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THAT IS SO WEIRD JAY
I HAVE JUST WROTE ANOTHER POST FOR IT...........AND I USE THEM WORDS AND DID NOT KNOW YOU DID.....................WEIRD....thank you but im hoping everything is going to be ok ...take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 18, 2004 at 5:13 AM
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I think I am a few hours behind here. You probably should have given it to
him after the game. Now all you can do is wait and see if he follows up on what he said when he apologised. His actions will speak louder than his words. I hope it all works out!
posted by
Jay9
on June 18, 2004 at 5:06 AM
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SUGARBABY
thanks for sharing and reading and commenting..............have a great day and take care .............
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 18, 2004 at 3:11 AM
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A PISSY LITTLE HUSBAND
Don't worry Maxine, my husband does that to me as well. But I learn to live with it. The thing is you can't help but love him, as along as he knows that, than you will have no problem with him. I think men were born just to be lazy anyway.
posted by
SUGARBABY
on June 18, 2004 at 3:09 AM
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mysteria
anytime...you are great
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 18, 2004 at 3:03 AM
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man-boy
hello what do you mean what happened? how are you today?
have a great day..............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 18, 2004 at 2:59 AM
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well done StrickGold
thanks for sharing, reading and commenting.................take care and enjoy your day
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 18, 2004 at 2:59 AM
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What happened here?
posted by
man-boy
on June 17, 2004 at 9:10 PM
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Good Luck to you
| i too have written the letter. I am truly blessed because my husband stopped what he was doing and admitted that he has had tunnel vision, apologized and now all I have to do is say: You have a case of tunnel vision. Good Luck to you |
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posted by
StrickGold
on June 17, 2004 at 7:54 PM
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thanks for checking in ;^) myst.
posted by
mysteria
on June 17, 2004 at 6:45 PM
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That is good. I think it implies he is saddled with work / other problems. Do you have a spy for you at his office? Try to find out what is bothering him.
Try to engage him in enjoyable fatherhood activities. Get the kids to play with him for a few minutes daily. Just a very short while for the introduction period. If he's bringing home work related stress then he needs to relax & forget about work at home. The kids may bring him around in an about turn.
posted by
mariantonia
on June 17, 2004 at 3:56 PM
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RIGHT............ EVERYONE I AM GOING TO LOVE YOU AND LEAVE YOU
have a great night.......keep writing and I will catch up with you all tomorrow..........thank you everyone for everything you are all great. I love you all
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 2:37 PM
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hello sue
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 2:35 PM
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hello maxine........
posted by
Star5_
on June 17, 2004 at 12:12 PM
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thanks tbgroucho
you are great..................thank you for everything....................here is
for you as a thank you...................take care
thanks for reading and commenting
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 11:15 AM
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Maxine -- again lots of good advice from the gang
good for your for writing your letter down and giving to him. Hope he's able to respond, but I bet it won't be easy. Honesty is better than humiliation (as you contemplated in your other post). Let us know -- we're all here with shoulders for you (groucho sends a few leers in your direction, too
)tg
posted by
tbgroucho
on June 17, 2004 at 10:57 AM
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THANKS scriber
I will keep that in mind..................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 10:54 AM
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symphony--no drastic action; calm, reason, be the adult in mind and body.
posted by
scriber
on June 17, 2004 at 10:49 AM
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EccentricShock
I know deep down you are right.....them thoughts have crossed my mind..........im giving him one more chance...to speak out and 3 days is my limit....if nothing happens then I will have to take drastic action as this has gone on long enough.
thank you for reading and commenting and sharing.................im so confused
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 10:43 AM
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thank you scriber
again it is great to hear from a mans point of veiw.........I will take your advice ..........but 3 days is my limit ..if he don't speak out about it then...I will then have to push him..........or is this wrong.......I hate being confused lol take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 10:41 AM
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THANK YOU SO MUCH man-boy
it is great to hear from you.......its nice to hear a mans point of veiw especially as you can relate to ....thank you so much again for your advice, sharing, reading and commenting and also for all your support and encouragment.........you are a great friend thank you again
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 10:39 AM
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maxine, the 2 guys below are not like your man
He seems so much like my ex, so my advice is bias. He is not thinking about you. I am so sorry for you. He needs a serious wake up call. You have 2 kids he thinks haha she is stuck with me so fuck her I will do what I want. He doesn't seem to deserve you or show interest in the children. RElease him, if he comes back to you - great!
However, I have been in the cast and release - it usually just doesn't work. He needs to want it, unfortunately some men think they do want it, it happens, they want to escape. They are like tigers in heat, they desire to be on the prowl. I probably should have left this one alone.
xoxoxoxoxo
posted by
EccentricShock
on June 17, 2004 at 10:39 AM
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Good thought scriber.
He doesn't need to feel pushed because then he can justify more withdrawal.
posted by
man-boy
on June 17, 2004 at 10:33 AM
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maxine, don't push. you have told him how you feel. let him think about
it. he's probably thinking about it even as he watches the match on telly. Wait at least two or three days and if he hasn't mentioned it, bring it up again, maybe at dinner, and just say, 'Have you thought about my feelings and my desire to talk thinks out when we have problems." something like that. keep it low key, no shouting or anger. love you frank.
posted by
scriber
on June 17, 2004 at 10:31 AM
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It may take some time Symphony.
He may really feel like an idiot! As he is siiting there not talking I bet his mind is going a million miles a minute first coming to terms weith his behavior and really feeling bad but as he gets more alcohol on he will probably find it easier to justify his behavior in his own mind. This was the cycle I used to go through. It has taken total abstinence for me to get this far. I don't want to advise you. I can only think of how lonely my wife has felt when I was shutting her out while actually wishing I could talk. I always knew the subject of addiction could not be far away. Perhaps your hubs knows or thinks he has a problem but beer with the boys is hard for him to imagine giving up. I really hope you find some relief for you and your family. Sooner, rather than later. Take care my freind!
posted by
man-boy
on June 17, 2004 at 10:27 AM
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