at 9:40 AM
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MiaElla
thank you ever so much for your kind words..........its very difficult right now, but its people like you who keep me going...............thank you so much
posted by
_Symphony_
on September 2, 2004 at 9:38 AM
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Oh, Symphony
I wish there was something I could do.
Keep your chin up...there are happier days ahead I'm sure of it. Much
posted by
MiaElla
on September 2, 2004 at 9:36 AM
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