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- Add a comment
- Go to HE IS NOT HAVING SEX WITH ME ANYMORE,DOES ANYONE WANT TO TAKE HIS PLACE?
THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH..........DO YOU KNOW HOW LOVED I FEEL
RIGHT NOW...........BECAUSE OFALL OF YOU WONDERFUL FRIENDS,
SO MUCH SUPPORT AND ADVICE I HAVE HAD.............I CAN NOT THANK YOU ENOUGH.............YOU ARE ALL BRILLIANT AND I LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH..........THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU..............THERE IS SO MANY PEOPLE WHO CARE.
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:19 AM
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LOL......................The_Joo
anytime, anywhere..........................you name it I be there.....................LOL
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:17 AM
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thank you mariantonia
I soon will tell you............take care and thanks for reading and commenting
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:16 AM
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thank you thebuxomwench
very nice of you to read and comment.....take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:15 AM
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why thank you so much RAYS_OF_ME
you are the best blogit sister a girl could ever have................take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:15 AM
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David1Spirit
thanks for sharing, reading and commenting.........it is very nice of you
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:14 AM
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good idea Moondawg
thats a good idea............thanks for reading and commenting take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:13 AM
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Original_Influence
thanks for commenting and reading.................so sweet
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:13 AM
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thank you Ca88andra
for your wonderful advice and for reading and commenting...........it is very nice of you............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:12 AM
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LOL shavonne
thanks for commenting and reading and for wanting to share your all with me................
lol
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 17, 2004 at 9:11 AM
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getting any bootie yet
Maxine, I'm a size 7 shoe. fit????? still offering the sex. lol- the joo
posted by
The_Joo
on June 17, 2004 at 6:32 AM
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Please tell us the latest development. Hope something more positive happens. Take care.
posted by
mariantonia
on June 17, 2004 at 6:14 AM
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All the very, very best to you, Sweet Symphony ...
posted by
Moohahaha
on June 17, 2004 at 12:08 AM
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Wow is it a chat room in here???
I want to thank everyone here for giving my beatiful, caring blogit sister excellent advice and support... for she really deserves it.
Tell us what happens tomorrow when he comes home from work!
Love ya X
XX
posted by
RAYS_OF_ME
on June 17, 2004 at 12:03 AM
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Been there too!
Just try to talk about it. Worked for me a while back. Wife was getting a little too involved in her families problems and our "private time" suffered. After a good long talk, we were back on track. Good Luck and God Bless! 
posted by
David1Spirit
on June 16, 2004 at 8:48 PM
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What a stir you have going
here it seems that all of the city of blogit has gathered in your support. Perhaps you should print out all of these comments and the ones from your last post and see what he thinks about that.
posted by
Moondawg
on June 16, 2004 at 7:05 PM
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Symphony,
argh, I wish I could give you some good advice but I am so mad at my own mate this nite that all I can do is say I care...and offer to express mail my male to you...but that might be doing a miservice to you, altho he certainly would think it was agift! Good luck to ya!
posted by
Original_Influence
on June 16, 2004 at 4:40 PM
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Symphony - everyone has given you so much good advice, but I just had to put my two cents in. When you do talk to him, remember males communicate in a different way. They are much more direct and to the point, whereas females tend to be far more descriptive and detailed. I've been told males would prefer if females made their points in a male way - just say what you are thinking, then stop talking and have a drink with them! lol
posted by
Ca88andra
on June 16, 2004 at 4:03 PM
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Everything will work out. YOu just need to have that chat. Just remember why you got married in the first place.
By the way, if I had a penis, I would gladly share it with you.
posted by
Shavonne
on June 16, 2004 at 4:01 PM
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sound's promising INEXILE
anytime what?
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 3:07 PM
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anytime
posted by
INEXILE
on June 16, 2004 at 3:01 PM
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I think I did'nt
but you did
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 2:30 PM
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I did. . . but did you?
posted by
RICKYJFICO_PASSIONTHRU_U
on June 16, 2004 at 2:29 PM
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no......... did you?
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 2:27 PM
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Did you really say that?
posted by
RICKYJFICO_PASSIONTHRU_U
on June 16, 2004 at 2:27 PM
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LOL Ricky_J_Fico
you can take his place any day...............put it in the trash..............oops did I say that?
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 2:11 PM
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tbgroucho yes I feel so loved
but please share all..........I would love to know...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 2:10 PM
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Maxine, I'll take his place. I don't know where I'll be taking it to but that's beside the point!
posted by
RICKYJFICO_PASSIONTHRU_U
on June 16, 2004 at 1:58 PM
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maxine
i hope you see from all this advice how much people here care! I know you do, but I must say I'm impressed and it's nice to know people are here. I don't have much else to add, though I had several suggestions, some quite lewd, of course, but others quite sweet. You can choose which ones you'd prefer. xotg
posted by
tbgroucho
on June 16, 2004 at 1:54 PM
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its ok RAYS_OF_ME
I know you would not ignore me
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 1:41 PM
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thanks tremacc
for the advice........I will ...............have a great day..............
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 1:38 PM
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lol .................JOO
sounds good...........first thing for everything and all...............can I lend your boots? what size are you?
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 1:37 PM
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LOL, MY BAD. Well then by all means, please proceed.
But I do hope that you take some time out for yourself. You and only you. Have a great day.
posted by
Tremac
on June 16, 2004 at 11:46 AM
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I'll hump ya
All you have to do is ask. Also I have some of those boots', you were explaining in your story, they have heels, which go in asses well, if you know what I mean. LOL- the joo
posted by
The_Joo
on June 16, 2004 at 11:26 AM
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Maxine I can't get to AIM for some reason...
I was wondering why after ten minutes you didn't answer my question of what the e-mail was for. LOL. I think the router went out let me keep trying. Don't worry though I'm not ignoring you.
posted by
RAYS_OF_ME
on June 16, 2004 at 10:38 AM
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thanks scriber
you are very kind.............thanks for reading and commenting........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 10:31 AM
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hi symphony--the ass doesn't know when he's well off. s
posted by
scriber
on June 16, 2004 at 10:30 AM
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man-boy
thank you ever so much to hear from a mans point of veiw makes me feel so much better, if I was honest I would also say that our relationship did change when our children came along, it was more of a strain, and with everything that has happened recently........maybe it is taking its toll now. I write away how I feel, where I think he drinks his stresses away, but its hard to understand him because its only since we moved here 2 and half weeks ago that he has been going to pub, before this he would buy drinks and get out of it in doors......so I am not sure why the change.but I must find out and I am going to write him a letter, he should be home at 6 tonight which is in an hour, so who knows what will happen.........thank you ever so much for sharing, reading , commenting and all your advice......thank you ever so much for the encouragment and the compliments, you truly are the best..............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 9:18 AM
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Good morning Symphony.
Communication problems. Boy have I been there. I am so glad I gave my wife my password here so she could read this journal. It is very hard for us to talk without assuming so much that is not really there. Well chosen words can open many doors to understanding. I like the idea of a letter. If he is holding this heart-felt message from you about the fears that trouble you perhaps it will at least make him start thinking about opening up to what is bothering him. I realize now that I really started turning into a prick when we were about to have our first child. That little boy inside me that I didn't understand wanted to still have some time alone with the only source of love he had ever known. I wanted a family and children but at some primal level a part of me was angry that I would not have first claim to that nurture I felt when with my wife. I don't feel this way now and I want to do anything I can to recover that deep sense of intimacy WE lost by crawling back into my addictions.
Tkae care you wonderful person.
posted by
man-boy
on June 16, 2004 at 9:08 AM
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thanks tremacc
but its actually me who is doing the withholding to punish him...............I think writing him a letter would be my best bet as I find it difficult to express how I feel thank you tremacc for your advice for reading and commenting.............you are all brilliant I can not thank you all enough....you are all my special friends.......thanks
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 7:23 AM
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Symphony, please don't assume. Their minds work in such different ways. Sounds like he may use the drinking as a coping mechanism. Also, guys can use withholding sex as a way to make them feel more powerful and in control when they know that this is something that the woman is wanting. Especially when they are feeling powerless. Ari's right. Talk to him or at least write a letter to one another. Writing it down sometimes sorts out the feelings more. Also, you should take time out to get away from the house and do something for yourself. Leave the kids with him sometimes. For once. Take up dance at the local community center or just go window shopping or for a walk through the park. Alone. You need this. If you still feel like it then, go ahead and hike up that skirt and PARTY, lol!
posted by
Tremac
on June 16, 2004 at 7:18 AM
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LOL ..........Ariala
is that a polite way of putting it?..........
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 7:03 AM
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thanks Meriamne
it is 3pm here.............thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom, I loved your ideas I was sitting here giggling to myself whilst reading them, I like the part about curlers and the nappy bit.......it be great to do that.
if he don't come home after work today, then I have promised myself that I will defiently go to the pub to get him home because im not being a door mat anymore............thanks for reading, commenting, all your advice and for all your encouragement...........it means a great deal........thank you take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 7:02 AM
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Symphony, not all men do this. Some just don't seem to have the verbal
tools to meet a woman's satisfaction.
posted by
Ariala
on June 16, 2004 at 7:00 AM
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Mornin' Symphony,
Well, I guess it's evening where you are.
I like your idea of showing up at the pub with the kids the best. Don't humiliate him though (the wife and kids showing up in his "domain" is embarrassing enough). Just sit down, serve him his dinner, cut his steak up in little pieces like you would for a kid, have a little chat, give the kids some change for games and let them run rampant...
You get the idea. Better yet, show up in your nightgown and curlers. Give him an idea of all the joys he is missing at home. Plop the littlest one down on his lap with soggy drawers and hand him the diaper bag. Right there on the bar!! That would be a real hoot! God, I wish I was there. I would show up with you in my pyjamas too lol.
Good luck babes. You'll make it yet, I just know it! You've got too much pride to let him get you down.
Muah!!!
Meriamne
posted by
myrrhage_
on June 16, 2004 at 6:57 AM
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thanks Ariala
you are right it is not an answer, I need to do something that will make him listen, I want him to talk to me openly what is actually bothering him, but he never does.....why do men do that?
thanks for your advice for reading and commenting...............take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 6:53 AM
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AngieK
yes he is taking advantage of me..............but I know full well he is not cheating ..............thank you for commenting....take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 6:51 AM
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thanks mariantonia
you always give great advice and answers I always look forward to hearing what you got to say on everything..you are very sensible and straight to the point thank you...........take care
posted by
_Symphony_
on June 16, 2004 at 6:49 AM
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Symphony, I'm sorry you're experiencing such turmoil, but withholding sex
is not anymore an answer than it is for you to find someone else. You guys have to talk through this and you need to find out what's really going on. I wish you the best.
posted by
Ariala
on June 16, 2004 at 6:47 AM
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I think he is cheating.
Maybe you should outright ask him, only because men require sex. I am so sorry you are going through this crap, he is totally taking advantage of you and it is disrespectful of him.
posted by
Flumpystalls3000
on June 16, 2004 at 6:45 AM
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I'm sorry to read about the troubles but I agree with your intended course of action. I've heard that a public show-down at the pub may shame a man in front of his mates & put him off his irresponsibility. Also his drinking peers may exert some peer pressure on him & shoo him away next time he loiters there. All your other ideas are also good.
I say hurray for you. Talk, action, strategies, manipulation are all good recourse. There is nothing seriously wrong yet in your marriage except for communication problem. It is worth fighting for its survival & happiness. A man is not that fickle minded in love. The love that was past will be rekindled. One step at a time. Let's see how all your actions work out. All the best.
posted by
mariantonia
on June 16, 2004 at 6:41 AM
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