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- Go to Confronting the "bear" who raided my campground!!
Dr-Bob, thanks for your comment.
posted by
Julia.
on June 13, 2004 at 7:05 PM
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We get some real upset people in the clinic sometimes and if they are
approached as you approached your "Bear" they more often then not calm down and become sensible again. I think you did the right thing even though it might have been difficult.
posted by
Dr-Bob
on June 13, 2004 at 5:03 PM
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passionista, thanks. I hope it will, too.
posted by
Julia.
on June 9, 2004 at 10:16 AM
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Great response Quirkyalone! Just great. I'm sure it'll work in your favor.
posted by
passionista
on June 9, 2004 at 4:28 AM
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Passionplate, I think you have him pegged.
Are you a child psychologist? If not, you should be!
posted by
Julia.
on June 8, 2004 at 4:09 PM
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faranya, you're so right. Compassion does heal,
and in my experience, both the recipient and the giver benefit.
posted by
Julia.
on June 8, 2004 at 4:08 PM
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I believe your actions were honorable and I would've acted pretty much in the same way. Maybe that's all that boy needed - who knows what kind of life he had at home . . . Sometimes people do things (like stealing) to get attention. You see, I'm willing to bet that the kid gets chastised and yelled at at home even for the good deeds he does and the more he's yelled at the more he'd rebel and do negative things like stealing. You see, he didn't steal because he was hungry, he worked at a cafe for darned sake. The boy was reaching out and you responded in a way contrary to what he was used to. This could well be the beginning of his turnaround.
posted by
RICKYJFICO_PASSIONTHRU_U
on June 8, 2004 at 3:01 PM
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Compassion goes a long way toward healing. You have just reassured this young man that he's both valued and worth noticing. What an uplifting read! Thank you.
posted by
faranya
on June 8, 2004 at 2:52 PM
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CabinFever, great insights...
and I hope you are right about the last part.
posted by
Julia.
on June 8, 2004 at 1:17 PM
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one way or the other...you did good...
I think a lot of kids today expect to be "attacked" and kindness is something they are not too familiar with, especially from strangers. Their armor is generally up, and intact, because of experiences up to that point in time. His humility is a huge sign that he is not a lost cause and you may have been the first person to take that kind of gamble with him....with any luck he will "pay it forward" and realize how good it can feel....
posted by
CabinFever1555
on June 8, 2004 at 1:13 PM
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