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Yes, thank you very much for all your comments in my posts. My blogs were pretty lonely until you came along.
You take care too. I think children are better contributors of unconditional love to us. May be you can look at your kids and be happy.
posted by
mariantonia
on July 24, 2004 at 3:30 PM
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mariantonia
I wrote in your comments..............thank you..........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 2:48 PM
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Hi. I read this post much earlier but didn't comment as I was waiting to read the others' feedback. Is there anyone who has some influence over your husband? Is there some forceful way to make him attend AA meetings?
Please read my post and join in the prayer circle here. Thanks for participating.
posted by
mariantonia
on July 24, 2004 at 2:37 PM
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man-boy
thank you I will try....................look after yourself.....................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 10:43 AM
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You are so welcome Symphony sister
We only keep what we have by giving it away. it all boils down to love for our fellow human beings. You will do what you need to do. Find your Higher Power dear heart!
posted by
man-boy
on July 24, 2004 at 10:41 AM
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man-boy
also, that is brilliant that you have a sponser, I am sure it will give you more determination.............well done.....you are doing great..............stay positive...............lots of love
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 10:33 AM
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man-boy
that is exactley how I feel....very tired and discouraged, and my reason is he wont help himself, how do I show him he has a problem, if he wont admit it himself, I would go to the meetings we have an AA here, but he wont come with me, i really do want to help him and get our marriage back on track, but I am not sure how much I can really take. or should take.
thanks again for your advice and support, you say that you cant offer advice, but really you are the best one to, because i have been told all addictions are the same for all the same need of control. so I think you may even know where he is coming from...............anyway thanks again..............I have got a lot to learn......or do I leave.....................who knows........................thank you .............take care, you are a wonderful friend
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 10:32 AM
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Hi Symphony
You must look into yourself. You cannot change your husband. I would suggest that you find out where your nearest al-anon meeting is and talk to someone there. You don't even need to attend a meeting right away. They have phone councillors over here. I am sure they must do in your part of the world too. You don't sound like you are beyond caring. To me you sound tired and discouraged. Alcoholism is a problem bigger than one person or one family. All of the steps to sanity begin with that all important word "WE". We are not alone. We are not meant to be alone. We are very social creatures and addiction is a disease of isolation that was killing me. Please don't give up. I find it hard to give advice because I was a steady drug user for many years.
Now I have a sponsor. Last night he started me on Step one: 'We admitted we were powerless over our addiction and our lives had become unmanageable.' I have been to six meetings in five days. I keep going back because it works. 
posted by
man-boy
on July 24, 2004 at 10:26 AM
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scriber
thanks scriber for the encouragement, yes his drinking has become so much worse, thanks for reading and commenting..................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 6:50 AM
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Whim
thank you ever so much, that is so nice of you to go out of your way to help me, I will read them all and hopefully get some ideas........thank you so much you are great for doing that for me, much appreciated, have a nice weekend take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 6:38 AM
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hi Symp--there's nothing worse than an alcoholic; your husband is close
to that is sounds like; he just can't make it without drinking it seems. You are doing the best you can sweet. love Scriber
posted by
scriber
on July 24, 2004 at 6:33 AM
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Start Here
http://www.recovery.org/aa/ - lots of resource listings
http://www.al-anon.org/ - Al Anon is specifically designed for loved ones of alcoholics.
http://www.ola-is.org/ - online al anon resources
A psychologist would definitely be of service too.
posted by
Whim
on July 24, 2004 at 6:29 AM
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tbgroucho
thank you for reading and for stopping by...........I will catch up with you soon...............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 6:28 AM
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maxine
i must be going, sorry, take care tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on July 24, 2004 at 6:26 AM
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Gheeghee
thank you for your support..............have a lovely weekend..............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 6:24 AM
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symphony
good luck girlfriend....been there!
posted by
Gheeghee
on July 24, 2004 at 6:20 AM
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Whim
I know I need to help myself first but that is what I am trying to say, I just don't know what I need to do. in order to help me, and help him, I was kinda hoping for some advice.............I am out of answers......take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 24, 2004 at 6:20 AM
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Does the word "enabler" mean anything to you? Be careful how you help him. Sometimes what you consider helping him get off the booze is actually giving him permission to continue. Like when he gets pissy and you tell him to drink.
If you really want to help him, you need to help yourself first and learn the right way to go about it.
posted by
Whim
on July 24, 2004 at 6:13 AM
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