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scotthalasz
thank you very much.............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 25, 2004 at 4:43 AM
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lovin your work
i love ur work could u check out my brown sugar blog. its under romance and sex. let me know what u think.
posted by
scotthalasz
on July 25, 2004 at 4:35 AM
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Jay9
thank you very much...........you are very kind...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 21, 2004 at 10:13 AM
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WileyCoyote
lol.................I got to get stronger............thanks for the advice and for sharing.......take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 21, 2004 at 10:12 AM
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DancesWithWords
I sure hope so thank you for your concern...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 21, 2004 at 10:11 AM
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scriber
no....I have put him on punishment............lol..........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 21, 2004 at 10:11 AM
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Hey Symph! Sorry you are going through this! I can't even imagine it!
Hope it gets better, but if it gets worse you need to think about what you ahve to do! All the best! *HUGS*
posted by
Jay9
on July 21, 2004 at 7:20 AM
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SYMPHONY
The very best help you can give him is to leave him!! There, from a recoevring alcoholic 36+ years sober, and I got that way because my first wife had the "balls" to do that.
Yeah, women have balls, they're just higher up. Good luck kiddo!!
posted by
WileyJohn
on July 21, 2004 at 5:28 AM
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Symphony--
I am sorry to hear about this--- good luck with it all, I hope it gets better soon! Maybe he will see how stupid he gets!
posted by
DancesWithWords
on July 20, 2004 at 8:40 PM
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Hi symp--did you get any make-up sex? love Scriber
posted by
scriber
on July 20, 2004 at 7:49 AM
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SanitySlipping
thank you so much, thanks for understanding and given me wonderful advice...........I really need to do something.........thank you take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 20, 2004 at 4:45 AM
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VIVA_LA_KATZE
thank you for your advice, and thank you for sharing ...........have a nice day...take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 20, 2004 at 4:44 AM
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Looks like everyone got their 2 cents in
And here's mine. You be strong. Decide what is best for you and your kids. And stick to it. I went through something like this years ago and made my decision to stick it out - for a while. It then became too much for even me and I had to leave. She wouldn't get help, she didn't see she needed help. But I knew I couldn't help her, standing by doing nothing and watching it. I had to help myself. So you decide. Weigh everything, and then stick to it. Nothing else matters except You and your Kids. Be strong, okay?
posted by
SanitySlipping
on July 19, 2004 at 4:41 PM
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Life with some one that drinks in excess is very difficult
My father was like that and I lived with a man with the same problems
Wonderful when sobber but obnoxious pigs when drunk
Leave him because it won't get better
Cheers VIVA
posted by
VIVA_LA_KATZE
on July 19, 2004 at 4:30 PM
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mariantonia
thank you I understand......................take care...................will try...........
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 3:48 PM
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Yes. Make a list of all the suggested actions here. Try them out 1 at a time. A perfect man is impossible to find. There may still be hopes for salvation from the brink of the drink. We must be shining beacons of light in times of distress.
posted by
mariantonia
on July 19, 2004 at 3:45 PM
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ROFL chris2303
ok how about washing the windows and taking the rubbish out?
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 2:05 PM
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Well, if you're looking for me to do some banging then I'll have to warn
you that I'm crap at putting up shelves and fixing doors.
posted by
chris2303
on July 19, 2004 at 2:02 PM
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chris2303
thats fine...............I only need you to do a couple of things thats a bit hard for me to do........lol
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 1:59 PM
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SYMPHONY
Haha, not bloodylikely, I'm as bent as a three pound note, luvvy. Haha
posted by
chris2303
on July 19, 2004 at 1:57 PM
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chris2303
thank you so much...........hey what a sensible answer that was...are you ok?...........lol...............I know I know I know............i'm going to leave one day and you chris will take his place ........is that ok?....take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 1:48 PM
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SYMPHONY
Oh, well it's only too easy for any one of us to tell you what we
think you should do. The thing is, mate, only you can decide when you've had enough, and only you can decide what to do about it. But good luck with whatever decision you come to.
posted by
chris2303
on July 19, 2004 at 1:44 PM
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AngieK
thank you so much............sometimes I want to kill him too, im a fool to put up with his crap........thank you for reading and commenting.............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 12:09 PM
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No wonder you sound so down.
What an ass your man is. I'm sorry, but I would have probably killed your husband if I was you. Not that I'm perfect, but geez. What a total lack of self-control. You are so nice to him. I wish you luck, take care Symphony
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on July 19, 2004 at 12:04 PM
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scriber
you are very much right............he can be a right asshole and have times of being so nice .....he is very very very difficult..............thanks for reading and commenting...............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 11:55 AM
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hi Symphony--Descriptive horror story. A Jerk who must be tolerated yet
at times probably is quite nice. A difficult man. love s.
posted by
scriber
on July 19, 2004 at 11:52 AM
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Reservoir_Writer
thank you so much for your wonderful kind considerate comment, you are a wonderful kind person thank you so much, im ok I always am I just don't know what to do right now but I will...........I just need to figure out where everything started to go wrong..............thank you so much for everything...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 11:43 AM
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Symphony -
This is a horrible time you are going through and I wish you the best (for you and for your kids). Sometimes the best thing to do is move on. You don't want your kids to see him smashing up all that stuff. And what will stop him from hurting you - or your kids?
But then again, love always stops us, doesn't it? If you love him and you believe he loves you, then perhaps you can work through this.
I don't have any other advice than that. But I can promise you this: you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. It's a rough situation and people, even nice, considerate people like you, can only be pushed so far.
Take care, ok? and please keep us posted!
posted by
Reservoir_Writer
on July 19, 2004 at 11:40 AM
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RachelAnna
thank you and don't I know the rough times.....I will get over it..its just so hard to pack up and leave just like that, but I know someone can only take so much..............the time will come..........thank you so much for everything..............take care you are so kind and caring
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:54 AM
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man-boy
thank you so much for your wonderful advice. you are most kind.
as for you please don't feel that your a failure it is ok to have some set backs...you are still doing brilliant well done for being so honest. you are a wonderful person and you can do this. take care of yourself.....love symphony
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:52 AM
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Just remember to do what feels right to you.
Some people may pack their stuff up and go, others may not. Don't let their judgements get to you, as they don't live in your shoes. Go with your heart and you'll live in peace knowing you have done what is truly right for you, your family, and your situation. We all go through rough times..
posted by
RachelAnna
on July 19, 2004 at 10:51 AM
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Hi Symphony sister.
Thanks for your welcome back. I see some of your husband's behavior in mine. I am not violent or into destruction but I did leave my wife to worry about things we both should have been adressing. She is in Al-Anon now. It is helping her a lot to see that my drug addiction is not her burden to bear. She has to weigh what consequences she will live with and those she will not live with. You do too Symphony. You need help. Your freinds on Blogit are here for you and I especially am thankful for your continued support. No one should have to live with someone smashing up their home. We are not meant to barbarians. Anger that your husband is showing could easily erupt suddenly when you have the children there to protect.
I have smoked pot again. I am going back to abstinence though, with renewed confidence. You know that alcohol is a poisin for your husband and family. Good luck Symphony. Love you!
posted by
man-boy
on July 19, 2004 at 10:46 AM
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RachelAnna
I know that you are right, I really do thank you so much for your advice...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:46 AM
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tbgroucho
thank you so much.............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:45 AM
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harveyg736
thank you very much...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:45 AM
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Gheeghee
thank you so much, if I was honest that is what I want to do but im scared.....he will never leave me alone, especially when he is drunk he will be causing me avoc............I just want a nice peaceful life...why is that so much to ask..............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:45 AM
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Laura-V
thank you..........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:43 AM
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Original_Influence
its nice someone can relate and feel my frustration but still its not on is it?.................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:43 AM
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mariantonia
thankyou very much this is wonderful advice.........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 10:42 AM
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It's your choice...
but you've got to be careful of the example he's setting for your children. Even if they weren't there to see or hear it, they aren't stupid and are fare more perceptive than we give them credit for. Please be careful and try to make the right decision for your family, whatever that may be. Good luck
posted by
RachelAnna
on July 19, 2004 at 9:50 AM
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take care of yourself, honey. tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on July 19, 2004 at 9:05 AM
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Symphony,
GG's got it right! Take the kids and get out. Maybe he'll eventually get some help -- he needs it.
But, of course, as meriamne said, its your choice -- noone can make it for you! 
posted by
HarveyG
on July 19, 2004 at 8:55 AM
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Symphony,
Take those babies and get the hell out. Don't speak to him until he gets his ass sober. You, honey, sweet friend and super-kind heart, deserves a man that will treat you like a lady~a queen....take care hon, GG
posted by
Gheeghee
on July 19, 2004 at 8:35 AM
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I am sorry, Symphony, that you have to go through this.
posted by
Laura-V
on July 19, 2004 at 7:37 AM
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Symphony,
If you and he are lucky, one day, something will happen or someone, like a child, will say something that makes him want to stop. Until then, hang in...you are very smart..you have already figured out that he will do what he will do...especially the smashing up part...mine does that sober. Good luck!
posted by
Original_Influence
on July 19, 2004 at 5:14 AM
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How about starting a prayer circle for curing alcoholics?
posted by
mariantonia
on July 19, 2004 at 3:41 AM
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Try recording down costs of damages, cost of liquor consumed at home, cost of pub bills, cost of alcohol induced expenses. (per month) What will he say to that?
posted by
mariantonia
on July 19, 2004 at 3:39 AM
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mariantonia
thank you...yes there is AA but he won't admit he has a problem so he refuses to go, I have tried getting to ring AA as well but he tells me I am being silly........how do I make him see he has a problem, it is so obvious yet he does not see it..........WHY?
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 3:18 AM
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Is there an Alcoholics Anonymous Association around your area? Persuade him gently with love. Accompany him if he's shy. Or seek help from other sources. Shouting only makes another angier. There are many steps towards cures. I believe if we do some positives, there will be results. 
posted by
mariantonia
on July 19, 2004 at 3:16 AM
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Meriamne
thank you so much, I know he has a problem, but he won't admit it.....nothing I can do, I wish you could come here too, men huh? ..............why do we bother....................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 19, 2004 at 3:15 AM
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Symphony,
I won't tell you what to do, because that is for you alone to decide. I will tell you, however, that like my husband with his addiction to sex, your husband will never give up drink without professional help. The addiction is so strong that he is willing to put himself, his marriage, and everything else at risk to get it. It's not your fault.
I wish I could hop on a plane right now and be with you. Lord knows I need a break from this madhouse, too!
Best of luck to you,
Meriamne
posted by
myrrhage_
on July 19, 2004 at 3:05 AM
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